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• #179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust

  Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trustThe inverse relationship between trust and controlHow trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blameA powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your valuesThe biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trustWhy building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachmentSelf-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 💌 Join the VIP List for Healing Anxious Attachment's Birthday Sale 💌Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Additional Resources Join Healing Anxious Attachment Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

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• #178: When Your Partner Isn't Meeting Your Needs

  It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced your needs and still don’t see change.In this episode, we’re exploring:Why anxiously attached people so often get stuck around needsWhat to focus on if you feel stuck in a cycle of unmet needsHow to know when it’s a compatibility issue vs. a communication issueIf you’ve ever wondered whether your needs are “too much” or felt torn between self-advocacy and keeping the peace, this episode will give you clarity on how to navigate these conversations with confidence and self-respect.Healing Anxious Attachment's 3rd Birthday Sale! Join the VIP list here.Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Additional Resources Join Healing Anxious Attachment Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

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• #177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxious Attachment

  Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours.In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached peopleThe biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and moreThe comparison trap and how it distorts realityUnhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurityPractical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secureLink to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached PeopleDownload the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Additional Resources Join Healing Anxious Attachment Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

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• #176: Conscious Dating: How to Raise Your Standards & Date from Self-Worth

  In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt every step of the way. This can naturally block us from connecting with others in a way that feels healthy and authentic. We'll cover:the importance of dating with intentionality common mindset pitfallsidentifying your values, non-negotiables and deal-breakersResources mentionedConscious Dating Workshop: Join my Insiders membership on the Premium tier for free access to my Conscious Dating WorkshopHigher Love Break-Up CourseSecure Together Couples CourseDownload the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Additional Resources Join Healing Anxious Attachment Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

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• #175: Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment

  In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.Key themes covered:The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patternsHow perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonmentWhy perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closenessHow perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacyWe discuss practical steps for:Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationshipsMoving from self-criticism to self-compassionEmbracing "good enough" in relationshipsBuilding tolerance for imperfectionShowing up authentically in relationshipsDownload the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Additional Resources Join Healing Anxious Attachment Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

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