Broken Fathers Podcast

• Episode 6 - Torik Dib - The System Needs A Judicial Conduct Committee

  Send us a textEpisode 6Guest - Torik DibHey everyone, unfortunately, I had to edit out the segment featuring the broken father from this episode, as it was filmed four months ago and he is now involved in ongoing court proceedings. However, my other guest shares valuable insights and knowledge about the court system, which I'm excited for everyone to hear. Due to these edits, the episode may feel a bit disjointed at times, but I appreciate your understandingIn an unmissable and profoundly illuminating episode, I am joined for the first time by a distinguished criminal and family lawyer, Torik Dib. Born and raised on the Gold Coast as one of six siblings, Torik chose to follow in his brother’s footsteps, becoming an integral part of the renowned Dib & Associates Lawyers in Sydney.While we’ve previously heard from fathers, partners, and the children of those who have personally experienced the family court system, this episode offers perhaps the most unique and insightful perspective to date. Torik provides an insider’s depth of privileged knowledge and exclusive expertise from a member of the legal community—a professional who is not only intimately familiar with the system, but one who is also deeply troubled by its flaws and the injustices he witnesses every day.For fathers currently navigating or about to enter the family court system, this episode is an indispensable resource. Torik tackles a wide range of critical topics, including the intricate and emotionally charged nature of family law, the overwhelming backlogs suffocating the court system, and the manipulative tactics some parties use to tilt the scales of custody—particularly false domestic violence accusations. He also explores complex international legal matters, such as the Hague Convention, and offers a candid look at the universal challenges fathers face during the lengthy and emotionally draining process.When it comes to practical advice, Torik shares essential tips on how to find effective legal counsel, stressing the importance of hiring a lawyer who can position you strategically at every stage of the process and adapt to the ever-changing dynamics of different judges. He also offers insights into mediation, revealing his personal approach and emphasising the importance of attempting every possible avenue of resolution before resorting to court proceedings.Torik leaves listeners with a powerful and poignant thought: “The idle mind is the devil’s playground.” This serves as a crucial reminder for fathers to prioritise their mental and physical well-being, ensuring they stay resilient and focused as they navigate the legal system.This episode is a must-listen—packed with unparalleled expertise, invaluable insights, and guidance that you won’t find anywhere else.

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• Episode 5 - Ella Ware - I was Robbed of a Relationship with my Father

  Send us a textEpisode 5Guest - Ella WareIn a groundbreaking episode of the Broken Fathers Podcast, we sit down with Ella Ware, a Broken Daughter, who endured parental alienation and was deprived of a relationship with her loving father. For the first time, we explore this experience through the eyes of the child, offering a deeper and more nuanced understanding of her thoughts, emotions, and personal journey.Ella recounts how, following her parents’ separation, her mother subjected her and her two siblings to years of emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, and cruel mind games. She describes the deep sense of being used as pawns in a cruel strategy to hurt their father. Ella also reveals how she witnessed her mother deceitfully manipulate various organisations and exploit the system for financial gain—an act Ella believes was driven purely by spite.Ella provides a more comprehensive view of her father’s actions, sharing both her childhood experiences of the efforts she witnessed him make and the insights and regrets she has only come to fully understand and appreciate as an adult.Perhaps the most distinctive aspect discussed in this episode is how Ella’s experiences have shaped her own divorce and co-parenting journey. As a Broken Daughter, she has a profound understanding of the importance of both parents being involved in her children’s lives. Ella is dedicated to fostering a co-parenting relationship built on mutual respect, prioritising the well-being of her children. Having witnessed the harmful impact the legal system, along with organisations like Child Safety and Child Support, can have on fathers, she has become a passionate advocate for equal parenting rights.

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• Episode 3 - Troy And Aiden - It's only the lawyers who win

