Small Medium at Large

In this episode of Small Medium at Large, Rebecca answers listener questions about boundaries, over-functioning, and the deep exhaustion that comes from always being the helper. She speaks directly to empaths, Enneagram Nines, and anyone who struggles with guilt, people-pleasing, or the urge to fix and save others—especially family members and children. Rebecca explores why setting boundaries can feel destabilizing, how to stay grounded when others react strongly to your growth, and how to step out of over-responsibility without abandoning love. Through spirit-led guidance and practical tools, she reminds us that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away—they’re about coming back to ourselves and creating healthier, more honest connections.Key TakeawaysBoundaries are an act of love, not punishment. You can care deeply about someone and still choose distance if the relationship is harming your well-being.Over-empathy often turns into over-responsibility. Just because you can carry something doesn’t mean it’s yours to carry.Guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Discomfort is often a sign you’re breaking old patterns, not failing at love.You are responsible to others, not for them. This is especially important when releasing the need to fix, save, or heal loved ones—including your children.Spirit can help you stay aligned. Inviting guidance, noticing body signals, and practicing energetic release can help you recognize when you’re slipping back into over-functioning.Books mentioned in this episode: What’s Your Heaven? by Rebecca Rosen Boundary Boss by Terry Cole Too Much by Terry ColeProgram mentioned:9 Lives: The Spirit of The Enneagram — Rebecca and her brother’s Enneagram program designed to combine spiritual insight with deep self-discovery work.

If you’re the one everyone turns to — the strong one, the reliable one, the empath, the fixer, the helper — this episode is for you. Rebecca and her dear friend Katie Burke dive into what Rebecca calls the helper wound: the quiet pattern of overgiving, over-functioning, and putting everyone else first until you’re drained, resentful, or disconnected from yourself. Together they unpack why so many intuitive, caring people fall into this cycle, how it shows up in everyday life, and how to start healing it without closing your heart. Through personal stories, spiritual insights, and practical tools, this conversation helps you understand why you feel the way you feel — and how to finally create boundaries, listen to your own needs, and give from a place of fullness instead of exhaustion.

In this episode, Rebecca opens the space for a rare and powerful channeled transmission from the Trinity — a collective of higher-consciousness beings connected to divine source. Unlike mediumship, this channeling brings through universal wisdom meant to support anyone navigating awakening, alignment, and the shift into higher consciousness. The Trinity speaks directly to listeners about remembering their inner authority, releasing old programming, embracing the new earth frequency, and reclaiming their light. This message is an invitation to reconnect with your I AM presence, trust your soul path, and step into a more aligned, authentic way of being.

In this Q&A episode, Rebecca takes on some of the most tender questions she receives—from healing after abusive or absent parents to cutting ancestral cords, reparenting yourself, and supporting teens on their own inner journey. She explains what happens on the other side when our parents were deeply wounded and harmful in this life, and how we can very slowly and safely let in their spiritual support—without bypassing our pain or erasing what happened. Rebecca also walks through generational trauma, how to recognize patterns that didn’t start with you, and how to work with intention, ritual, and your spirit team to help heal the line. You’ll hear a grounded introduction to inner child work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), simple ways to start reparenting yourself day-to-day, and how to know where to even begin when it feels like everything needs healing. If you’ve ever wondered how to feel less alone with your story and more supported by spirit, this conversation is for you.

Rebecca sits down with her dear friend Gabrielle “Gabby” Bernstein to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help us pause, realign, and lead from Self—our calm, clear, compassionate inner guidance. They unpack the language of “parts” (managers and firefighters), why no part of us is “bad,” and how spiritual reparenting, journaling, and daily check-ins can transform codependency, people-pleasing, and over-functioning into presence, creativity, and faith. You’ll hear practical steps to build spiritual fitness, strengthen your intuitive channel, and move from fear to love—especially in uncertain times.Five Key Takeaways:IFS in plain English: We all carry “parts”—protector patterns from childhood (managers & firefighters). Healing is befriending them so Self-energy (calm, clear, courageous, compassionate) can lead.No bad parts: Addictions, control, people-pleasing, and dissociation are exhausted protectors trying to keep us safe. When they feel your compassion, they relax and transform.The Four-Step Check-In: 1) Choose to check in, not check out. 2) Get curious (where is it in the body? what thoughts/sensations?). 3) Compassionately ask the part, “What do you need?” 4) Check for the “C-qualities” of Self. Rinse and repeat.Spiritual fitness = clear channel: As protectors soften, intuition strengthens. Self-energy opens creativity, childlike joy, and clearer guidance from spirit and your guides.Reparenting in practice: Weekly IFS therapy, simple daily check-ins, and journaling (“let it out”/“rage on the page”) are grounded ways to move from codependency to sovereignty and stay steady in shifting times.