Secret #59: Rethinking Boyhood with Emily Edlynn, Jennifer Fink, Nike Oruh and Ana Waddington
It’s never been a more promising yet complicated time to raise boys, as shifting stereotypes and societal pressures redefine what it means to grow up male. In this lively and insightful roundtable, host Emma Waddington is joined by leading experts including adolescent nurse Ana Waddington, parenting author Jennifer Fink, clinical psychologist Emily Edlynn, and men’s health counselor Nike Oruh to rethink boyhood in today’s world.They dig deep into how traditional norms both help and hinder boys, the growing movement toward emotional openness, and the real-life challenges that young men still face—from societal expectations to struggles around vulnerability and safe spaces. Discover why it’s crucial to break down outdated beliefs, how to support boys’ mental health in practical ways, and the importance of creating community spaces where boys can truly be themselves.Packed with research, personal stories, and actionable advice, this episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone invested in helping the next generation of boys thrive. Whether you’re raising a son or want to better understand the boys and young men in your life, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective and concrete tools to support healthier, happier boyhood.Topics Discussed in this Episode:Redefining masculinity in modern societySupporting boys' emotional developmentAddressing harmful gender stereotypesCreating safe spaces for youthEncouraging autonomy in adolescent boysView extended shownotes hereMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)
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Secret #58: Raising a Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson
Are you struggling with how much to help—or how much to back off—when it comes to your child’s motivation, schoolwork, and screen time? Dive into this insight-packed episode as leading neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud and tutoring expert Ned Johnson reveal game-changing research on autonomy-supportive parenting, fostering resilience, and why letting kids solve their own problems builds lifelong confidence.Hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington join Stixrud and Johnson to unpack the science behind why children crave autonomy, how a low sense of control fuels anxiety and stress, and what it actually means to become a “non-anxious presence” as a parent. Learn the crucial differences between supportive guidance and hands-off, laissez-faire parenting, how to talk with your kids about technology and motivation (without endless fights), and why prioritizing your relationship beats chasing perfect grades.Plus, you’ll hear deeply personal stories of setbacks, surprises, and bouncing forward after failure—reminding us that the path to thriving adulthood is rarely a straight line. Whether you’re worried about homework wars, video game battles, or just want a better connection with your kids, this conversation is packed with actionable wisdom, empowering you to raise self-driven, resilient children while keeping your sanity and joy as a parent.Topics Discussed in this Episode:Autonomy supportive parenting strategiesFostering intrinsic motivation in childrenNavigating technology and screen timeBuilding resilience through adversityCultivating non-anxious parenting presenceview extended shownotes hereMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)
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Secret #57: Conflict Resilience with Bob Bordone and Dr. Joel Salinas
Navigating difficult conversations at home, work, or in our polarized world can feel overwhelming—but what if building conflict resilience is the key to deeper connection and transformative growth? In this eye-opening episode, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry dive into the science and art of facing conflict head-on with nationally recognized conflict resolution expert Bob Bordone and behavioral neurologist Dr. Joel Salinas, co-authors of the groundbreaking book Conflict Resilience.Discover why avoiding conflict (or rushing to “resolve” it) can actually harm relationships, communities, and even your own wellbeing. Our guests reveal how embracing discomfort, developing emotional awareness, and unlearning reactive patterns empowers us to connect authentically—even across divides that seem unbridgeable. You’ll learn about the brain’s “five Fs” in conflict, practical skills for sitting with tension, and why naming your emotions is the first step toward breakthrough.Whether you’re a parent, partner, leader, or simply tired of the stress that comes with disagreement, this episode is packed with actionable insights and inspiring stories that will help you struggle well—and come out stronger. Tune in and discover the dirty little secret to lifelong connection: real resilience in the heat of conflict.Topics Discussed in this Episode:Building conflict resilience skillsThe neuroscience behind conflict avoidanceEmotional literacy in difficult conversationsPsychological safety in diverse teamsStrategies for managing polarized relationshipsView extended shownotes hereMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)
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Secret #56: Spirituality with Dr. Matthieu Villatte
