Life Uncut

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. A question came up in our Facebook Discussion Group about a partner who plays soccer 4 nights per week with a baby and a pregnant partner at home. We unpack whether the prioritisation of exercise is a common ‘issue’ in relationships and whether it’s ‘fair’.
Vibes for the week:
Britt - Amanda Knox Hosts | DOUBT: The Case of Lucy Letby
Keeshia - Pivot podcast
Laura - Love on the Spectrum Season 4 on Netflix
HE LOVE BOMBED ME AND NOW I MISS THE FAKE VERSION OF HIM
I’ve been in a relationship for 7 months now. It started like a movie. He texted constantly, planned elaborate dates, told me I was the one within weeks and even introduced me to his family after a month. I felt more seen than I ever had in my life. Six months in and he's a completely different person now. He’s often distant, distracted and puts in almost zero effort. I know what love bombing is and I know logically that the first version of him wasn't real. But I genuinely miss that version so much that I'm staying in the relationship hoping that one day it might get back to that phase. Do you think it’s worth sticking around and waiting for him to put more effort in and prioritise me like he used to or is this just a normal part of a relationship that turns into a long term relationship? I’ve never dated anyone for more than a few months.
CAN RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE WITHOUT ROMANCE?
I’ve been with my partner now for just over two years. From the start we’ve always talked about marriage and aiming for a long term relationship. We’ve recently moved in together & most aspects are going so well. We’re best friends, have great sex & share the same opinions about big life things. My question is, can a relationship survive without romance? Something I’ve always found difficult & confusing to understand is our lack of romance outside of the bedroom. We’ve had many conversations about it & still nothing has changed. My partner doesn’t buy me flowers, organise dates, plan trips away, write me letters, etc. These have always been initiated by me. It's something I recognised early on in the relationship but I ignored it and brushed it off at first, thinking it would automatically improve.
But I’m now beginning to feel lonely, neglected and resentful of our relationship. My frustration is growing given I have communicated my desires many times and nothing has changed. Do you think my expectations are too high to desire these things? Given it’s my first relationship I’m struggling to understand whether I’m expecting too much
IS PORN RUINING HIS DESIRE FOR ME?
Married for 4 years. My husband & l have an 8 year age gap, l’m in my early 30s & he is in his late 30s. We have no kids yet, currently 5 months pregnant. My husband is a good guy in some areas however l feel we have mismatched libidos which is causing a problem in our relationship. I tend to want sex more than he does. I sometimes try to initiate sex when l feel like it, however most of the time he turns me down which leaves me feeling like shit and rejected. This tends to make things awkward as l really get into my head about it. We seem to only have sex when he feels like it. I don’t want to use a toy on my own as l get intense guilt from using a toy (I’m from a Christian background). l don’t mind when using it with him. I have tried to talk to him in the past however he says he will fix it but nothing has changed.
Recently while l was helping him with something on his phone l found a private browser that was locked and in the browser he had porn websites open. I deleted the browser and didn’t ask him as l didn’t want him to feel like l was snooping around in his phone. This has been bothering me ever since, l have multiple questions in my head and l just don't have the answers to. A few days after l checked again and saw he had the porn browser open again which makes me think that he probably watches porn often. I’m going mad with all these questions in my head. Does he prefer to watch porn than having sex with me? Is he a porn addict? How do l handle this? He doesn’t take feedback well at all; he gets defensive and feels like it’s an attack. We usually have sex once every week to a fortnight. Or maybe l’m just wanting too much.
I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SPLITTING IVF COSTS
After a few unsuccessful rounds of ovulation induction, I am going to be progressing to IVF. The fertility treatment is needed because of my PCOS. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and own a unit together. My partner earns about $15k more than me atm and is currently paying off our car but I have more in savings. I feel like it is fair for me to pay the IVF costs given it is my issue that requires it and I am in the fortunate position that I can afford to pay the whole amount. However, my mum is adamant that this should be a shared cost. My partner is extremely generous and I’m sure would not bat an eyelid about splitting it but I just feel uncomfortable about it. Is this an expression of my guilt that I’m robbing him of the joy of trying for a baby naturally?
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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!
We chat:
Laura's made headlines for her 'wild' birthday party
Bonnie Blue has rage baited us again
The price of privacy and the interior design scandal
Mount Everest guides allegedly ‘poisoned’ climbers as part of a $30 million scam
Fart blocking underwear

