Planting Seeds Podcast

She looked in the mirror one New Year's Eve and barely recognised herself.That was the moment everything changed.
Monique Taipeti is one half of one of the most powerful couples to sit on this podcast. When Marley Taipeti shared his story, it opened a door, and Monique stepped through it to share hers.
Molested in her mother's care at a young age. Fostered out at 6. Moved between parents. By 13 she was self-harming, drinking, and cutting. By 24, she was deep in addiction — meth, lies, two young babies, and a future disappearing.
This is the story of what happened when she finally chose herself. Nine years into recovery, she is now a paramedic, a co-facilitator of the Chain Breakers programme (Waiariki Whānau Mentoring), and a living example that it is possible, that you are worth it, and that the other side exists.

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This is a Grow With Me episode — in this one, I share the pressure and expectation I was putting on myself to keep giving, but receiving grace from the community unlocked a shift in terms of how I shows up.
Inspired by a recent conversation with Ngaire Tuhua (link), who spoke about being No. 1, 2 and 3 on her own priority list, this episode unpacks what it actually means to consciously and deliberately choose to fill your cup, and why doing so isn't selfish, it's essential.
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Ngaire is a Māori creative — artist, moko practitioner in training, wahine deeply rooted in te ao Māori and committed to uplifting other wahine through her mahi. Recorded on the East Coast at Tūranga-nui-a-Kiwa, this kōrero feels like sitting in the sun with someone who has walked through real darkness and come out clearer on the other side.
In this conversation, Ngaire opens up about what it means to stop surviving and start thriving! The real mahi behind that shift, the trenches she had to walk through to get there, and why she now puts herself at numbers one, two, and three on her own priority list.
She also talks about creativity as a way of life, losing her nan during COVID through an iPad screen, the moko style she's developing exclusively for wahine, and what it means to be a portal, a creative, and a wāhine in full becoming.

Episode Breakdown

✨ Stepping out of the shadows to be seen
✨ Two types of fear: the one that destroys you, and the one that expands you
✨ "Don't let loss be the lesson", shifting out of survival mode into a thriving mindset
✨ Creativity as a way of life
✨ How living outside of clock-based thinking keeps her present
✨ The real work behind choosing yourself as a wahine
✨ Overflowing your own cup first so there's actually something to give
✨ Wahine carrying both roles, and what it means when tāne step into their own leadership
✨A new style of moko exclusively for wāhine, rooted in whakapapa wāhine
✨ How grief and enlightenment arrived at the same time
✨ Always looking for the gap, the new, the unexplored
✨ All the answers are already within us, we just need people who help us remember

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Rob Hayne is the founder of Chur Kaha, a CrossFit gym built on community, love, and the belief that everyone deserves to feel proud of themselves — no matter where they start.
In this kōrero, recorded on a trip to Tūranga-nui-a-Kiwa, Rob opens up about where his deep sense of care comes from (his mum, unsurprisingly), the leap of faith it took to open his own gym, and the philosophy that drives every part of his life: freedom. Freedom to choose how your day goes. Freedom to express. Freedom from the barriers most of us don't even realise we're carrying.
This is a conversation about identity, brotherhood, building something from nothing, and the radical idea that you get to choose how you want to feel when you wake up.

Episode Breakdown
✨ Where Rob's deep sense of care and manaaki comes from
✨ Learning what it means to truly feel free
✨ The real story of starting Chur Kaha
✨ "Just learn to do hard shit"
✨ Telling the boys "I love you" and why that's never been hard for Rob
✨ Fatherhood, raising kids as best mates, and breaking generational patterns around affection
✨ Designing your own days
✨ Living better, not just longer
✨ What younger Rob would think of the man he's become

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What got you here won't get you there. In this Grow With Me Q&A, I unpack the belief of why running has never once solved anything.
This week's Grow With Me session is a community Q&A — real questions from the Planting Seeds whānau, answered through lived experience rather than theory. I move through identity, healing, relationships, and what it actually takes to build a community of caring tāne. Just my perspective that might bring clarity to wherever you're at in your own journey.

Episode Breakdown:
✨ Why running from pain only delays it and what regulation actually looks like✨ Meeting "Samantha" — naming and detaching from the inner critic✨ Why some people choose something new instead of doing the hard work of staying✨ Projecting your growth onto a partner, and learning to accept different journeys✨ Building a community of caring men

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