Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners.
Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 yea...
How to Talk to Your Teens About Drugs, Alcohol, and S8x
Parenting tweens and teens is no easy feat, especially when navigating their rites of passage. Navigating teenage rites of passage can bring up questions like: How do I prepare my child to handle peer pressure around alcohol, drugs, or sex? How can I teach values without sounding authoritarian? In this episode, we address these and more by sharing personal stories, practical strategies, and actionable tips. We reflect on the importance of clearing our own emotional baggage to show up as the best version of ourselves for our kids, and discuss how to differentiate between helpful guidance and unintentional control.
As a parent, you will leave with tools to foster open communication and guide their teens toward a responsible and empowered adulthood. Whether you're dealing with the challenges of social media influences, the allure of risky behavior, or the need to address modern issues like vaping and early relationships, this episode is a must-listen for parents. It’s packed with relatable insights and empowering advice to help you parent with intention, compassion, and confidence.
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Resources mentioned:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net/
https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Melissa & Bryant
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we sit down with Melissa and Bryant, a couple navigating the intricate challenges of parenting, partnerships, and personal growth. They share their transformative journey of uncovering and overcoming individual and shared triggers that have shaped their family dynamic. Through honest reflection, they explore how childhood experiences, trauma bonds, and ingrained patterns influenced their roles as parents and partners. Their vulnerability provides a relatable and inspiring look at the ongoing process of healing and self-awareness.
We also discuss the tools and strategies we helped them use to foster growth and understanding, from inner child work and inter-parenting to redefining relationship roles. While grappling with the chaos of raising kids and recalibrating expectations in marriage, their journey offers valuable insights for anyone striving to become their best self. Tune in for practical advice, profound reflections, and a testament to the power of perseverance and love in navigating life’s challenges.
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Resources mentioned:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net/
https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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Why Men and Women Approach Conflict So Differently
Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we’re getting real about the differences between men and women—and how those differences can both challenge and strengthen our relationships. Drawing from our own experiences (like unpacking after a big move!) and our clients' stories, we uncover why men may seem withdrawn and women feel unheard. We’ll talk about those moments of frustration, the misunderstandings that escalate into conflict, and how shifting our perspective can foster compassion instead of judgment. This is an honest conversation about connection, communication, and what it really means to show up for each other. Whether you’ve been feeling distant from your partner or just want to understand them better, this episode will help you find the balance between honoring your needs and embracing your differences.
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Resources mentioned:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net/
https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
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How to Navigate and Manage Parenting Conflicts with In-Laws
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we delve into the complexities of managing relationships with in-laws, especially around parenting approaches. Join us as we discuss the common triggers that arise, from differing parenting styles to struggles with boundary-setting. We explore why these tensions often stem from deeper dynamics with our own parents and how these relationships can serve as a mirror for unresolved childhood issues.
Learn practical strategies for setting clear boundaries with in-laws while preserving family harmony, supporting your partner through these challenges, and approaching in-law relationships as opportunities for personal growth.
Tune in to learn strategies for navigating in-law dynamics with patience and authenticity.
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Resources mentioned:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
–📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com/
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net/
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Does Gentle Parenting Actually Work? | Real Talk on Parenting Styles
In this podcast episode, we explore whether gentle parenting actually works, diving into gentle or conscious parenting vs. authoritarian parenting, and their impact. Offering valuable parenting tips and exploring gentle parenting myths, we address common parenting mistakes including the balance between authority and collaboration. We also discuss why parents sometimes revert to authoritarian or authoritative styles and how to blend empathy with discipline. This podcast episode is packed with practical tips, expert guidance, and the pros and cons of various parenting approaches.
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Resources mentioned:
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Lavinia:
https://www.laviniabrown.com
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew:
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer
https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed
Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners.
Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene.
Join us fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice, and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be.
New Zealand