  Send us a textEpisode 3 Guests - Troy Knight & Aidan Bourke  On our third episode, I sit down with two Fathers: Troy Knight, a father of five children and Aidan Bourke, a father of three children. Both men are veterans who have known each other for almost two decades, and were also next-door neighbours one stage. Troy had a decorated career within the Australian Airforce. Troy discusses the impacts on his relationship that working extended periods away from home to provide for his family had, and his ex-partner’s resentment that arose due to it, with an eventual separation taking place. Troy discusses forms of parent alienation that his children began to notice their mother utilising even before the relationship had ended. He speaks about being deprived of seeing his children for a 13-month period, which only ended when his ex-partner wanted to offload his children whilst she went on holidays with her new partner. Aidan pursued a career in the Royal Australian Air Force joining No. 4 Squadron, deploying with Troy in the Special Operations Tactical Group overseas. Aidan’s relationship with his spouse was also a casualty of extended periods away from home, and began to breakdown. Whilst dealing with this, Aidan also discovered he required a heart transplant, due to a genetic disorder within his family. After receiving the treatment and being released from hospital, Aidan bravely admits whilst in this vulnerable state, he feared for his safety due to acts of domestic violence inflicted upon him by his ex-spouse, forcing him to leave his own home and beloved children, and live elsewhere. Aidan details how he tried to initiate separation documents, however did not receive anything back from his ex-spouse for over 14 months, later discovering this was deliberately done to allow time for him to receive his service-related injury compensation, which his ex-spouse attempted to claim was her entitlement. Aidan also recounts his shambolic family court experience, where the legal team representing him were not aware of fundamental processes, and misinformed him about entitlements his ex-spouse had no rights to. This resulted in Aidan paying exorbitant amounts of money for no positive result, both in legal fees and relinquishing almost all his superannuation. Since separation and a large financial gain in her favour, Aidan details how his ex-spouse weaponised his children against him, and has deprived him of access, not seeing his child for over five years. Amongst many other topics covered, Aidan also discusses how federal court orders issued by the family court are not worth the paper they are written on, detailing an injunction that was meant to prevent his children from being relocated, only for his ex-spouse to do so

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• Episode 2 - Ben Garrigg - I Fought 12 Years To Get My Boys

  Send us a textEpisode 2Guest - Ben CarriggOn the second episode of Broken Fathers Podcast, Purcy sits down with @gorillas_rex, a Broken Father of three beautiful boys. Before & during his legal battle for his children, Ben has also been employed as a 21-year emergency services worker, with his story demonstrating that no matter what you have done for your community or country, it means very little in the eyes of the Family Court.Ben suffered a 12-year-long ordeal in the court system before gaining full custody of his children. Ben was also subjected to constant false claims of DV, which led to the vortex of “baseless allegations and being forced you disprove them”, where endless time, money & energy is spent dealing with deflections and diversion tactics aimed at breaking fathers in their goal of maintaining a relationship with their children. Ben’s story will also demonstrate the corruption within organisations such as Child Safety, where measures meant to provide fair and equitable governance such as ‘Conflict of Interest’ are made a mockery of. Ben opens up about hitting rock bottom, & shares the great lengths that he underwent to fund his legal battle, never thinking twice as he worked towards fulfilling his commitment to his sons, never forgetting the pinky promise they had made to each other. This commitment kept him not only focused, but alive, as at one point Ben was not able to see his boys for two and a half years. Another dimension we have not discussed in detail on Broken Fathers Podcast, is the impact that new partners/stepfathers can have on the children. Again, we warn our listeners that some things discussed in this episode may be triggering and extremely confronting, as you will hear the horrific abuse that Ben’s sons suffered in the care of their mother, at the hands of their stepfather.Ben’s story is harrowing and painful to listen to, but also provides an example that there are silver linings in this process, albeit ones that are extremely hard fought. Ben is a true inspiration to all fathers, and parents, out there fighting for their children. In his own words……..“Don’t be the passenger, be the driver“.

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• Episode 1 - Jared Purcell - I'll Never See My Daughter Again

  Send us a textEpisode 1Guest - Jared PurcellOn our first ever episode of Broken Fathers Podcast, the host himself Jared Purcell (Purcy) calls in a fellow friend and acclaimed podcast host: Matty Morris from Zerolimits podcast to sit down & carry out the interview. Matty Morris was one of the major influences for Jared in deciding to create his own podcast, to provide a platform for Broken Fathers who have been defeated by the Family Court of Australia, to share their horrific experiences and expose the corrupt system to the general public. On the Broken Fathers Podcast, listeners will hear from men and women, who have been destroyed by this system, and are united in their determination to hold it accountable for the damage it is doing to fathers and their children.In his three-year battle fighting for his daughter, Jared has personally faced over four-hundred (400) unsubstantiated and defamatory claims, resulting in endless Domestic Violence (DV) allegations and a subsequent trial, being relentlessly contacted by Child Protection, and investigated by Child Safety, ultimately resulting in ALL allegations and investigations being DISMISSED.In the pilot episode for Broken Fathers Podcast, Jared explains how poorly managed the Family Court system is; highlights the emotional roller coaster that the process takes you on; and discusses how false DV allegations and parent alienation can ruin your life, employment, family, and friendships. He also explains how after being financially decimated through fighting this legal battle, and now on borrowed finances, he had to assess his quality of life, and how it was affecting him mentally, physically and emotionally. He details in painstaking agony, how he had to make the most painful and impossible decision of his life, to say goodbye to his beautiful daughter… & how he became a Broken Father.Jared does not hold back in any way & is extremely raw throughout, However, this level of honesty and openness is vital in achieving Jared’s new purpose in life: creating a platform where broken fathers like him can also openly share their harrowing stories, in order to help others heal, to learn, and to raise awareness to end this injustice against men. 

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