Pause and Connect

Let’s just say it out loud. Big emotions from kids are hard. HARD. Your toddler falling to the floor in the middle of a store is HARD. Your kindergartner running away from you and screaming because they don’t want to wear their shoes at the park is HARD. Your teenager stomping down the hallway, shaking the windows with the force of their stomps, is HARD.  Can we all agree? It’s not fun. It’s not easy. It rattles our nervous systems. It shakes us. It frustrates us. And all of that is normal. Learn four things to know and do to make big emotions easier for you and your kiddos to handle.

When I say something like, “This is how to parent without punishment,” people respond with comments like, “How will kids ever learn?” Or “What about when they’re in the real world?” It's a legitimate question based on how our society views parenting. This episode answers the question of "how will they learn" and gives you three non-punitive things to do to facilitate learning and growth for your child. Mentioned in this episode:  How to Stop Yelling Back-and-Forth Journal

It’s a funny title, I know. But don’t we all just have a hard time liking certain people or groups of people sometimes? Listen in to learn how connected parenting principles can help us in all our relationships -- even with that cousin who’s always trying to pick a fight at family gatherings.   Pssst... Learn how to stop yelling!   Grab my back-and-forth journal here!

You tell your child they can't hit their sibling. They look in your eyes and nod solemnly. They really seem to understand! Then two minutes later, they hit their sibling again!  Aargh! Why do our kids not listen to us, and what can we do about it? Listen to four solid explanations about what's going on in your child's brain -- and what you can do differently.

It's a common approach: searching for the right consequence to change a child's behavior. But listen in to learn why this mindset doesn't lead to the change we're actually seeking. And try a new approach to help your relationship, help your child be successful, and help you feel more confident that your child is learning what they need to learn. Mentioned in this episode: How to Stop Yelling Back-and-Forth Journal Episode 2: Society Says to Control Your Children. Say NO