Unmasking, Alcohol, and Advocacy: A Neurodivergent Parenting Conversation with Emma Gilmour
In this raw and deeply validating episode, I’m joined by Emma Gilmour, coach, counsellor, parent of two neurodivergent teens, and founder of Hope Rising Coaching. Together, we explore the invisible intersections between neurodivergence, alcohol, trauma, unmasking, and parenting through burnout.Emma shares her powerful journey of redefining her relationship with alcohol, discovering her own late-diagnosed neurodivergence, and parenting her children through autistic burnout. We unpack how masking, cultural conditioning, and shame impact our ability to advocate for ourselves and how choosing self-compassion over self-judgment can be a radical and life-saving act.This is an episode about being honest with ourselves. About acknowledging what we didn’t know, what we coped with the best we could, and how healing often begins in the places we’ve been told to hide.This conversation is both an invitation and a lifeline, especially for parents walking a similar path.Trigger Warning: This episode contains open and honest conversations about:Childhood trauma and emotional neglectAlcohol use as a coping mechanismSelf-harm and suicidal ideation (including among teens and women in midlife)Unsafe social situations and consentBurnout, shutdowns, and parent-child relational traumaPlease take care while listening. Press pause, come back later, or skip this episode entirely if needed. Your nervous system safety matters most.In this episode, we explore:Emma’s journey from corporate marketing to sobriety and coachingThe link between late-diagnosed neurodivergence and alcohol useHow alcohol often acts as a mask and survival tool for neurodivergent peopleParenting two PDA children through burnoutWhat it really means to support kids who can’t yet advocate for themselvesBreaking generational cycles around emotions, shame, and complianceHow grief, guilt, and growth coexist in parentingWhy awareness—not self-blame—is the first step to changeThe freedom that comes from seeing behaviour as data, not failure🔗 Resources & Links:Emma’s website & coachingEmma’s Awareness Worksheets on alcohol useJoin Emma's Free Live Webinar - Not That Bad, But Bad EnoughFollow Emma on InstagramTanya’s membership: From Burnout to Balance
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