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• How Your Anxiety is Sabotaging Your Son’s Motivation

  You can’t effectively boost boys’ motivation until you address YOUR anxiety and fear. We know: You want your son to do his homework. To follow through on commitments. To care.So, when he shrugs, resists, or just doesn’t seem to try, your anxiety spikes — and before you even know what’s happening, you’re caught in a spiral of worry about his future.In this episode of ON BOYS, we talk about one of the most overlooked (but most powerful!) factors in boosting boys’ motivation: your mindset.This episode is the second in our special three-part series on Boys & Motivation. (Find part one here.) We’re diving into the pressure parents feel, the unspoken fear that drives us, and how those feelings affect the way we interact with our sons. Plus, we share why community is key and how coming together with other parents can help you show up more effectively for your boy.Photo by Kindel Media via PexelsTakeaways:Parents’ fear & anxiety can get in the way of helping boys develop motivationBoys change constantly — avoid future-tripping!There are concrete, supportive ways parents can help build a motivating environmentReleasing the pressure (internal and external) makes space for progressWant more support? Join us for Boost Boys’ Motivation: How to Ignite His Spark (Without Nagging or Yelling) — a 3-session live series starting May 6, 2025.Use code ONBOYS to save $50 → boysalive.com/boostLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Overcoming Fears & Worries to Say YES — ON BOYS episodeParent from Love, Not Fear (w Bryan Post) — ON BOYS episodeAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Boost Boys’ Motivation

  It is possible to boost boys’ motivation.Doing so, though, starts with understanding why so boys are unmotivated. A big part of it is developmental: apathy and an “I don’t care/I don’t wanna” attitude commonly show up around puberty. As boy grow from boyhood to adulthood, they begin to question their priorities, interests, and goals. That’s a good thing! AND, it can be incredibly frustrating for parents and teachers who can’t see the behind-the-scenes work, who only see a once-motivated boy pulling back from previous interests and failing to to complete his homework or chores.Photo by Tima MiroshnichenkoTakeaways:Apparent lack of motivation is common during boys’ tween & teen yearsApproaching boys with understanding is a lot more effective than naggingParents and teachers can boost boys’ motivationREGISTER FOR THIS 3-SESSION SERIES (begins May 6th)CLICK HERE: Boost Boys Motivation: How to Ignite His Spark (Without Nagging or Yelling) iUse coupon code ONBOYS to save $50.https://boysalive.com/boostLinks we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Adam Price: “He’s Not Lazy” — ON BOYS episodeListener Q & A: Getting Curious & Motivating Boys — ON BOYS episodeMaggie Dent on How to Motivate Boys — ON BOYS episodePassion = Motivation = Learning — Building Boys Bulletin 2-14-22Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• The End of an Era

  The first episode of ON BOYS podcast went live March 12, 2018. Seven years ago!Over the past seven years, we’ve talked to guests from around the globe: Maggie Dent, Michael Gurian, Amy Lang, ADHD Dude Ryan Wexelblatt, Steve Biddulph, Richard V. Reeves, Ruth Whippman, and so, so many others.We’re talked about puberty, porn, school, ADHD, autism, entrepreneurism, motivation, sports, suicide, consent, respect, dating, and – again — so, so much more.Jen’s boys grew up in that time. Her youngest is now 19; her oldest, 27. Janet became an Oma (a grandma) — and is looking forward to welcoming two more grandchildren this year! Boys’ & men’s issues are now part of national and international conversations, and we hope those conversations fuel continued change. Boys need and deserve our love and support too.This will be the last Jen-and-Janet episode of ON BOYS podcast. We’ve loved sharing our lives & learning with you, and we thank you for trusting us with your questions and stories.Remember: We’ve got seven years of content in our archives! When a new boy-raising concern comes up, run a search in our archives. Odds are good that you’ll find something to help you through. Jen will also continue her Substack newsletter, Building Boys Bulletin, so you can connect with her there. Janet will also continue family coaching — and soon, Jen & Janet will offer another session of their popular class, Boost Boys’ Motivation. (Want to be sure you get the info as soon as it’s available? Sign up for Building Boys Bulletin.)Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/call Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Raising Awe-Seekers (w Deborah Farmer Kris)

  Raising Awe-Seekers, the first parenting book by author Deborah Farmer Kris, outlines a transformative approach to parenting based on joy, wonder, and curiosity.  Science, Deb says, shown that awe isn’t just a feel-good experience—it also helps kids develop resilience, strengthen relationships, and manage stress. But in a world filled with distractions and negativity, how do we nurture awe in everyday life?Educator and author Deborah Farmer Kris joins Jen & Janet to discuss insights from her new book, Raising Awe-Seekers: How the Science of Wonder Helps Our Kids Thrive. She explains why awe is essential for children’s emotional well-being and how simple, daily moments—like watching a sunset, listening to music, or witnessing an act of kindness—can shape a child’s perspective and growth.“Awe helps kids zoom out,” Deborah says. “It reminds them they’re part of something bigger.” And here’s the best part: You don’t need to take your kid on an epic adventure to cultivate awe—you just need to pay attention.Takeaways:Awe can motivate positive action and change.Awe can reduce stress and improve mental health.Collective experiences of awe foster community and belonging.Curiosity is closely linked to experiencing awe.Fostering curiosity in children enhances their learning capabilities. Five minutes a day with your child is protective.Attention restoration theory helps improve focus and learning.The single most common source of awe is goodness.Awe and wonder can transform parenting.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Raising Awe-Seekers: How The Science of Wonder Helps Our Kids Thrive, by Deborah Farmer KrisRaising Awe-Seekers — Deborah’s Substack newsletterHope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness, by Jamil ZakiDeborah Farmer Discusses Emotional Literacy (& Awe!) — ON BOYS episodeBuilding Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/callAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Listener Q & A: Navigating the Complexities of Raising Boys

  How do you respond to a 6-year-old boy who thinks he has to “play rough” to prove his masculinity?How can you make space a small boy’s emotions when you also have other kids to keep on track?And what do you do, exactly, when your formerly potty-trained son starts having accidents at school?These are some of the questions Jen & Janet tackle in this Listener Q & A.Takeaways:Boys often face developmental expectations that don’t align with their actual growth.Rough play can be a way for boys to express themselves, but it needs guidance.School stress and anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms Potty training regressions are common and should be approached with patience.Creative approaches can help redirect a child’s focus during emotional outbursts.Parents should not feel guilty about using screen time as a tool.Seeking support from parenting coaches can provide valuable insights.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:The Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen) — ON BOYS episodeTeacher Tom Talks About Boys, Emotion, & Play — ON BOYS episodeDo Schools Create “Problem Boys?” — ON BOYS episodeMyths & Misconceptions About Boys — ON BOYS episodeBuilding Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s 2nd book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/callAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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