On Attachment

In today's episode, we're talking about the delicate balance between compassion for others, and boundaries for ourselves. For those of us who tend towards empathy and curiosity towards others' inner worlds, it's easy to fixate on the "why" behind their behaviours (particularly behaviours we don't like or understand). And while that is an admirable trait, without clear boundaries it can easily veer into self-abandonment. I'll share some thoughts on how to find a balance between compassion and generosity in our interpretation of others' behaviour, while also having clarity and firmness in our self-advocacy and knowing what we can and can't tolerate.  Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In today's episode, we’re diving into what avoidant partner deactivation looks like and how you can respond to this experience in a way that protects your emotional wellbeing and prevents further spiralling and disconnection. We’ll explore the subtle ways avoidant partners create distance—whether emotionally, physically, or in their communication—and how these behaviours stem from their attachment patterns rather than a lack of care or love. Importantly, we’ll talk about what you can do in these moments to maintain connection without pressuring your partner or compromising your own self-worth. Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking all about validation — and specifically, why it is so essential for anxiously attached people in building more security within themselves and in their relationships. Most anxiously attached people are accustomed to feeling chronically invalidated (in part because they tend to do this to themselves), always wondering if they are too much, too needy, too sensitive, too paranoid, and so on. This can lead to over-reliance on a partner or others external to us to determine whether our experience is real and valid.Tune in for a discussion on why validation is so important for anxious attachers, and how we can give ourselves this gift to build more security and self-assuredness. Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns.We'll cover:how periods of grief or loss can trigger abandonment fearsillness and wanting to be cared fordealing with unexpected life challengesperiods of transition or major life changesemotional overwhelm and the need for supportJoin my new membership, On Attachment Insiders today! Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website