Storms are going to hit our lives from time to time. They just are. And when they do, so often we're afraid. And that fear, it turns out, can completely immobilise us. So then what?
When we look at what it means to travel with a quiet confidence through the storms of life, as we have been doing this week on the program, well I think we need to stop and take a look at this thing that we call "fear". Now being afraid is natural, it's a natural response to danger. Fear is an actual inbuilt, protective mechanism, it stops us from putting ourselves in danger, it protects us as we recoil from danger when it strikes unexpectedly. Now fear has a very important function in our lives but fear also has some pretty big downsides too.
Fear is something that can absolutely immobilise us or it can make us do some silly things and take wrong decisions. And actually, fear is something that whilst we're equipped to cope with, we're not designed to live with it 24 X 7. So, if we're to deal with fear, then we have to learn to travel through the storms of life in a way that actually deals with it. Not just sweeps fear under the carpet, not just ignores it but actually deals with it.
Now that can be something of a challenge; you know it and I know it. So how do we deal with this 'fear' thing amidst the storms of life.
If you were with us earlier this week, on Monday I think it was, we had a look at the bunch of seasoned fishermen caught out in a boat, on the water, in the middle of a storm that just came up out of nowhere. Lets take another look at that account, it comes from Luke chapter 8, beginning at verse 22:
One day Jesus says to His disciples, "Let's go to the other side of the lake." So they got in a boat and set out. As they sailed He fell asleep. A squall came down on the lake so that the boat was being swamped and they were in great danger. The disciples went and woke Him and said, "Master, Master, we're going to drown." Jesus got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters and the storm subsided and all was calm. "Where is your faith?" He asked His disciples. In fear and amazement they asked one another, "Who is this? He commands even the winds and the water and they obey Him.
Now, at the time, when we looked at this earlier in the week, I said that there were a few things that these disciples learned about God that day. Firstly they learned that God was in the boat with them. Secondly, that He had both the will and the means of doing the impossible, of calming the storm and saving them from it. And thirdly, the most incongruous thing of all, that safely riding out that storm was a matter of faith.
Now it's easy to rattle those off, even memorise them and think, "well, here's my three point plan for dealing with fear the next time I hit a stormy patch.
1. God is with me.
2. He can still the storm.
3. All I have to do is believe.
Hmm, but you know something; it's not that easy, at least not in my experience. Because this is not something we learn by memorising things on a nice sunny day while we're sitting by the pool drinking Pina Colada's. This is something we only really learn in our experience while we're out there on the ocean.
Here's what happens to me; I can see the storm clouds brewing off in the distance, they start coming closer, the wind picks up, then the storm front hits and most times I just freeze. A fear stops me from moving forward to do the things that I need to do to save myself, it immobilises me.
Let's say you're having financial problems, I was listening to an experienced business consultant who helps small and medium sized businesses in the retail sector and he was talking about managing the business' finances. Now most business owners, they know they're having cash flow problems, it worries them sick. So what they do is they just ignore it, they go into denial and their business goes down the drain. Or the sales person who, who's afraid of making the cold calls or the call to follow up on a call. Fear immobilises them and so that stops them from selling. Fear either makes you want to pull over and stop or streak off completely in the wrong direction.
In fact the words "fear" and "afraid" appear 445 times in the Bible, that's a lot. Do a search, have a look and you'll find that's exactly what happens to people. These seasoned fishermen, what were they doing out in the storm? They were cowering in the boat, they were screaming out to God, "God, wake up!" See how stupid that is, "God, God wake up! Jesus, Jesus wake up! We're going to perish!" Jesus is in that boat with them, all His glories laid aside He's a man just like them, just like you and me and what does Jesus do, does He get panicked, does He get immobilised? Have a look:
He got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters. The storm subsided and all was calm. "Where is your faith?" He asked the disciples.
You see what is says first up, it says, "He got up". God is a God of action, He doesn't just sit there, He does stuff and then, then He rebukes them for their lack of faith. Now that might seem a bit harsh but look at it from His perspective, He's the Son of God, He knew the right thing to do, it was blindingly, glimpsingly obvious to Him but it was foreign to them.
In fear and amazement they asked one another, "Who is this? He commands even the winds and the water and they obey Him.
See the bottom line is that trusting God in the storm is so utterly unnatural to us. It's a bit like the gymnast; he has to learn manoeuvres that are completely unnatural, almost supernatural when you watch them sometimes. I particularly like the guys who get on those rings, you know they get up and they do all those things on those rings, I think 'my goodness, how do they do that?' 'Cause I have to tell you, I can't do that.
They don't learn those things sitting on the couch memorising three dot points, they learn them in the gym, the hard way, they fall off, they hurt themselves, they get up, they do it again, they fall over, they hurt themselves, they get up, they do it again until eventually, they can do things that are impossible to you and to me and that's how we learn to cope with fear in the middle of those storms.
Each time I go through one and I do, I go through them just like you do, I experience fear each time and I'm not some "scaredy cat" but that's just life. And what I've learnt is to go to God early, to pour my heart out to Him like Hannah whom we looked at during the course of this week on the program, if you were with us earlier this week, and what He does when I do that, is He gives me peace. And I've had to learn that over and over and over again and I'm still learning it and sometimes that peace comes sooner and sometimes that peace comes later but it always comes.
I would never have learned that sitting by the pool, only out in the sea amidst the storm and then, when I have that peace, the fear that once immobilised me, the fear that stopped me, is gone. I can get on, I can do my bit, I can do the practical things, I can deal with the finances, I can make the calls, I can manage the problems and wait expectantly for God to show up and do His bit, for God to show up and calm the storm, for God to show up and do the things that I simply can't do.