Are you searching for a deeper sense of connection, purpose, and meaning—beyond the confines of organized religion? This powerful episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets dives into the world of modern spirituality, uncovering why so many people crave meaning without religious labels and how spiritual practices can transform resilience, mental health, and even our everyday relationships.Join leading psychologist, author, and ACT trainer Matthieu Villatte as he explores what it really means to be “spiritual but not religious,” the science-backed benefits of spiritual awareness, and how spirituality—through mindfulness, values, and connection—can help us navigate grief, loss, division, and life’s toughest moments. Discover why harmony, transcendence, and embracing life’s ups and downs are at the core of genuine spiritual wellbeing. Whether you’re a believer, a skeptic, or something in between, Matthieu—and hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington—offer practical tools and fresh insights for building connection, meaning, and hope in chaotic times.If you want to tap into profound human wisdom, strengthen your resilience, or simply find more joy and purpose in daily living, this episode is your guide to spirituality for the modern world. Don’t miss this inspiring conversation about the small “dirty little secrets” that make us more whole, human, and alive.Topics Discussed in this Episode:Distinction between spirituality and religionPsychological benefits of spiritual practicesRole of connectedness in resilienceChallenges of maintaining spiritual harmonyTranscendence and meaning-making in daily lifeView extended shownotes hereMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)
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Secret #55: Belonging with Meg McKelvie
Feeling like you don’t truly belong—no matter how hard you try—can leave you lonely, anxious, and questioning your self-worth. In this transformative episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets, we unravel the real nature of belonging: what it means, why we ache for it, and how to find it from the inside out.Hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry is joined by licensed clinical psychologist Meg McElvie, an expert in cognitive behavioral and acceptance and commitment therapies, for a profound conversation that turns the concept of belonging on its head. Together, they explore the three layers of belonging—social, internal, and spiritual—revealing why true belonging starts within and is our birthright, not something to be earned.Discover the difference between fitting in and authentic connection, the evolutionary roots of our yearning to belong, and how cultural pressures sabotage our sense of self. Meg shares practical strategies, from mindful self-inquiry to nature rituals and expressive writing, to help you reconnect with your sense of belonging. You’ll also learn why helping others feel included is a radical act of self-acceptance and social justice.If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, social anxiety, or felt like you just don’t fit, this episode is your invitation to remember: you’re not alone, you don’t have to change to belong, and your place in the world is already yours. Listen in for a compassionate, eye-opening guide to finding connection—starting with yourself.Topics Discussed in this episode:Innate yearning for human belongingInside-out approach to self-acceptanceShame and self-stories around inclusionCultivating compassion through shared humanityRadical social justice via belongingClick here to view extended shownotesMax Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 ORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids) ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids) ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)
We often find ourselves comparing our internal struggles to the flawless images others project, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. But here’s the truth: you are not alone. Join psychologists Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they delve into the little-discussed yet incredibly common challenges that come with striving to be your best self.In each episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," you'll find thoughtful conversations filled with insights, humor, and compassion that reflect the beautiful complexity of being human. Together, we’ll explore the raw realities of issues like anxiety, depression, self-esteem, grief, and the nuanced journey of growing up.Whether it's confronting the pressures of modern life or unpacking emotional baggage, we provide a safe space for you to resonate with these experiences. Our intriguing discussions with expert guests will illuminate your path toward understanding and healing.Tune in for practical answers to your pressing questions, such as: How can I better manage anxiety and stress? What can help me overcome self-doubt? How do I navigate grief and find solace? How does self-compassion play a role in my journey? What steps can I take towards greater emotional clarity?Join us weekly as we embrace the messiness of life and uncover the secrets that bind us together. With every episode, you’ll feel empowered, understood, and reminded that it’s perfectly okay to not have it all figured out. Together, let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery and compassion—because we all have secrets, and it’s time to share them.
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