Life Uncut

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas and offer our most passionate, ‘lived in’ (technically unqualified) advice. We’ve got dilemmas of our own and it involves needing to shave our faces… Someone from our facebook group (that you can join here Facebook Discussion Group) is participating in top tier girl code and gamer boy better look out!
Vibes for the week:
Laura - UK Traitors Season 4
Keeshia - Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth
Then we jump into your questions!
I’M A SW BUT DON’T HAVE SEX WITH PARTNER OF 10 YEARS
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we essentially don’t have sex — but he constantly guilts me about it. For context, I’m a sex worker and he spent many years seeing sex workers before we met. We’ve always had an open relationship, and I’m okay with not having sex together given the rest of our relationship is amazing. The issue is that I don’t enjoy sex with him — there’s no seduction, no initiation, and it often feels rushed, painful, and disconnected. I’ve tried explaining that effort and communication matter, but he becomes defensive and turns it into “you sleep with your clients but not me.” Even my clients put more care into my experience than he does (I don’t tell him this). We avoid talking about it because he gets immature and blames me. How do I handle the guilt and resentment, and is this something that can actually be fixed — or am I ignoring a bigger problem?
IS IT CHEATING IF THEY’RE TEXTING BOTS?
Is it considered cheating if your significant other is on apps (e.g telegram) and is messaging “bots” ? A friend of mine has been in a relationship for around 10 months and recently found out her boyfriend had been sending messages to these bots. The messages are on the flirtier side - the bots send through an image of a woman (mostly AI) with minimal clothing and her boyfriend would reply with “” or “looking good” etc. These bots also comment on his appearance, saying he’s hot and sexy etc. She has said that it is cheating and she wants to break up with him as he is seeking sexual validation and attention from these bots. Would love your take on this!
PARTNERS COMING TO GIRLS CATCH UPS?
I am currently on parental leave. Twice this week I have made plans to meet different friends for walks and coffees with their bubbas, and when I arrived, their partners were there as they are on paternity leave! I really love their partners and it’s great to spend time with them too, but I find it strange that in both cases neither decided to give a heads up. Isn’t this just good manners to give a heads up if someone else is joining? But since it happened twice with two different people I'm just thinking maybe I'm overreacting?
JOKES ABOUT HARRY STYLE BEING MY HALL PASS AND BF IS UPSET
I love my boyfriend of four years. He is caring, kind and makes me feel so safe. Recently as you would have heard, Harry Styles is releasing new music. I was very excited about this (as a long time one direction and Harry fan!) and suggested to my boyfriend that we try to get tickets to his upcoming tour! He immediately got upset and said he would never go to a Harry style concert with me again. We went a couple of years ago when Harry was last touring. And apparently he was uncomfortable with how excited I got during the concert and from a joke I made about Harry being my hall pass, and saying how much I love him. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but he feels like I was seriously inferring that I want to cheat on him. I think it’s quite common to joke about celebrity crushes and I would have no issue with home saying the same about dua lipa, for example. I don’t even remember this conversation, because I don’t think I said anything serious. I told him that I must have been making a joke about my celebrity hall pass, and that obviously I don’t actually wish to cheat on him with Harry Styles. It really bothers me that he has been bothered about this for years and never once brought it up with me until now. It’s also hurtful to me that he actually believes that I would want to cheat on him, if given the chance. We’re now not talking, and I think the whole argument is completely ridiculous. Help! What should I do?
IS IT SELFISH TO NOT SHARE MY BABYSITTER DEETS TO FRIENDS?
I am in a big circle of expat friends all with kids all with no family around (aka family who also double up as babysitters on occasion lol). Myself and my partner have recently started to organise some nights out again now that the kids are a little older- 4 and 2. Like I said we've no immediate family here and only 1 lady in our daycare offers babysitting- which my friend already uses and we tend to do things together within our expat circle. Anyway I found a lovely girl offering babysitting on Facebook, organised a meet up to do a vibe check, checked her credentials and we had some mutual friends from home which I contacted and she checked out. She is great and my kids loved her. She has babysat for us twice in the last 5 months and it's such a relief to know we have someone that we can rely on!.. which leads me to my question.. a friend has asked for my babysitter's details. Am I the ahole for not wanting to share them
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Hey Lifers!
Welcome to our first episode of off cuts! This is where we chat about whatever peaked our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!
We chat:
Is your feed filled with post baby 'bounce back' content?
Would you sign away your whole persona for a billion dollars?
Are you protecting your peace, or are you just euthanising your personality?
“No Bare Bums.” Lose the G Strings ladies!
Skyscraper Man and whether parents should take on high risk activities

