Restored: Helping Children of Divorce

Conor Gallagher is a successful businessman, author, and father of 17 children. But despite his success at work, he admits that for years, he was giving his best to his business while his family got the worst version of him.
That realization led him to develop Well-Ordered Family, a system that applies proven business principles to family life. In this episode, Conor reveals how he manages his large family, reduces chaos, and creates a more peaceful, joyful home using practical tools that any family can adopt.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How Conor manages a household with 17 children
Why he believes families should operate more like businesses
The simple systems that reduce stress, chaos, and conflict at home
Why busyness might be quietly destroying your family
How to build a healthy family, even if you grew up in a broken one
If you come from a broken or dysfunctional family and wonder whether you could ever build a happy, healthy family of your own, this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned:
Conor's books, videos, and family resources: https://wellorderedfamily.com
Join Restored's healing program: https://restoredministry.com/program
Get It's Not Your Fault or download free chapters: https://restoredministry.com/books
Listen to the full episode to discover the practical principles Conor uses to manage his family of 17 children—and how you can use them to build the family you want.

When Michael Comstock was 17, he discovered that his mom was having an affair. The betrayal didn’t just affect his parents’ marriage—it shattered his sense of safety, trust, and family.
Years later, Michael realized the fallout was still affecting him. He struggled to trust women, sabotaged relationships, feared marriage, and wondered if he was doomed to repeat his parents’ story.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why a parent’s affair can feel like a betrayal of the children too
How divorce wounds can surface years later in dating and relationships
Why Michael felt guilty building a relationship with his stepfather
What helped him forgive his mom and stepfather without excusing what happened
How he went from fearing marriage to becoming a husband and father
If your parent cheated, if you struggle with anger or trust because of what happened in your family, or if you’re afraid you’ll repeat your parents’ mistakes, this episode is for you.

Resources:
Learn more about Restored’s healing program for young adults:
https://restoredministry.com/program
You can also anonymously share your story with Restored:
https://restoredministry.com/story

Confident people still feel fear. The difference is how they respond to it.
In this episode, Trevor Ragan explains why fear, anxiety, and discomfort don’t necessarily mean you’re weak, unprepared, or on the wrong path. In fact, trying to suppress those emotions can make them even stronger.
Trevor is the founder of The Learner Lab and has spent nearly a decade studying learning, performance, resilience, and difficult emotions. He’s worked with professional and Olympic athletes, Major League Baseball teams, and leaders at the United Nations.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
How confident people handle fear differently
Why trying to eliminate fear can backfire
How to move forward even when you don’t feel ready
Why confidence isn’t the absence of difficult emotions
How to build skills you may not have learned growing up

If fear keeps you from taking risks, having difficult conversations, pursuing relationships, or building the life you want, this episode is for you.

More resources:
Join our 6-week healing program 
https://restoredministry.com/program

Free guide: 10 Tips to Help Someone Whose Parents Are Separating or Divorcing
https://restoredministry.com/10tips

Learn more about Trevor:
https://thelearnerlab.com

Shownotes
https://restoredministry.com/blog/184

If you grew up in a broken or dysfunctional family, you may have entered adulthood without ever seeing what healthy conflict looks like.
But avoiding conflict isn’t the answer. In fact, healthy conflict can be one of the main ways couples build trust, deepen intimacy, and discover whether they can actually build a life together.
Our guest, Adam Lane Smith, is a former licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and attachment specialist whose work has attracted more than 1.3 million followers across social media. In this conversation, Adam breaks down the practical relationship skills many people never learned growing up.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why people from broken families often struggle in relationships
How healthy couples handle conflict differently
Why avoiding conflict can actually weaken trust
What conflict reveals about whether someone is marriage material
How to communicate, repair, and build trust after things go wrong
If conflict makes you shut down, blow up, people-please, or wonder whether you’re capable of building the healthy marriage you never saw growing up, this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
👉 Join the waitlist for our new healing program for young adults impacted by their parents’ divorce or family dysfunction:
RestoredMinistry.com/program
👉 Get the free guide: 10 Tips to Help Someone Whose Parents Are Separating or Divorcing:
RestoredMinistry.com/10Tips
👉 Learn more from Adam Lane Smith, including his Secure Circle, relationship resources, programs, and coaching:
AdamLaneSmith.com
👉 Shownotes
https://restoredministry.com/blog/183

What if you’ve understood your wounds intellectually—but your body is still carrying them?
After her parents’ divorce, Annie Sarlo spent years hiding her family’s dysfunction, struggling with anger, anxiety, perfectionism, and difficulty receiving love. Her healing eventually taught her something surprising: we’re wounded in relationship, and we often heal in relationship—but talking alone isn’t always enough.
In this episode, Annie shares:
Why safe relationships can heal wounds caused by broken relationships
How family dysfunction can make receiving love difficult
Why movement, martial arts, breathing, and nature became part of her healing
The path from self-knowledge → self-possession → self-gift
How to find a person or place where you finally feel safe enough to exhale
If you’ve done a lot of thinking or talking about your past but still feel anxious, guarded, or stuck, this episode is for you.

Resources:
👉 Learn more about Annie Sarlo and her whole-person coaching:
anniesarlo.org
https://sandamianocoaching.com

👉 Join the waitlist for our new healing program for young adults impacted by their parents’ divorce or family dysfunction:
https://restoredministry.com/program 

👉 Get the free guide: 10 Tips to Help Someone Whose Parents Are Separating or Divorcing:
https://restoredministry.com/10tips 

Shownotes