Miss-Connection Summit

• Dr Justin Coulson | Q&A

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• Taryn Brumfitt | Embrace Your Body

  Timestamps00.21  Justin introduces Taryn01.54  The issue of body image in girls04.56  We were not designed to hate our bodies05.58  Is there a difference in body image issues between boys and girls?07.24  Body image influences social groups, identity, and social media08.58  Beauty is heavily influenced by society10.42  Beauty has nothing to do with how someone looks12.19  How do we stop kids from losing their perception of true beauty? 14.16  Be the role model for fun16.07  Justin and Kylie's first date18.29  Eat the chicken and chips!19.16  How do we teach our girls that our bodies aren't ornaments?23.19  What is beauty?25.04  The way we treat others is beauty26.34  How to frame the conversation of beauty with our daughters27.35  Should you tell your kids they're overweight?29.48  Shaming our kids because of weight tells them that they are not worthy32.12  Don't ever comment on weight loss or weight gain again34.57  How to step into acceptance of your body?39.18  The changes that can come from "embracing" your body41.17  The lens your kids will see their bodies through43.04  Have fun with your body! 44.25  Summary of key points44.52  Final message from TarynTaryn BrumfittTaryn Brumfitt is an internationally recognised keynote speaker and the fiercely passionate thought leader behind The Body Image Movement. Through ‘solution based’ activism, speaking engagements and media appearances worldwide, Taryn is dedicated to spreading the message that our bodies are more than ornaments – they are the vehicles to achieving our dreams.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Martine Oglethorpe | Screens & Your Teen

  Timestamps00.20  Justin introduces Martine01.20  How much screen time is too much?02.15  What are they doing with their screen time?03.56  What effect is screen time having on your child?05.03  What are they missing out on?06.58  The difference between screen use in boys & girls09.20  The impact of social media on our girls13.42  Social media pile-on15.04  How do our daughters deal with media pile-on's?16.20  Role play to walk your daughter through20.45  When a comment becomes personal & "judgey", we need to be able to take a step back21.17  So much of what happens on social media is pointless21.43  Emotional vortex22.15  Instead of replying on social media, connect in person24.32  Take a step back and think before posting25.37  Risks of using social media26.45  How to set up our girls for success on social media28.05  No screens in bedrooms late at night28.42  Make sure you have plenty of time without screens during the day29.13  We need to set up a house in a way that mirrors the values we want 31.05  Have a conversation about why you have screen rules32.44  Look at what's important to you as a family33.13  Try to just ween it back a little bit34.19  Teaching our girls to build boundaries36.37  Positive ways that we can use our devices and/or social media39.49  How should parents respond when things go wrong?41.45  Conversations more than consequences42.23  Take home messageMartine OglethorpeMartine Oglethorpe is a speaker, author, educator and Trusted eSafety Provider with the Office of the eSafety Commission. She has a background in secondary education, a Masters in Counselling and most importantly, is mother to 5 boys. Through her personal and professional work with families she recognises the important role technology plays in the social and emotional wellbeing of young people.Martine is a keynote speaker for parenting and education conferences, presents to parent groups, works regularly with students and provides professional development to teachers. She has a passionate interest in helping schools and families safely navigate the modern world of parenting in a way that offers understanding, as well as practical and realistic strategies to empower parents and schools to teach, guide and support their children, students and communities. Her new book The Modern Parent: Raising a great kid in the digital world is out now and can be purchased from the website themodernparent.net.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Michelle Mitchell | Self Harm

