Hey Lifers!Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!First up today, thank you so much for the beautiful and encouraging messages we have received about Laura and Matt’s incoming baby girl!! We have a chat about having ‘another’ girl.Huge shout out to the entrepreneurial mums out there that are working to the productivity limits! Vibes for the week: Britt - You Season 5 on Netflix Keeshia - Commbank Travel Money Card Laura - PW Pantry Recipes Then we jump into your questions! NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON5 months ago my fiancé and I broke up, we have a 1.5 year old boy together and are doing our best to stay ‘civil’ for our child. When we broke up my ex asked that I introduce any new partners/ potential step dads to him (my ex) before I introduce him to our son. I agreed and asked for the same in return. But, I recently met a really nice guy who has major potential to be in my future, but it has me thinking that I want to experience what he is like around/with my son before I tell my ex that I’m seeing someone. I have mixed emotions as I do understand where my ex is coming from, but I also don’t want to have to tell my ex when I’m ‘seeing’ someone as this could potentially happen again, and again (if this guy doesn’t work out). Please help a girl out, what do you think is the best option? I’m happy to have the conversation with my ex if the situation needs to change but I genuinely don’t know what to do. HARMLESS CRUSH WHEN MARRIED - NORMAL?I got married recently and adore my husband. I can't fault our relationship at all! However, I'm a nurse at a hospital and have found myself attracted to one of the surgeons at work. I've always thought he is a massive DILF, but I've found myself recently thinking about him even when I'm not at work. I would NEVER act on these feelings at all, I genuinely think they are just like an attraction/lust because he's sexy. We do work together a bit, and I found myself excited when he comes in to see his patients or when I'm assisting in theatre with a surgery for one of his patients. My question is, IS THIS NORMAL? Is it just like a harmless little crush/sort of like a forbidden fruit or fantasy because I know nothing will ever happen? (He is also married/has kids). It also feels sort of wrong thinking about him when I'm not at work? Any advice is appreciated!!PS I don't want to tell my husband about this at all because even though it's harmless I know it will upset him/maybe cause a rift in a relationship for literally no reason! I just want your thoughts about why I keep thinking about this Doctor?!? (And when I say thoughts , they are mostly sexual lol which makes me think it's just a weird fantasy). IS IT RUDE NOT TO WISH KIDS HAPPY BIRTHDAY THESE DAYS?Are ‘Happy Birthdays’ still a thing!? My son just turned 2 and I’m a little upset at the lack of friends and family that actually took the time to message me / call to see him and say happy birthday. My partner seems to think that life just gets busy and people sometimes remember but then forget to do anything about it. But I think that if someone really means something to you then they have no excuse to make the effort?!? The OTT me makes me not want to take my son to see these people, particularly family members who can’t even say happy birthday to him…. Obviously I would never do that but still. I just feel sad for him and I'm not really sure why!! HUSBAND WANTS SEX DAILY - HOW DO I APPROACH THIS?My husband and I have been together for 5 years. When we first started dating we had a great sex life. Overtime I have found that my sex drive has lowered while his is still extremely high. He thinks we have to have sex EVERY day and complains if we miss a day or two, says “he can’t remember the last time we did it” and then wants to play “catch up” and have it multiple times the next day we have sex (which isn’t often given it’s hard to let a day go by without it). I have tried to tell him it’s completely normal to only have sex a few times or week (or at least not everyday) but he won’t have a bar of it. He says I should feel lucky to have a husband who finds me so attractive. He gets hard every time we are in bed together. But all I want sometimes is to just have a cuddle and watch tv without him getting his thing out and the expectation of what’s to follow that. I don’t know how to raise with him because I don’t want sex every single day.I’ve tried jokingly saying it, I try to tell him I’m too tired and try to get out of it when he starts to initiate but at the end of the day I don’t want to hurt his feelings and reject him. I find him attractive and I want to have sex but not as often as he does. It’s exhausting. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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The Best of the Pick Up - Laura & Matt's Baby Gender Reveal
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show: Britt almost fed her niece dog food because she can't read Italian Laura is worried she's graduated from 'falling over' into 'having a fall' Matty J joins the Pick Up for a live Gender Reveal! A woman DIYed her own mole removal so we chatted with Tilly Whitfield from Big Brother (who famously DIYed her tattoo freckles and it DID NOT go well) Matt had an electric bike-related dilemma Meghan Markle reveals why she and Harry call each other 'H' & 'M' You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Lust, Love or LIMERENCE? Uncut with Thais Gibson
It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. We unpack: The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase Navigating different power stages with a partner Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence Can limerence turn into stalking? Conscious dating and wired patterns You can find more from Thais: Website Instagram YouTube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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We have BIG BIG NEWS!