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Hey lifers!
Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is friend of the show Mitch Churi! You know his voice, you love his chaos, and he may or may not have broken Brittany's chair during an important TV meeting, but that's a whole other story. Mitch is a comedian, actor, host, podcaster and apparently now a videographer (don't ask).
Then we jump into your questions!
I CAME OUT AT 31. AM I BEHIND?
I came out at 31 and while I have zero regrets about who I am, I sometimes feel quite jealous of people who knew earlier in their life. I feel like I've missed a whole chapter and that my teens and 20s felt a bit fake, like I wasn't even myself. I also wonder if I'm taken as seriously in the queer community because I'm so new to it. My straight friends have a decade of relationship experience on me and I feel like I'm starting from scratch in my 30s. Is this a weird feeling and should I just get over it, or is it a common experience?
CAN I FAKE A DIETARY REQUIREMENT TO AVOID MY IN-LAWS' COOKING?
Is it okay to fake a dietary requirement to get out of a dinner situation? My partner's family does a big group dinner every few months and I genuinely dread it. The food is always aggressively bad. Everything tastes like it has ten times the amount of herbs and spices it should. I've started considering telling them I've developed a gluten intolerance so I have a built-in excuse to either bring my own food or bow out entirely. I am, in fact, not gluten intolerant. Is this really wrong, or would you do the same thing?
MY BEST FRIEND IS TRYING TO BE AN INFLUENCER AND I WANT TO MUTE HER
My best friend has recently started posting so much on Instagram and I think she's trying to become an influencer. It's a mix of fitness and mummy blogging content. She posts stories all day, every day, and usually at least two posts a day. She will sometimes send me posts and ask me to share or comment on them. Am I allowed to just mute her? I love her to death but I cannot take it anymore and find myself eye-rolling every time something comes up. She has around 2000 followers so surely she's not checking who's engaging... right?
MY PARTNER LOST HIS JOB AND I DON'T RECOGNISE HIM ANYMORE
My partner was let go from his job six months ago. He worked in tech sales and it came as quite a shock. He was always motivated, but fast forward to now and he's become a shell of the person he was before. He's tried to find a job in a similar field but has had no luck, and I feel like he's stopped looking as hard. He's sleeping in a lot and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets really defensive and shuts down. Financially we are okay because he was a good saver, but that pot is declining and I'm being expected to cover more and more. Our sex life has completely dried up and we haven't been on a date night in months. I don't recognise him anymore. What can I do to get him, and us, back on track?
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Hey Lifers!
Easter has come and gone and Laura has a very controversial take. She thinks Easter is actually kind of a bad holiday. Britt meanwhile spent four days completely alone; not in a zen way, in a "I didn't speak to a single human for four days" way. She's shining a light on the single people we forget about at family holidays. Britt also accidentally superglued herself to her luxury sheets with press-on nail glue. More on that.
We're deep in the final stretch of Married at First Sight and this part of the episode contains spoilers from the episode that aired last night!
We chat:
Gia finally coming on After the Dinner Party after seven weeks of cancellations
The monkey branching, the lying, and what's really behind Gia's behaviour
Why this season's female-on-female bullying is especially badly timed given the manosphere moment we're in
The Final Vows - Is walking away before letting the other speak taking power back or just plain disrespectful?
Whether you can actually ‘fake’ a relationship for 3 months
What's coming: the reunion episode and a juicy "where are they now" bonus episode
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Love Trapped Podcast
Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix
Laura - La Casa Homewares
Then we jump into your questions!
MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNG
I‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%.
Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this!
BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS)
I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try.

Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together.
DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMAN
Help- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here.
FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACH
Hey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one
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