In this powerful episode of Top Self, Shanenn Bryant delivers something your inner child may have never received: acknowledgment, validation, and the words you needed most. This episode is a gentle but honest space for anyone who grew up feeling unseen, unprotected, or responsible for everyone else’s emotions.Shanenn talks about how childhood trauma—whether loud or silent—gets stored in the body and shapes adult patterns. Through reflections on her own healing journey and a moving message written as a voice of apology from the caregiver you never had, this episode offers a path to release, reframe, and reclaim your power.💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:“You’re not born with trauma—you inherit patterns through what you witnessed, heard, and experienced.”“It’s not about blame. It’s about the chain—and you might be the first brave one to break it.”“You don’t need their permission to heal. You just needed to be seen.”“This isn’t who you are—it’s who you became. And you can become something new.”“If you’ve been waiting for an apology, this is it.”🔑 Key Moments:1:45 – Trigger warning and who this episode is for3:00 – “This is not who you are—it’s who you became”5:20 – What trauma really is: the unseen, unfelt, unprocessed6:40 – It’s not about blame—it’s about breaking the chain9:15 – Generational trauma: how pain becomes parenting11:30 – The ACEs test and its lifelong impact14:00 – “You don’t need an apology to heal—but here’s one anyway”15:00–21:00 – A powerful reading of the apology you never received🛠️ Resources Mentioned:Episode 20: Interview with Candace Alley on the ACEs Test & TraumaACEs Test – Adverse Childhood ExperiencesLearn more about coaching and upcoming programs at Top Self website📌 Quote of the Episode:"You don’t need their permission to heal anymore. You just needed to be seen—to finally hear, ‘I’m sorry.’ And now you have." – Shanenn Bryant🎯 Perfect for Listeners Who:Grew up with emotional neglect, instability, or high expectationsFeel guilt around acknowledging childhood painWant to understand how trauma shows up in adult relationshipsAre learning to reparent themselves and break generational cyclesAre seeking healing without waiting for an apology that may never comeRegister for the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp today Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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This Childhood Shame Is Holding You Back EP 117
Schedule Your Free Discovery Call TodayIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets deeply personal, sharing the origin of the podcast and a powerful realization about the hidden shame many people carry from their childhoods. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide how you grew up—because of addiction, dysfunction, or chaos—this episode is a must-listen.She shares the moment she realized she wasn’t alone in her struggles with jealousy and insecurity, and how our pasts—when left unspoken—can quietly sabotage our relationships and self-worth.This isn’t just about healing from jealousy. It’s about learning to release the shame of your story so you can show up as your full, authentic self.💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:Shame about your past doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you—it means you’re human.You’re not alone in still being affected by how you grew up.Confidence begins where the old story ends.Letting go of shame starts with being honest—with yourself.You don’t owe your story to everyone, but you deserve not to carry it alone.🔑 Key Moments:1:00 – How the podcast was born from a talk on growing up with an alcoholic parent4:45 – The shift from “Jealousy Junkie” to “Top Self” and why that mattered6:30 – A listener’s message about struggling to make friends as an adult9:50 – Why hiding your past isn’t protecting you—it’s suffocating you13:00 – How your upbringing may still be impacting your self-worth and relationships16:00 – Shanenn’s personal journey of reconnecting with her father21:00 – The surprising story she’s not ashamed to tell—and what that reveals about internalized shame22:50 – A powerful reminder: you don’t owe anyone your story, but you do owe yourself relief🧠 Perfect for listeners who:Grew up in a chaotic, addicted, or dysfunctional environmentStill carry shame about their upbringing—even as successful adultsStruggle to be vulnerable or build close friendshipsWant to understand how childhood experiences shape adult relationshipsAre ready to rewrite the story they’ve been carrying📌 Resources Mentioned:Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp – Learn how to break free from insecurity, jealousy, and people-pleasing.[Link to register]Free Discovery Call with Shanenn – Coaching for women ready to stop hiding and start healing.[Link to schedule]🧭 Quote of the Episode:“You don’t owe Register for the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp today Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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When Safety Feels Scary EP 116
Book your FREE Discovery CallEver started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous systemThe hidden link between chaos and connectionSubtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing itA powerful affirmation to ground yourself when you’re spiralingHow to begin rewiring your system to trust calm instead of rejecting itIf you’re ready to stop pushing away the love you crave, this episode is for you.💎 Golden Nugget: “Peace isn’t the problem. My pattern is.”Timestamps:1:15 – Why calm triggers fear in a chaos-wired nervous system3:00 – How your past relationships shaped your patterns6:30 – A real-life story (with a German Shepherd!) that explains stored trauma10:40 – Signs of self-sabotage when things feel “too good”12:50 – Tools to rewire your nervous system for trust15:40 – The mantra that can change everythingResources & Links:📄 Free Download: 5 Signs You’re Subconsciously Sabotaging📞 Book a Free Discovery Call with Shanenn🔗 Follow Shanenn on Instagram: @topselfcoLoved this episode? Leave a 5-star review—it helps others find healing too. 💚Register for the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp today Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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Tapping Into Emotional Freedom W/ Amy Vincze EP 115
