Building Godly Relationships #1
Building Godly relationships
By Pastor George Lehman
We are so caught up in our own worlds; we don’t really go out of our way to build godly relationships.
(All things being equal, the likable person wins.
But all things not being equal, the likable person still wins.)
INTRO:
A Japanese Christian man had just irrigated his rice field the previous day. It was very important at that time of the year to keep his field standing in water. The next day, however, when we went to check on his field, all the water was gone. After looking around a bit, he discovered that his neighbor just down the hill had broken the dividing wall between their fields and drained the water into his own.
This infuriated the man, so he went to consult with his pastor as to what to do. Proverbs 15:22 (Msg) - Refuse good advice, and watch your plans fail, take good counsel and watch them succeed.
The pastor advised the man to ignore the wrong done to him, repair the wall, and continue to flood his field again. The man did as his pastor advised. The following day, however, the neighbor had once again drained the man’s water into his own field.
After three days of this, the man, in a rage, went again to his pastor and asked what he should do. After thinking for a moment, the pastor told the man to water his neighbor’s field first, and then do his own. The man returned home and did as the pastor told him.
Three days later the neighbor came to the man, apologized for his conduct, and asked how he too could know the God of Christianity.
As a Foundation to this word:-
Genesis 2:18 (Amp) - Now the Lord God said, it is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
God creates inside of man a kind of “human-shaped void” that is designed for relationships.
No substitute will fill this need in you for human relationships:
Not money
Not achievements
Not things nor hobbies
Not even God Himself – you need relationships
Mark 12:30 - “And you must love him with all your heart and soul and mind and strength.’
It’s Gods intention that we have great relationships.
(The Royal Law – James 2:8 - “If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself, you are doing right.).
That’s why we exist. God intends for us to add value to others – to love one another, to care, to help, to bring joy and happiness, to our relationships
You can either tear this scripture out your bible or believe it and put it into practice (your choice!)
Romans 15:1-3 (Amp) - We who are strong [in our convictions and of robust faith] ought to bear with the failing and the frailties and the tender scruples of the weak; [we ought to help carry the doubts and qualms of others] and not to please ourselves. 2Let each one of us make it a practice to please (make happy) his neighbor for his good and for his true welfare, to edify him [to strengthen him and build him up spiritually]. 3For Christ did not please Himself [gave no thought to His own interests]; but, as it is written, The reproaches and abuses of those who reproached and abused you fell on Me. We will be accountable to God if we disobey His Word
How we need one another - we were designed for relationships
A ten-year-old boy selling pencils door to door to raise R6Mill for a cancer research ward, because his friend was dying of cancer. Someone asked him, “Isn’t it too big a task for you?” He replied, “No, I have a friend helping me.” (That’s why he will achieve it).
Maxwell said in his book “17 Indisputable Laws of teamwork”, the law of significance states
“One is too small a number to achieve greatness”.
Nothing ever achieved in life was achieved without relationships.
It’s only found in the movies – there are no real-life Rambo’s or Lone Rangers.
We need to get God’s perspective on relationships (not our own limited human point of selective views).
Never in the Bible are we told to create unity. (We pray and ask for it. NOT Biblical) - We are simply told to maintain the unity that exists.
Ephesians 4:3 (NIV) - Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit.
Our task is not to invent unity but to acknowledge it and live it out everyday.
Psalm 133:1 &3b (Amp) - Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
3bFor there the Lord has commanded the blessing, even life forevermore [upon the high and the lowly].
We are not to break down; we are to build up Godly relationships.
Many people don’t take responsibility for the relationships in their lives.
We can so easily take people for granted!
Story of the son coming back from Vietnam.
He called his parents from San Francisco saying, “When I come home I want to bring a friend to stay. The parents say that is no problem. Then the son says, “There is a problem, he has no right leg and arm as it was blown off by a landmine”. The parents say, (NOTICE THE DIFFRENCE IN ATTITUDE BECAUSE IT WOULD COST THEM) “No, we can’t do it – let him go to people who will care for him. He’ll limit our freedom. It will cost us too much. We won’t have time for our own life” A day later the parents get a call to say their son died – he fell off a building. They found out it was suicide. They go and identify his body, only to find that his right arm and leg were missing.
With our shortcomings, failures, weirdness, abnormalities, we need to place a HIGH value on others.
Not only those we like, but with everyone. God commands it.
We need to learn to understand people.
We need to go out of our way to restore broken fellowships,
Hey, it’s not for others, it’s for YOU!
To build positive relationships, here are some actions you can take to bridge the gap often caused by others: See what Romans 15 says.
Romans 15:2 (Amp) - Let each one of us make it a practice to please (make happy) his neighbor for his good and for his true welfare, to edify him [to strengthen him and build him up spiritually].
Here’s some practical ways to practice action:
People are insecure … give them confidence.
People want to feel special … sincerely compliment them.
People desire a better tomorrow ... show them hope.
People need to be understood … listen to them.
People get emotionally low … encourage them.
People want to be associated with success… help them win.
The best way to help people is to see the best in them. Faults are easy to find.
God loves me in spite of all my failings.
When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself. Isn’t that what God desires from His children?
John 13:35 (Amp) - By this shall all [men] know that you are My disciples, if you love one another [if you keep on showing love among yourselves].
People who disrespect others always hurt themselves and their relationships with others. Most often they reap all sorts of negative consequences.
A man stood and watched a well dressed businessman screaming at a porter at the Airport because he felt the man mishandled handled his baggage, the porter just agreed, as the businessman left the man watching said to the porter you handled that well, The Porter said no problem He is flying to Cape Town but his Baggage is off to China.
What kind of attitude do you bring to relationships in your life? Are you a giver or a taker? Do you listen or do you do all the talking. The greatest gift you can give to another is yourself. JESUS DID!