Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Is the idea of attachment parenting new to you and your family? Or could you use a refresher on what secure attachment is and why it matters? Listen to this conversation with Samantha Farris, LMSW, from the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development. She's helping us understand the basics of building secure attachment between parent and child to strengthen our families.
In this episode, we talk about:
How would you describe attachment in the simplest, most hopeful way for a caregiver who’s new to the idea of parent/child attachment? Or who may feel overwhelmed by what they’ve heard and are unsure where to start or start over?
Can you walk us through an overview of the attachment cycle and how it typically develops in infancy and early childhood?
What are some everyday signs caregivers would see that indicate a secure attachment is developing? (even if it’s not “perfect”)
Why does attachment matter so much — not just in childhood, but across a person’s lifespan?
What happens in the brain or nervous system when a child feels securely connected versus chronically disconnected?
How does adding the practice of being “trauma-informed” change a parent or caregiver’s approach to forging that connection with their adopted or foster child?
What are the types of experiences or stressors that kids in our (adoptive, foster, relative caregiving) community may interrupt the natural flow of attachment development?
What are the different attachment profiles or styles, in addition to secure attachment?
What are three common signs that a child might be struggling with attachment?
How might attachment challenges show up differently in toddlers vs school-age children vs. teens?
When a child comes with a history of instability, what helps establish a sense of safety and a foundation of trust? 
What are three things newly adoptive or foster parents can do to nurture attachment in the early days of meeting or welcoming a child home?
When a child needs professional help for attachment challenges, what kinds of therapy or supports have you seen be most healing?
If a parent feels disconnected, what are two things they can do starting today to begin building attachment?
What is one piece of advice you’d give to a brand-new parent or caregiver who has never had to think intentionally about forming attachment before listening to this?
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: When you are preparing your taxes and working out how to maximize this credit and get that $5,000 back, you might find that you want a tax professional to guide you through the filing process. How do you find a qualified, reputable tax specialist who can handle your claim?
Resources:
Finding a Tax Specialist to File Your Adoption Tax Credit Claim
The 2025 Adoption Tax Credit (podcast)
What Documents Do I Need to File for the Adoption Tax Credit - Weekend Wisdom
Adoption Tax Credit - Resource Guide
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Should you consider adopting or fostering a child who is older than a child already in your family? Are there things you can do to make it easier for all the children? We talk to Elizabeth Bohlken, Director of Education and Support at Children's Home Society and Lutheran Social Services of Minnesota, to talk about the preparation, joys, and challenges of disrupting birth order.
In this episode:
What is disrupting birth order?
Why is this a topic that prospective adoptive or foster parents should educate themselves about?
When combining children by birth and adoption, is it better for the adopted child to be the eldest, the youngest, or in the middle?
Is there an age gap that is most recommended or best practice between children when disrupting birth order?
Are there similarities between families that have a blend of children by adoption and birth, and families with blended children from divorce and remarriage?
How much does age really matter?At what age is a child least affected by having their birth order disrupted?
At what age is a child most affected?
Is it best to disrupt the birth order of the eldest or the youngest in a family?

How should parents handle a situation where the newly adopted child is older in age but younger on an emotional or behavioral level?
What steps can prospective adoptive or foster parents take to prepare children already in the home for the adoption of a sibling, especially an older child?
What type of sleeping arrangements should parents use in the first couple of months at home when they are adopting a child who is older than their other children?
What types of behaviors might a parent or caregiver see in the early stages of this new dynamic?
Why is sibling rivalry a common outcome of disrupting birth order?How to handle physically aggressive behavior between children?

Practical tips to ease the transition for all the children in the family.
Parenting mentalities/techniques to help a family adjust to a disrupted birth order?
What is virtual or artificial twinning?
What should parents consider before adopting a child of a similar age (within about 9 months) to a child already in the family?
What are the warning signs that parents need to get help with an adoption that disrupts birth order or involves virtual twinning?
What type of therapies or therapists should families look for to support birth order changes or artificial twinning?
What should parents understand about the risk factors of sexual or physical abuse that a child may have experienced before being adopted or placed in this foster home?
Where and how do parents get help to support their family in the transitions of disrupting birth order?
Resources:
Sibling Relationships (Resource page)

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: How do we handle an adoption that has been closed from the first mom’s end? We don’t even have a photo of her despite our request.
Our #1 Secret Tip for Navigating Open Adoption
5 Tips for Navigating Sticky Situations with Birth Parents
Who Holds the Power in Adoption: Birth Parents or Adoptive Parents?
Where is Mommy? Helping Kids Cope with Absent Parents
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Did you know that the current reigning Miss Kentucky is a foster alum? We spoke with Ariana Rodriguez about her life leading up to the pageant circuit, what motivates her, and how her foundation, The Lucky Ones, is changing foster care experiences for foster kids in Kentucky.
In this episode, we talk about:
You made history as the first Miss Kentucky to have been in foster care. Can you start from the beginning and give us the story that led to this title?
What was it like living with your grandparents? What were the positive changes? What was hardest about this time of your childhood? 
How did that time in kinship care help shape who you are today?
Were you able to stay in touch with your siblings?
What gaps or “pain points” for kids in foster care or kinship care did you experience in those years?
How did these lived experiences begin to transform into a passion or mission for advocacy? Was there a pivotal moment when you said, “This is my platform”?
What personal strengths emerged from your past that you leaned on (resilience, empathy, leadership, etc.)?
How do your childhood and care-system experiences continue to inform your daily life, mindset, or choices?
Are there challenges or triggers that still surface for you because of your past experiences? How do you navigate them?
What are your relationships with your siblings like now? 
Tell us more about The Lucky Ones
Do you have a specific story you can share that illustrates the impact of your work?
Are you gaining new connections and collaborations to help further the mission of your platform?
What’s next for you, personally (as Miss Kentucky, as an advocate, as a leader)?
What’s next for The Lucky Ones? Are there new programs to launch, etc?
What advice do you have for young people currently in the foster or kinship-care system who may feel uncertain about their future?
For foster or relative caregivers?
If you could speak directly to the decision-makers (legislators, social services, educators) about one thing to make a meaningful difference for foster/kinship care kids, what would that be?
Support the show
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
Weekly podcasts
Weekly articles/blog posts
Resource pages on all aspects of family building