The Regulated ADHD Parent
Why is it so hard for women with ADHD to trust their instincts, and what happens when we finally do?In this episode of All Aboard ADHD, Claire is joined by Sam Bramwell, an ADHD coach, entrepreneur, and expert in polyvagal theory, who was diagnosed with ADHD in her 40s. Sam supports women navigating late-diagnosed ADHD, and her work centres around helping them rebuild self-trust, overcome shame, and find a more compassionate way of living.In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Sam shares her journey from years of masking, burnout, and self-doubt to finally understanding her neurodivergence and rebuilding her life around authenticity rather than fear. Together, Claire and Sam unpack why so many girls and women go undiagnosed, the emotional fallout of that process, and the freedom that comes with finally making sense of yourself and tuning into your nervous system’s needs. Their conversation covers:What polyvagal theory is and how the autonomic nervous system's three states can show up in our day-to-day experienceHow ADHD traits in girls and women often go unnoticed, misinterpreted, or attributed to anxiety, perfectionism, or “high functioning” behaviourThe cumulative impact of years of masking, from people-pleasing to chronic overachievement, and why unmasking can feel both frightening and liberatingThe emotional crash that can often follow diagnosis: grief, anger, relief, and the slow rebuilding of identityHow fear-based decision-making develops and why women with ADHD often learn to distrust themselvesHow relationships and parenting shift when you begin to tune into your nervous system, communicate your needs, set boundaries, and stop pretending to be “being fine.”What self-compassion actually looks like in practice, and the importance of slowing down, resting, and listening to your bodyPractical tools for reconnecting with yourself, including values-based decision-making, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and community supportWhether you’ve recently discovered your ADHD or are still unpacking years of confusion, this episode offers validation, insight, and a path toward rebuilding your life with softness rather than self-criticism.Further resources and linksSam Bramwell Coaching: sambramwellcoaching.comFollow Sam on Instagram: @samjbramwellBuy Sam’s Book - Enough is EnoughAll Aboard ADHD coaching & resources: https://allaboardadhd.comFollow Claire on Instagram & TikTok: @allaboardADHDThe views shared in this episode are those of the guest, based on their professional expertise and personal experience. This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, educational, or psychological advice. Please consult a qualified professional for personalised support relevant to your individual circumstances.