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Today we are joined again by the phenomenal Elizabeth Gilbert. We recorded an episode with Liz last year titled ‘Being Single Needs A Rebrand’
In that episode we spoke about:
What Liz’s life was like before and after the success of Eat, Pray, Love,
If she were to name ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ again it would be ‘Not exactly what I had in mind’ and
How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships but now feels being emotionally autonomous
Liz’s latest book “all the way to the river” is an incredibly honest recount of her own experiences of sex and love addiction alongside her wife’s journey through drug addiction and terminal cancer.
Today we speak about:
What sex and love addiction actually looks like (it might be more familiar to you than you expect)
What it feels like to be out of control of yourself
Coping with validation cravings, codependency and grief
Why Liz didn’t have a choice but to be honest in this book
Having a deep level of intimacy with your best friend
A revelation about trigger warnings
Being an olympic level people pleaser
Why Liz doesn’t read any reviews anymore and what that’s taught her about our sense of self
The parameters she’s had to put on herself to reach ‘emotional sobriety’
You can find more from Liz at her website
And on her Instagram
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Hey Lifers!
We’re properly back after a few weeks off and we missed you all so much!
We also have a brand spanking new TV show that we are hosting to tell you about!
Our holidays were very different. Britt has been slothing her way into Italian life and objectively not looking her best. Laura has become particularly acquainted with the young pharmacist and is repetitively speaking about how they are not having a 4th child.

None of us took part in the ‘flashback to 2016’ trend because some of us allegedly look like entirely different human beings and those memories deserve to stay in the past!
We all interpreted the memo to create 2026 ins and outs differently. Laura is the only one who understood the assignment but we’ve found an unlikely soberish candidate for 2026.
You’ve likely heard of ‘admin night’ but would you try any of these?
Batch meal prep party
Photo cleanup and memory swap — sort phone photos together and share stories behind old pictures
Clothes edit and swap — declutter wardrobes and do a clothes swap with friends
Inbox detox session — delete, unsubscribe, and organise your email
Password reset party — spend an evening updating passwords and enabling security
Swipe party - where you all swipe the apps together

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Hey Lifers!
Today's ask uncut features special guest and Laura's husband Matt (aka Matty J).
Our favourite mum and dad had some issues getting this episode recorded so it's 11pm and there's whispering in an attempt to keep the 3 kids asleep.
Also Matt would like a plug for Two Doting Dads and most certainly not to be live edited. It's bad for his flow and bad for his juju.
Matt and Laura firstly answer questions about themselves like what their qualifications are... this could be a genuine or a sassy question! They also speak about:
How they've managed going from 2 to 3 kids
How they keep the 'spark' alive
Being asked about gender disappointment
Vasectomy considerations
'Ageing' in the public eye
Plus we answer your dilemmas!
IS HE OVER REACTING TO A PAD?
I was in the bathroom this morning changing my pad and wrapped up the old one in the sleeve of the new one. My step son who is 10 years old came bursting in so I quickly placed it next to the hair dryer. It was just me and him. He likes to talk and ask strange questions so I answered his questions and I honestly just completely forgot about my wrapped up pad. A few hours later I realised that I might not have disposed it because I got distracted by my step son and I asked my partner if he could check. He didn't respond all day. When I got home he completely lost it at me. He raised his voice, snapped and kept going on and on and on calling me disgusting and telling me to clean up after myself. This was all over a little pad that was wrapped up and left on the side table in the bathroom. Now, I'm not embarrassed by this. I couldn't care less but his reaction feels totally over the top. Is this reasonable or is he out of line?
CAN I TELL MY SISTER SHE SELF SABOTAGES?
My sister is 23 which I know is young in the grand scheme of things. She's had about 4 boyfriends in the past 4 years and many situationships in between all of these guys. They have all been absolute flogs except for the most recent one. He is seriously just the best guy. He cares for her so much and he went above and beyond for not only her but our whole extended family. She ended things with him after they had a minor disagreement and is now straight back into a 'hoe' phase. Is there a nice way I can tell her that she has f*cked up and that this boy is a rarity that she will likely not come across again. She's quite defensive but she self sabotages every good thing that comes her way and I'd hate for her to lose a guy who was perfect for her. Please help from a worried sister.
MY PARTNER BAILED ON ME FOR A GAMES NIGHT WITH HIS MATES
My grandfather passed away this week at the age of 95. Today we had the viewing for him. I don't know if this is just a Catholic thing, but it happens a few days before the funeral. My partner told me he could not get off work in time to make the viewing at 4:30, which was fine. He had been there for my family and was taking the day off for the funeral anyway. The main annoying thing though, was that I didn't want our two year old daughter to attend. I was hoping that he could stay at home with her. Now, while I'm at the viewing he messages me to confess that he actually did leave work early today, and had gone to his mates place for a game tournament that they do every year. This had been planned for quite some time. I'd forgotten about it with my grandfather's death, and also the fact that I am three weeks postpartum. We have a three week old and a two year old together. Usually he is a great dad and never avoids looking after the kids, etc. but my main issue is the lie and that ultimately he chose his friends over me and the initial lie about having to work. Am I overreacting with postpartum hormones or is this a deal breaker?

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