Book Your FREE Discovery Call With ShanennWatch on my Youtube Channel hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to explore how tapping can help release jealousy, insecurity, and emotional triggers. With over 17 years of experience, Amy shares how she went from skeptic to certified coach—using tapping to navigate personal trauma, anxiety, and even breast cancer recovery.This isn’t just theory. Amy walks listeners through the science of tapping, the emotional patterns that fuel insecurity, and a powerful guided tapping session to help you shift from emotional reactivity to grounded self-worth.If you’ve ever felt consumed by jealousy or struggled to manage emotional overwhelm in relationships, this episode is a must-listen.Golden Episode Nuggets:💎 You can’t heal what you’re afraid to feel💎 Jealousy and insecurity are symptoms—not the root problem💎 Tapping helps regulate the nervous system and release stored trauma💎 Emotional honesty is a gateway to confidence and connection💎 Healing is an inside job—and tapping gives you the tools to do itKey Moments:· 1:30 – Why most of us avoid uncomfortable emotions and why that’s a problem· 4:45 – Amy’s backstory with tapping and how trauma triggered transformation· 10:15 – How emotional energy gets trapped in the body· 14:30 – The neuroscience of tapping and what happens in the brain during a session· 20:00 – A full guided tapping session focused on jealousy and insecurity· 34:10 – The real goal of tapping (hint: it’s not to be positive all the time)· 38:00 – How to create your own tapping practice without overthinking itAbout Our Guest:Amy Vincze is the founder of SOAR with Tapping and a certified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner. She combines energy therapy, cognitive techniques, and somatic work to help people process emotional triggers and build resilience. Her mission is to make tapping accessible for anyone ready to break emotional patterns and reclaim their peace.Resources Mentioned:SOAR with Tapping by Amy Vincze: Quote of the Episode:“You can’t release what you refuse to feel—and tapping helps you face it with compassion.” – Amy VinczePerfect for listeners who:· Feel consumed by jealousy or insecurity in their relationships· Want a practical way to manage emotional triggers· Are curious about tapping but unsure where to start· Are ti Register for the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp today Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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3 Stages of Jealousy Management EP 114
Book your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emotional security—and how to work through them.If you’ve ever felt stuck in spirals, constantly checking your partner’s phone, or craving reassurance just to get through the day—this episode is for you.Through her own experience and years of coaching clients through jealousy, Shanenn identifies 3 specific levels most people go through: High Alert, Distance Dependent, and Emotionally Equipped. You’ll learn how to recognize where you are, why each stage feels the way it does, and how to move forward with more self-trust and less shame.This is your roadmap out of relationship anxiety and into emotional strength.🔑 Key Moments:2:00 – The High Alert stage: spiraling thoughts, hypervigilance, and the toll on your nervous system10:00 – Breaking out of unhealthy validation habits using the Think-Do-Say framework17:00 – The Distance Dependent stage: calm on the surface, but still triggered by what you see23:00 – Using self-focus and small wins to rewire your emotional patterns28:00 – The Emotionally Equipped stage: meeting your own needs without over-relying on your partner31:00 – How to bounce back after a setback without shame or spirals💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:Jealousy isn’t just emotional—it becomes physical stress if left uncheckedThe Think-Do-Say model helps break compulsive habits by replacing them with conscious choicesYou can stop checking the phone without stopping all the habits—just start with oneSelf-validation is the gateway to emotional safetyYou don’t need your partner to fix your jealousy—you need tools to manage your emotional responses❤️ Perfect for listeners who:Feel overwhelmed by jealousy or insecure thoughts in their relationshipAre trying to stop spiraling and start self-soothingWant practical, non-judgmental tools for emotional growthAre ready to take their healing seriously but with compassionCrave deeper connection—without losing themselves✍️ Leave a review and let us know—what stage do you see yourself in right now? And what’s one habit you’re working to change? Register for the Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp today Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
About TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships
Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence. Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help women transform from overwhelming insecurity to unshakeable confidence in both relationships and career. Whether you're battling relationship jealousy or letting imposter syndrome hold you back in the workplace, you'll discover how to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, and transform your story.Ready to stop letting insecurity and jealousy run your life? Subscribe now to start writing a new story - one that isn't controlled by old patterns or endless overthinking.
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