Confrontation is hard. But avoiding it is harderāon your peace, your relationships, and your self-respect. In this episode, explore how to get better at having tough conversations. Weāll look to Aristotle, Joan Didion, and the Gottman instituteās world-renowned research on conflict to create a roadmap for navigating confrontation without abandoning yourself or bulldozing anyone else. If you spiral after hitting send, avoid awkward conversations for weeks while playing out fake arguments in the shower, or disassociate every time someone says āwe need to talk,ā this one's for you.EPISODE OUTLINEĀ 00:00 IntroĀ 05:19 1. The correlation between confrontation and respectĀ 06:27 Joan Didion On Self RespectĀ 08:47 The trolley problem (Foote)14:33 2. Approaching confrontation practicallyĀ 16:33 Phronesis (Aristotle)Ā 18:35 Kantās categorical imperative20:50 Thich Nhat Hanhās three gatesĀ 23:27 3. Confrontation dos and donāts23:49 the Gottman instituteĀ 24:44 Confrontation donāts26:14 Confrontation dos26:17 The magic ratio for healthy relationships26:53 Bids for attention27:59 Soft startupsĀ 29:08 Repair attempts32:09 Lightning round recapMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEĀ ā ā Joan Didion, On Self Respect (Vogue, 1961)ā ā Aristotle, Nichomachean Ethics (c. 350 BCE)ā ā Immanuel Kant, Groundwork for the Metaphysics of Morals (1785)ā ā ThĆch Nhįŗ„t Hįŗ”nh, The Art of Communicating (2013)ā ā Drs. John & Julie Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (1999)MY LINKSā ā MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere nowā āā ā ā ā ā ā Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshopāā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā Join the waitlist for future retreats!Ā āā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagramā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā āā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTokā ā ā ā ā ā Ā
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5 Habits of Great Conversationalists
Want to become a better conversationalist? You should! Good conversations can open doors, build friendships, and even change your life. But in an age of goldfish attention spans, hot takes, and chronic fear of being seen, real connection is harder than ever. The good news? Conversation is an art, but itās also a science. In this episode, we walk through 5 things great conversationalists do differently, according to philosophy and psychology. If you want to feel less robotic on dates, network without cringing, vibe better with your friends, or just not panic when someone says ātell me about yourself,ā this oneās for you.Ā EPISODE OUTLINE:00:00 Intro04:07 1. Seeing conversation as a skill11:03 2. Starting lots of conversations18:30 3. Asking more questions25:06 4. Leaving room for the unexpected29:08 5. Expecting reality, not hyperrealityĀ 33:27 Lightning round recapĀ 36:19 ChallengeĀ MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Simulacra and Simulation, Jean Baudrillard (1981)TALK: The Science of Conversation and The Art of Being Ourselves, Alison Wood Brooks (2025)
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How to Get Unstuck Post-Crash Out
Feeling stuck, numb, or overwhelmed? Crashing out for the third time this week? Good news! Philosophy, the sad girl discipline of academia, has lots of advice for you. This episode breaks down 5 reasons why we get stuck according to philosophical greats like Franz Kafka, Soren Kierkegaard, Jean Paul Sartre, Albert Camus and more. Weāll talk about practical strategies to climb out of your spiral and start feeling like yourself again. If your search history includes āwhy am I like thisā and āhow to feel okay again,ā press play.EPISODE OUTLINE00:00 IntroĀ 04:53 Youāre stuck becauseā¦05:00 1. Youāre freeĀ 05:18 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard)06:04 Weāre condemned to be free (Sartre)07:13 The fig tree allegory (Sylvia Plath)13:21 2. Youāre choosing information over experienceĀ 13:35 Maryās Room hypothetical (Jackson)22:49 3. Youāve outgrown a version of yourself23:02 The Metamorphosis (Kafka)Ā 26:54 4. Youāre expecting sense in senseless places27:04 The Trial (Kafka)35:14 5. You think nothing mattersĀ 35:24 Mechanical life (Camus)36:34 The moment of the absurd (Camus)37:13 The myth of Sisyphus (Camus)Ā 40:08 Lightning round recapĀ MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ā On Anxiety, Soren Kierkegaard (1844)Being and Nothingness, Jean Paul Sartre (1943)The Bell Jar, Sylvia Plath (1963)The Big Secret, Deepak Chopra (2008)Epiphenomenal Qualia, Frank Jackson (1982)Ā The Metamorphosis, Franz Kafka (1915)The Trial, Franz Kafka (1925)The Myth of Sisyphus, Albert Camus (1942)
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Nietzscheās 3 Steps to Soul-Deep Transformation
19th century German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche believed every transformation followed a sacred three-step pattern. In this episode, we walk through the three metamorphoses of the soul from Nietzscheās 1883 work Thus Spoke Zarathustra. Weāll talk about why a chapter of chaos might be necessary to become your fullest, truest self, and how Nietzscheās stages apply to modern life. This episode is for you if you're experiencing or anticipating a big shift, no matter whether it relates to your career, relationships, creativity, spirituality, identity, or everything at once. If youāre feeling lost, restless, or ready for reinvention, this oneās for you.EPISODE OUTLINEĀ 00:00 Intro06:34 The camel spiritĀ 11:32 The lion spiritĀ 17:25 The child spiritĀ 25:40 Lightning round recapĀ 26:43 ChallengeMY LINKS⢠ā MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere nowā ā ā ā ā ā ā ⢠ā Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshopā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ⢠ā Join the waitlist for future retreats!Ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ⢠ā ā ā ā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagramā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ⢠ā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTokā ā ā ā ā ā Ā
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Smart Girl Summer Toolkit
Thought daughters, this oneās for you. This episode is your guide to keeping your mind fed all summer long. In it, I share the note-taking system thatās changing my life, a 10 minute morning routine that primes your brain for creative work, recs for intellectually stimulating podcasts, books, and newsletters, and more.Ā EPISODE OUTLINEĀ 00:00 Intro02:14 1. Take notes Ā 06:57 2. Write by hand08:42 3. Get out of your echo chamber11:01 4. Remember the Zeigarnik effectĀ 14:54 5. Change your conversation norms18:08 6. Practice hard attention21:11 7. 10 minute morning rule22:33 8. Chew your brain food23:54 9. Show what you donāt know26:20 Newsletter recsĀ 27:41 Philosophy podcast recs28:08 Poetry recs29:40 Lightning round recapĀ
A self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological and literary flair hosted by Victoria Hutchins, the creator of @thedailyvictorian. Giving your soul something to chew on every Sunday.