Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

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There's a kind of waiting most ADHDers know well — waiting for someone, somewhere, to say it's okay. Okay to rest. Okay to stop masking. Okay to take the accommodation. Okay to want what you want without justifying it.
In this conversation, we get into the permission slips we keep waiting for, often from authority figures who may not even exist anymore. We talk about why ADHDers wait — the research-backed link between years of childhood correction and adult reliance on external validation — and what that has to do with decision paralysis, rejection sensitivity, masking, and the exhaustion of performing a version of yourself that you didn't sign up for.
Plus the swan, self-determination theory, and a small concrete first step you can try this week.
Links & Notes
Download The ADHD Permission Slip!
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(02:13) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast

(03:23) - Your Permission Slips

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We've all been there: someone offers a perfectly reasonable suggestion, and instead of taking it in, you bristle. You're tired. You're cranky. The last thing you want is advice. This week, Pete and Nikki tackle what happens when ADHD meets fatigue — and why the strategies that usually work suddenly don't.
This isn't laziness. It isn't a character flaw. It's what happens when executive functions are already running on a deficit and you pile fatigue on top. Pete brings the research, including a study showing 62% of adults with ADHD meet the criteria for chronic fatigue syndrome — a reminder that "everybody gets tired" is true, but ADHD brains get tired in a different and vastly more significant way.
The conversation moves from the science to the lived experience: the guilt loop that keeps you from resting, the way fatigue distorts reality until small tasks feel like moral referendums, and the rewiring required to treat recovery as part of the work — not a reward you have to earn.
Plus: why "I don't wanna" might be a capacity check in disguise, the four categories of recovery that actually work (hint: sleep is only one of them), and Nikki's insight that the recovery muscle is built through trial and error, not advance planning.

LINKS & RESOURCES
Past episode referenced: The Opportunity Cost
Past episode referenced: Capacity conversation with Brooke Schnittman
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(03:57) - The Tired Problem

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We've all said it. "I'll deal with it later." And somehow, later never comes. The thing just sits there — not in your calendar, but in your head. It pings you in the shower. It shows up right before you fall asleep. That's an energy leak.
This week, Ari Tuckman returns for his sixth appearance to unpack what's actually happening when we tell ourselves "later." What is the ADHD brain doing in that moment? Are we making a real decision, or just kicking the can? And how do we tell the difference?
We dig into:
The two flavors of procrastination — not feeling the future vs. avoiding the discomfort
Why "later" needs a "when," and what specificity actually changes
The difference between a task that needs doing and a decision that needs making
How to close an open loop that's been open way too long
Going toward positives vs. avoiding negatives, and why one of those is more sustainable
Time estimation, and why some things aren't knowable until you start
Ari's new book, the ADHD Productivity Manual
Guest Spotlight
Ari Tuckman, PsyD is a psychologist, author, and international presenter specializing in ADHD. He's given more than 600 presentations and podcast interviews across America and nine other countries, and is the author of four books: ADHD After Dark, Understand Your Brain, Get More Done, More Attention, Less Deficit, and Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD. He chairs the CHADD Conference Committee. This is his sixth appearance on the show.
Links & Notes
Ari's website: https://drarituckman.com
Ari on Instagram: @AriTuckmanPsyD
Books by Ari Tuckman:ADHD After Dark
Understand Your Brain, Get More Done
More Attention, Less Deficit
Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD
ADHD Productivity Manual

(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(02:00) - Join us over on Patreon!

(03:00) - Introducing Ari Tuckman

(03:53) - "I'll do it later..."

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You've heard it before, probably said it yourself: time blocking doesn't work for me. Every block that slips becomes one more piece of evidence that you've failed the system — or that the system has failed you. So this week, Nikki and Pete try something different. They change the word.
Nikki walks through three terms that get thrown around in planning circles — intentional planning, time blocking, and the one she's been reaching for more and more lately: flexible scheduling. Pete pushes back (gently, mostly) on why we need a new word for something that was never supposed to be rigid in the first place. And together they unpack the real reason so many ADHDers bounce off scheduling: it's not the strategy, it's the story we tell ourselves when the strategy bends.
Along the way: the dangerous allure of hyperscheduling and why it only really works if your livelihood is measured in billable minutes; why time blindness isn't a reason to skip time blocking (and why estimation was never the point); the spoon theory and scheduling around energy instead of just hours; and Pete's brand-new metaphor — age of time — for thinking about margin, buffer, and what it feels like to live three weeks ahead of yourself instead of one day behind.
Plus, Nikki drops another download: Your ADHD Schedule Starter, a short, practical guide for building a flexible schedule step by step, with a reflection section built in so you can keep adjusting as you go. Link in the show notes.
Links & Notes
Your ADHD Schedule Starter (free download)
Unapologetically ADHD by Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer — the book behind the framework
Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
GPS Planning Membership — Nikki's coaching community for planning, capture, and workflow
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(01:32) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast

(02:46) - Talking Schedules

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There's a moment every ADHDer knows: you open the task manager, see the sea of red, and close it again. This week, Nikki and Pete sit with that moment — and with what it's actually telling you.
The instinct is to blame the tool. Something's wrong with the app, the planner, the notebook. Time for something new. But what if the tool is doing exactly what it's supposed to do, and the thing you're really avoiding is something else entirely?
Nikki walks through the two non-negotiables of any planning toolkit, why hybrid systems quietly fall apart in the in-between stages, and the one thing she asks every new one-on-one client to do within a week. Pete confesses to running four systems at once, lays out his tool-finding intestines on the table (his words, not ours), and makes the case for why your app isn't just an app — it's a lifeline. Plus: FOBO, task rot, the moral weight of a few simple minutes, and why the best tools are the ones that ask you to pay for them.
Stick around for Nikki's brand-new download, Your Planning Tool Finder — a short guide to the questions worth answering before you pick your next tool. Link below.
Links & Notes
Your Planning Tool Finder (free download)
Unapologetically ADHD by Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer — the book behind the framework
GPS Planning Membership — Nikki's coaching community for planning, capture, and workflow
Support the show on Patreon — early ad-free episodes, livestream recordings, members-only Discord: 

(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

(02:30) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast

(03:21) - Talking Tools

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