Hardiness with Dr Paul Taylor

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Carly is a counsellor and coach who specialises in building psychological hardiness, which is the ability to navigate challenge, stay engaged, and take meaningful action under pressure. Her work integrates modern psychology with Eastern and Stoic approaches, helping people build resilience, live with purpose, and respond to life’s challenges with greater clarity, courage and steadiness.
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This conversation explores how early life stress shapes the brain, why complex trauma is different from a single traumatic event, and how people can build resilience over time. Dr Paul Taylor speaks with Dr Eamonn McCarthy about forensic psychology, trauma work, performance psychology, and the practical ways therapy, exercise, sleep, and mindset can support change.
Stress can break you—or build you into someone stronger than you thought possible. Dr Eamonn McCarthy reveals why some people unravel under pressure while others turn hardship into resilience, and how trauma, recovery, and reappraisal shape that outcome. Paul and Eamonn trace the full stress continuum, from early life adversity and complex trauma to elite performance psychology. They unpack why uncertainty is so corrosive, how hyper arousal and hypo arousal show up in real life, and why the brain’s survival strategies can be both brilliant and heartbreaking.
They also discuss Larita Academy, a program helping disadvantaged young people unlock their potential, and Mind Your Monkey, which applies resilience and performance principles to executives and high performers.
You’ll discover:
Why adverse childhood experiences can rewire stress responses long into adulthood
The difference between hypervigilance, freeze responses, and emotional numbing
How reappraisal turns shame and trauma into post-traumatic growth
Why resilience is more like a muscle than a trait
How exercise, sleep, nutrition, and even creatine can support psychological change
Why trigger warnings and over-labelling mental health can backfire for some people
Time Stamps
01:47 - From undergraduate psychology to forensic practice
02:36 - Moving from adult offending to childhood trauma
04:27 - Child protection, youth justice, and executive leadership
05:43 - Transference, countertransference, and emotional protection
07:26 - Concerned detachment and what clients actually need
09:54 - The lasting impact of traumatic work on the clinician
11:25 - Why black humour can fail in child trauma settings
12:37 - Why social status changes stress biology
14:03 - Early life stress, the womb, and adverse childhood experiences
15:34 - Complex trauma versus single-event trauma
17:25 - Caregivers as both source of safety and danger
19:02 - Predictability, uncertainty, and survival adaptations
20:54 – Hyper arousal, hypo arousal, and the window of tolerance
24:59 - Stress inoculation, recovery, and building resilience
28:12 - Genes, environment, and why people respond differently
30:11 - How resilience can be trained over time
32:09 - Challenge mindset and self-belief under stress
34:00 - Stress as a muscle and the case against overprotection
35:55 - Why trigger warnings can worsen hypervigilance
38:19 - Mental health versus mental illness
41:37 - Helping people reframe childhood trauma in adulthood
45:02 - Reappraisal and post-traumatic growth
47:17 - Lifestyle, neuroplasticity, and psychotherapy support
49:49 - SSRIs, exercise, and why combined approaches may work better
51:39 - Severe depression, low cortisol, and burnout patterns
52:52 - How Larita Academy was founded and what it does
57:48 - Why Mind Your Monkey was created
59:57 - What “forensic” means in this business context
60:46 - Who the typical client is now

Resources
Website: mindyourmonkey.com.au
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-eamonn-mccarthy-7705aa221/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mind_your_monkey_/
Website: https://www.larita.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larita_academy/

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Most of the fear we live with isn't physical. It's the old thinking we carry from past experiences: the fear of criticism, of not being good enough, of getting it wrong. In this Mojo Monday, Carly explores how fear becomes our reality when we're on autopilot, and how becoming the observer of our conditioned responses creates space to choose what happens next.
Drawing on Krishnamurti and Morita Therapy, Carly looks at fear and desire as two sides of the same coin, and how turning that coin over shifts your focus to what you really want.
In this episode:
Why fear and the truth are not the same thing
How past experiences shape perfectionism and the fear of not being good enough
Becoming the observer of your conditioned response
Fear and desire as two sides of one coin
Doing what needs to be done while the fear runs its own course
Carly is a counsellor and coach who specialises in building psychological hardiness, which is the ability to navigate challenge, stay engaged, and take meaningful action under pressure. Her work integrates modern psychology with Eastern and Stoic approaches, helping people build resilience, live with purpose, and respond to life’s challenges with greater clarity, courage and steadiness.
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