Hey lifers! We really dangled that we had some big news to share today. There was some speculation and it was in one direction. That direction was Britt. First up we get an update on how Britt’s time in Italy was and what the future is geographically looking like for Britt and Ben.Keeshia wonders if you’re the person in the relationship/friendship who turns up to the airport 3 hours before the flight or if you just make it through check in by the skin of your teeth?Then it’s time for our big news!! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Ask Uncut - He Cheated On The Annual Boys Trip & Wants To Go Again
Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions!We missed you! We kind of missed each other 😂We have some really big news coming on Wednesday morning so set your alarms for *checks notes* 5 am. Vibes for the week:Britt - Contour Cube Keeshia - Nala Strapless Padded BraLaura - App Hey You Then we get into your questions! BF CHEATED ON BOYS TRIPI have a no win situation- my partner cheated on me last year on an annual boys trip and we worked really hard to move on. He’s just started talking about where he will be going for this year's trip and I’m devastated!! I don’t want to tell him not to go because I don’t think that it’s right to tell someone what they can or can’t do, but I’m so disappointed that he’s choosing to still go after what happened last year. How do I deal with this? MY BOYFRIEND WON’T STOP PLAYING WITH MY BREASTSHow do I ask my boyfriend to stop playing with my breasts when I'm trying to relax or trying to clean? He adores them, which is great, but they are very sensitive, especially before my period, and I occasionally get turned on when he does it. This is not so good when I'm trying to wash dishes, brush my teeth or literally just watch the tennis! I don't want him to think I don't like it but I’m not sure how to approach the topic around timing? DO MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS DESERVE TO MEET MY BABY?I’m currently 6 months pregnant with my first baby. It’s taken my partner and I over 5 years to fall pregnant so it’s a huge deal for us and we’re over the moon for this next chapter. I have, however, noticed that throughout my pregnancy there is a lack of people in both of our lives who seem to want to even be involved in this new chapter with us. I have various friends who have dropped off the radar since finding out I’m pregnant and who have not once checked in to see how I’m going. My partner also has family members who have also not messaged once to ask how we are after we announced or even ask how our pregnancy is going. Everyone seems to comment on how excited they are to meet the baby and have a nephew, grandchild, cousin etc. I’m feeling really upset. I’m of the mind that once our baby has arrived, these people who weren’t there for us during the pregnancy shouldn’t get an open invite to meet our child straight away, if at all…How would you look at approaching this with them and what would you do in this situation? DO I TELL HIM I KNOW HE’S GOING TO PROPOSE?I've been with my partner for almost 4 years. We have always spoken about getting married and wanting kids and when we first started dating he told me he would propose within 2 years. Our anniversary is coming up next month and I'm pretty convinced he is going to propose on our anniversary because I've seen emails from the jeweller and texts to my mum about it on his phone. I haven't gone looking for information or taken his phone, it just always happens to be the case that these notifications come up when I'm sitting right next to him. I feel bad for knowing this information because I've always told him you'll never be able to truly surprise me because in another life I feel like I worked for the FBI. I want to be genuinely surprised when he does it but not sure that will be the case. Should I tell him that I know he’s going to propose? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.
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