A self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological and literary flair hosted by Victoria Hutchins, the creator of @thedailyvictorian. Giving your soul...
This episode should be called ten HARD TO HEAR things about dating I wish I knew in my twenties because... oof. Buckle up. The dating scene in your twenties is the trenches. I wish I could go back in time and tell all this to younger me. It would save her so many hours and tears and good outfits on bad dates with people who don't like her. Instead, I'll tell you. I learned each of these lessons the hard way, but you don't have to! I present to you: 10 things I wish I knew about dating in my twenties.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 IntroĀ
01:20 Break
04:09 If they treat you like they donāt care, they donāt
06:41 Someone not liking you doesn't make them a catch
10:06 Running at the first sign of conflict isnāt a flex
13:21 If youāre attracted to games, youāre the problem
16:36 Stop seeking closure from your exesĀ
19:05 Donāt date their potential
20:14 Being single rocks
23:05 Love is not all you needĀ
23:36 You canāt make them stay if they want to go
30:58 You canāt scare away the right person
33:39 Lightning round recap
LINKS:
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Preorder MAKE BELIEVE from Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, and more!
Join me in Bali June 1-7!
Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram
Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok
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8 Clues to Your Purpose
Feel like youāre meant for something more but canāt put your finger on what that āmoreā is? This episode is here to help.Ā The bad news is: finding your purpose in a world full of distractions and expectations is hard. Like, super hard. The good news is: weāve been struggling with this since the dawn of humanity, so lots of extremely smart people have piped up about it.Clues to your purpose are hiding in unexpected places. Today, weāll explore 8 of those clues, as proposed by some of humanityās greatest minds.Ā Consider this episode a field guide out of your existential crisis. Brought to you by me: your friendly neighborhood lawyer-turned-creative, fresh out of the trenches of living someone elseās life.Ā SHOW OUTLINE: 00:00 Intro 03:14 If you're looking for your purpose, look for... 03:42 1. What you loved as a kid (Nietzsche)06:31 2. What makes you jealous (Nietzsche)10:15 3. What puts you into flow state (Csikszentmihalyi)13:00 Break 15:56 4. What you see everywhere16:32 The Invisible Gorilla Experiment17:30 The Cocktail Party Effect 18:34 Attention as Devotion (Mary Oliver and Simone Weil)19:00 5. What makes you uncomfortable (Carl Jung) 20:56 6. What connects you to the world (Bhagavad Gita)23:30 7. What you want your purpose to be (Albert Camus) 26:36 8. Here and now (Alan Watts)30:07 Lightning Round SummaryMY LINKS:āā ā Preorder my poetry book MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow to get a free poem print and a personalized signed copyā ā āā ā Preorder MAKE BELIEVE from Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, and more! ā ā āā ā Join me in Bali June 1-7! ā ā āā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagramā ā āā ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTokā
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10 Things Your New Life Will Cost You
So you have a dream, huh? You're in the right place. You've probably heard this quote from the brilliant Brianna Wiest: Your new life will cost you your old one. Today we're diving into it. As someone who walked away from an old life for a new one this year, let me tell you - there are costs. In the past year, I have completely flipped my life on its head. I walked away from my job as an attorney to dive into the murky waters of creative work. This episode will discuss 10 things your new life will cost you.
SHOW LINKS:
Your Dreams Are For People Like You - listen to the episode of Shawna Krueger's podcast, Leadership and Yoga
Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation, by James Doty, M.D.
Visual representation of Plato's Cave Allegory
MY LINKS:
ā Preorder my poetry book MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow to get a free poem print and a personalized signed copyā
ā Preorder MAKE BELIEVE from Amazon, Target, Barnes & Noble, and more! ā
ā Join me in Bali June 1-7! ā
ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagramā
ā Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTokā
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"We're on a Floating Rock:" The Rise, Pros and Cons of Optimistic Nihilism
The floating rock mentalityānihilism with rose-colored glassesāis quickly becoming the zeitgeist of spiritually deconstructed young people. What is it? How did we get here? Cosmologically speaking, are we really just insignificant creatures on an insignificant floating rock? Is life meaningless? What are the pros and cons of believing that it is? Is optimistic nihilism going to turn you into Tyler Durden or Jobu Tupaki? What can we learn from Nietzsche, Albert Camus and Sisyphus? How do we find value in a potentially meaningless universe? Are spirituality and rationality mutually exclusive on this floating rock in space?
JUMP AROUND
I. intro
II. disclaimers (2:37)
III. floating rock mentality (6:48)
a. what is it? (6:48)
b. how did we get here? (9:37)
c. is it true, literally & cosmologically speaking? (11:41)
(ad break)
IV. nietzsche and nihilist philosophy (21:24)
a. sad early life (22:19)
b. sad love life (23:58)
c. nietzscheās philosophical model (24:47)
V. the pros of purposelessness (29:45)
VI. the cons (35:27)
a. will you turn into tyler durden/jobu tupaki? (36:57)
b. volatile valuation of your own life (40:50)
(ad break)
V. finding value in a (possibly) meaningless universe (43:06)
a. sisyphus (44:13)
b. albert camus on sisyphus (absurdism) (44:47)
VI. how does god fit into all of this? (50:25)
a. pascalās wager (51:22)
b. choosing between purposelessness & spirituality (58:09)
c. redefining spirituality (1:00:06)
SOURCES & REFERENCES
re: rise in disaffiliation from organized religion among Gen-Z and millennials: https://tinyurl.com/2p9d5474
re: size of the universe, super habitable planets, SETI Luyten B communications: https://tinyurl.com/3kmyy5av; https://tinyurl.com/3hdc8u8m; https://www.seti.org
āImportantā by Ian McConnell: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRGqbRHa/
Rhett McLoughlin spiritual deconstruction podcast episode: https://tinyurl.com/yytywu4c
Re: biographical info about Nietzsche: https://tinyurl.com/ye28xbxe; https://tinyurl.com/2za4nsc4
Nietzsche referenced works: Human, All-too-HumanĀ (1878), The Gay Science (1882, second expanded edition 1887), On the Genealogy of MoralityĀ (1887)
re: Lou Salome, Nietzscheās love interest: https://tinyurl.com/5bvdymd7; https://tinyurl.com/5598dycu
Fight Club (1999) directed by David Fincher; starring Brad Pitt, Edward Norton, and Helena Bonham Carter
Everything Everywhere All At Once (2022) directed by Daniel Kwan and Daniel Scheinert; starring Michelle Yeoh, Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu
The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus
Pascalās Wager: https://tinyurl.com/ftrrssth; https://tinyurl.com/7nkhw79b
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1:05:25
Why Are We So Scared to Die? How Do We Get Less Scared?
A self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological and literary flair hosted by Victoria Hutchins, the creator of @thedailyvictorian. Giving your soul something to chew on every Sunday.