  Timestamps00.12  Dr Justin Coulson introduces Michelle Mitchell & her books01.24  What exactly is self harm?02.09  Stress + Something = Relief for all of us02.40  Self harm appeals to children in middle school because they have such intense emotions02.58  Young people can binge drink to self harm04.01  The aim is to help our young girls move through their intense emotions04.55  A gender divide 06.30  Why are teens today struggling more than teens in the past?07.25  There is very much a copycat or contagious element to self harm08.15  Percentages of teens self harming09.05  You don’t see what you’re not looking for10.27  A lack of connection10.51  Self harm is often linked to poor mental health & family instability11.28  Look for a sense of joy in the child’s life12.32  Giving emotions movement13.05  Nervous bystander energy13.53  Sometimes the girls that look okay on the outside are the ones that are not disrupting the system14.02  Polar opposites of trust and control & fear15.14  Contagion. Should we talk about self harm?16.50  How do we bring up the conversation?17.40  Their initial exposure to the topic has got so much to do with how they build on that in the future18.40  How do parents help?19.06  Three reasons why children self harm & the needs they’re trying to meet. Connection, understanding & a sense of protection.20.41  Make sure kids know that you’re showing up as the bigger person & that there’s nothing they can throw at you that you can’t handle.23.38  How do you get a child to talk?24.55  Self harm is notorious for being very difficult for girls to talk about25.10  When we allow young people to make mistakes, we allow opportunity for growth26.05  Create a consistent routine29.29  Baby steps30.23  Pro self harm spaces on the internet32.11  Using the internet to self regulate & social media to self soothe33.03  When our children are really in danger, part of what we have to do as parents is step up and be protective34.17  What do you do when you’ve got a child who is refusing to ‘get help’?35.09  Zoom out, rather than zoom in. Look at them holistically and try and tip the scales in their favour35.30  “You deserve support right now”35.45  Suggest a trial period36.14  Appeal to their sense of compassion36.48  Leave the door open37.47  Relationships work better when it’s 50/5038.20  We don’t want to squash the sense of compassion but we want them to turn the sense of nurturing back onto themselves40.24  Armed with a few more tools for today, tomorrow can be so much easier 42.43  BONUS TIPS: Create a coping kit, paper chains, & fake tattoosMichelle MitchellMichelle Mitchell is an award-winning speaker, and bestselling parenting author. She has been termed ‘the teenage expert’ by the media and is sought after for her compassionate and grounded advice for parenting tweens and teens. Michelle started her career as a teacher, but soon discovered a special interest in wellbeing. She left teaching in 2000 and founded Youth Excel, a ‘boutique’ health promotion charity which delivered tailor made life skills programs and psychological services to thousands of young people and their families each year. Today she uses her experience to write and speak in schools, community events and through media. Self-harm is distressing and difficult for parents and caring adults to understand, as it seems to go against every instinct of self-protection and survival.Author, educator and award-winning speaker Michelle Mitchell has over 20 years’ experience working with and supporting children, parents and carers as they navigate this confronting mental health concern.In this book and audio presentation Michelle combines her experience with the latest research and interviews with experts and families to provide fresh insights into how to prevent, understand and respond to self-harm and digital self-harm.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Dr Jodi Richardson | Anxiety & Depression

  Timestamps00.20  Justin introduces Jodi01.20  What is anxiety?02.20  Physiological reaction example04.12  When does anxiety become a problem?06.08  Symptoms of dysfunctional anxiety08.15  Anxiety affects what they think, feel, and do10.15  Do children become really defiant and angry if anxiety is high?12.05  Where do kids get their anxiety from?15.02  Why are girls more prone to anxiety than boys?17.15  How is anxiety different from perfectionism?18.40  Jodi’s encounter with perfectionism in her son21.54  Using the question, ‘Is it helpful?’23.39  What to do if your child is feeling anxious24.20  Sleep and anxiety26.35  What to use to help kids who are struggling to sleep29.00  Nutrition and anxiety31.02  Food affects the microbiome in the gut33.11  Stressors34.33  A little bit of stress is healthy35.28  Stressors are different for all people36.24  Check your stress temperature38.15  Modelling and anxiety  39.42  What else can help children manage their anxiety?  40.15  Breathing  41.40  Help kids discover what works for them  42.33  What do I actually do when my child is feeling anxious?Dr Jodi Richardson Through my work as a speaker, author and educator...I share practical, evidence-based insights, strategies and skills to help parents, educators and other professionals, and the children in their lives, find freedom from anxiety, fulfil their potential and thrive.I’m best known for my compassion which stems from my experiences living with anxiety from such a young age. The wonderful people I work with, and for, typically comment that as I share understanding, strategies and skills to help with anxiety, in parallel with some of my own experiences, they know they’re learning from someone who knows anxiety both personally and professionally, and cares deeply about making a difference in people’s lives.I combine nine years of university study with more than twenty years of professional work in education, clinical practice and elite sport. Through this, and my lived experience, I’ve seen it all, heard it all, felt it all, and flourished through it all. My sincere ambition is to assist others to flourish too.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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