Life Uncut

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!
Full transparency: we arrived at the studio at 8am and it took us approximately three hours to record 45 minutes of podcast because sometimes you just have to sit with your friends and feel each other out first. Efficiency is not always the word of the year in practice. We also need to talk about the fact that Roald Dahl — the man who wrote the BFG — was a World War II spy and fighter pilot before he decided to write children's books. And James Blunt was in the military before "You're Beautiful." You can change your career at any point.
Vibes for the week:
Laura - @la_sidhu
Keeshia - Worldle
Britt - Gone on Stan
LOST AT 30
Advice needed for a lost 30 year old. Honestly I’m really struggling being single. I’ve been told my hormone levels are low and the best option is to get my eggs frozen as I’m a single 30 year old. I’m not closed off to doing it but I just feel like a failure and putting it off. I’ve tried dating and any time I think I’ve found someone it’s always the same story ‘you’re amazing but I’ve found someone else, but I still want to be friends’ I’m exhausted with dating but I don’t want to give up because I want the partner and the family all of that. But I just genuinely feel like it’s never going to happen and to just give up on that life I’ve always wanted. How do I get out of this rut, dating is exhausting and the fear of getting my eggs frozen is just all consuming. And honestly I’m shutting down because of it. I just want some advice and preferably not the typical ‘you’ll find love when you least expect It
ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS ‘DATING’ MY EX
One of my best friends is now “dating” my ex. My ex, my best friend and I have all been friends for around 9 years. 1 year ago my ex and I broke up from a 5 year relationship. It was a fairly mutual breakup but it did come from me. Straight away after the break up my friend and my ex started getting really close and spending a lot of time together. I started to question if something was going on between them, which was always a sensitive spot for me during the relationship (as they were pretty close then but not this close). I felt replaced in my ex’s life by my best friend but I tried to move past it and even spoke to both of them about this which they told me nothing was going on. Fast forward to now where I have just found out they have been sleeping together and are in a situationship for the last ~7 months.
I am here to ask you how you would feel in this situation as I am totally over my ex and don’t care if he moves on but not sure how I feel about my best friend and what this means for our friendship. I feel she has totally disrespected our friendship. I think the expected response would be to stop being friends and it’s what I told myself I would do if this happened but now I am here I don’t feel that affected by it. Should I hold a greater standard for our friendship and move on knowing there are better people out there who have my back or should I just move on and continue with our friendship however that may look now? For context she is very distressed about what this means for our friendship.
DO I REACH OUT TO GUY FROM YEARS AGO?
3 years ago I was casually dating two guys at the same time. After about 2-3 months of dating each guy, things started to get serious. I knew it was unfair to continue with both but I found it really hard to choose. Both had great qualities but I ended up choosing Guy A because I felt a deeper connection at the time and he was a friend of a friend (vetted). Fast forward Guy A and I broke up 2.5 years later. It wasn't meant to be. But now I can't help but think, should I try and see if something could work with Guy B? I dont have him on social media so I can't check if he's dating anyone. For context, Guy B messaged me multiple times throughout my 2.5year relationship. Initially he said he'd wait for me if I changed my mind. I never responded out of respect for my relationship. He would message me about mutual interests and even that he saw Guy A and I at a sporting match. Should I initiate conversation? If so, how would I go about it?
MY FRIEND GOT ENGAGED AND I FELT NOTHING AND NOW I FEEL TERRIBLE
My best friend got engaged last weekend and I said all the right things. I screamed, I cried, I asked to see the ring and asked for the proposal story etc. But privately in that first moment when she told me, I felt nothing. Not happy, not sad, just nothing. And now I feel like a really bad friend. Do I secretly not think he's right for her? Am I jealous? Am I just a bad friend? She is absolutely glowing and I feel guilty for not actually being excited for her. What is wrong with me?


TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Three hours of chatting, zero productivity
4:00 — Vibes
12:04 — Q1: I'm 30, single, and been told to freeze my eggs. I feel like a failure.
24:45 — Q2: My best friend has been secretly dating my ex for seven months and lied to my face
36:26 — Q3: I broke up with a good guy for someone else. It didn't work out. Can I go back?
42:45 — Q4: My best friend got engaged and I felt absolutely nothing. Am I a bad person?
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Hey lifers! We're on holidays and that means Matty J is back on the mic!
Matt is now also a TV actor (despite being unaware of the genre of the show) and is joining Laura to answer your Ask Uncut questions! Matt is firm on one thing: this is the LAST time you'll hear from him for at least six months - unless you love it, in which case maybe we'll bring him back.
Then we get into your questions!
HE CHEATED AND DOESN'T KNOW I CAN STILL READ HIS MESSAGES
I charged up my old iPhone that he was previously using and discovered my ex of six years had been cheating on me before we broke up. I can still see his current messages, and I now know he's planning to have the girl over while I'm away on a camping trip. Do I cancel the trip and come home to catch them? Or do I leave it?
HIS CLOSEST FRIENDS DON'T KNOW I EXIST AFTER A YEAR
I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year. His family knows about me. We've travelled together. We've talked about the future. But his friendship group, who are mostly women, have no idea I exist. He says he needs more time to "understand the relationship" before introducing me. Am I being unreasonable?
MY SISTER-IN-LAW LETS HER KIDS TRASH MY HOUSE AND THEN JUST LEAVES
Every time my sister-in-law comes over with her kids, the house gets absolutely destroyed, and then she bundles everyone up and walks out the door without lifting a finger. I love having them over. I just don't want to be the only one who cares about the mess. How do I bring it up without it turning into a fight?
I'M 36, SINGLE FOR 13 YEARS, AND THINKING ABOUT A SPERM DONOR. HOW DO I LET GO OF THE LIFE I IMAGINED?
I've always wanted to be a mum. I've been dating throughout my single years but nothing has led anywhere. Now my fertility is lower than expected for my age, and I'm seriously considering becoming a single mum by choice. But I'm scared I'll be undateable. I'm grieving the family I pictured. And I genuinely
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Welcome back! Matty J is here for the holidays + his acting debut
7:30 — Q1: She charged the old iPhone and can still read all his messages
18:02 — Q2: Long-distance boyfriend whose friends don't know she exists after a year
26:12 — Q3: Sister-in-law who lets her kids trash the house and just leaves
33:30 — Q4: 36, single for 13 years, considering a sperm donor. How do I let go of the life I imagined?
42:00 — Would Matt ever date again?

Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:
Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | Spotify
A Matty J Special: Apple | Spotify
UNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | Spotify
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Hey Lifers! Matt is back; dragged in, as per tradition, to cover the holiday break. They kick off with the state of Matt's chest hair, a debrief on Laura's ten days in India while Matt solo parented three kids and the homecoming argument that kicked off.
Then your questions!Have they ever considered divorce? Matt's answer is a roast chicken analogy. Do they both orgasm every time? Does Laura's ambition test Matt's patience? And there's the small matter of the Daily Mail article after Matt went on a podcast and casually mentioned that they're drowning in debt.
They also get into living with nana, what Matt's tattoos actually mean, whether they'd ever do couples therapy and the vasectomy update.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Matt's back! The half-shaved chest, the India debrief and the homecoming argument
14:15 — How they argue, who apologises first and have they ever considered divorce?
23:30 — The public eye, the Daily Mail debt headline and The Bachelor legacy
33:50 — Laura's ambition, the busyness-anxiety link and would they do couples therapy?
48:20 — Baby number four, the vasectomy update and the pull out method consequences

Want more from Matty J? Listen to our other eps here:
Ask Uncut with Laura & Matt! Apple | Spotify
A Matty J Special: Apple | Spotify
UNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective! Apple | Spotify
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We're back with another Aftermath episode! If you've been lying awake wondering what happened to the people behind some of our most talked-about Ask Uncut questions, same. Today we finally get the updates we’ve all been desperate for!
The Threesome Aftermath
The question that went viral, flooded our DMs for two years, and made Brittany physically reach out and beg for an update. You might remember it: a woman wrote in just weeks before her wedding, after a pre-marriage threesome with her fiancé and a friend resulted in a pregnancy. The condom broke. Nobody said anything. A baby was on the way.
"Don't Sleep With Anyone for a Month"
A woman going through a devastating breakup asked her ex for one thing: don't hook up with anyone for 30 days while she finds her feet. He said he'd try but couldn't promise. We had pretty definitive opinions at the time. So, did he respect it? And did the one-month boundary actually give her the peace she was looking for?
"My Parents Won't Stop Suggesting Names"
A listener at 38 weeks pregnant is being driven up the wall by her mum constantly texting baby name suggestions. Is she being too precious, or is naming your child something sacred between you and your partner? This one spiralled because it turns out Laura, Brittany AND Keeshia have very strong feelings about unsolicited name suggestions (and a personal history involving a chatbot that shall not be named).
"Did I Betray My Friend Group?"
When a group all tries for tickets to a sold-out show and one person scores through a different friend, are they obligated to stay in the original group, even if it means missing out entirely? This one also had a personal twist when it turned out the question may have been written by someone who works in the Life Uncut team.
Have we answered YOUR Ask Uncut? We want your aftermath. Slide into our DMs or send us an email; even if you think nothing interesting happened. We just need to know. We need to put a full stop at the end of that sentence.

Timestamps
0:00 - Intro
4:17 - The Threesome — she finally wrote back
18:12 - The one-month boundary — did he keep his promise?
24:00 - Baby name drama — the baby has arrived
30:58 - Concert ticket drama

Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram
You can watch us on Youtube
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx
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Hey Lifers!
Ben is back for a bonus round because you sent in way too many questions for just one episode!
They kick things off with the reality of living together full time: Ben's answer is "we're doing fine," Britt's answer involves the phrase "truffle pig". Ben shares what it actually takes to make it as a professional footballer and whether he ever tries to get under opponents' skin.
Ben opens up about life pre-Britt, how he knew she was the one, and the biggest fight of their marriage. They also get into the question everyone keeps sliding into the DMs: babies. Britt and Ben speak openly about their fertility journey and what it looks like from here.
0:00 — Welcome & living together full time
7:15 — How to make it as a pro footballer
18:10 — Getting to know Ben: languages, Aussie slang, life pre-Britt and how he knew she was the one
27:18 — The biggest fight of their marriage
38:28 — Babies, fertility and the IVF journey
Want more from Ben? Listen to our other eps here:
Ask Uncut With Britt & Ben! Embryo Custody, Two Potential Soulmates and Finding Out The... Apple | Spotify
Britt & Ben Got MARRIED!! Apple | Spotify
Ask Uncut - Ask Ben Apple | Spotify
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