Rebel Momma Pod

The Adulting with ADHD is now Rebel Momma Pod 🔥. We're exploring what's not in the brochure about neurodivergence, midlife and burnout.
New episodes dropping soon 👊

Productivity advice rarely works for ADHD brains, not because you're lazy or undisciplined, but because most systems are built for neurotypical consistency.
In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah talks with Robert Simms, founder of Embodied Resilience Wellness Clinic, registered social worker, Indigenous practitioner, and neurodivergent adult, about designing home and money systems that actually work with your brain, not against it.
Robert shares how discovering his own neurodivergence later in life reshaped how he approaches routines, finances, and daily structure. Instead of relying on motivation, discipline, or "just try harder," he explains how neuro affirming systems focus on variability, interest, energy fluctuations, and external supports.
They explore why traditional productivity advice often fails ADHD adults, and how small environmental tweaks, not willpower, create sustainable change.
In this episode, we talk about:
What "neuro affirming" actually means in daily life

Why consistency doesn't work the way we think it should

Externalizing executive function with reminders, automation, and visual cues

Removing shame and guilt from missed tasks and imperfect follow through

Designing systems around strengths like hyperfocus and pattern recognition

Why "inconsistently consistent" is a realistic goal

Robert also shares practical home and money hacks, including:
Set it and forget it bill automation when financially safe to do so

Simplifying bank accounts and credit cards to reduce overwhelm

Creating small financial buffers for predictable emergencies

Using visible, contained systems for everyday items like keys, wallets, and kids' clutter

The five minute rule for task initiation

Rotating routines instead of abandoning them when interest drops

One of the most powerful reframes in this conversation: your home should function like an accommodation. If the outside world isn't built for your brain, your personal systems can be.
Neuro affirming systems are not about doing more. They are about building support structures that match how your brain actually works, with flexibility, compassion, and less shame.
Resources mentioned:
Embodied Resilience Wellness Clinic – www.embodiedresilience.ca
Robert's weekly YouTube live series, "All Things Neurodivergence"
Follow Embodied Resilience on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube

People pleasing and rejection sensitivity are common struggles for adults with ADHD, especially in work and relationship settings where power dynamics and fear of disapproval are present.
In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah talks with licensed therapist Billy Roberts, owner of Focused Mind ADHD Counseling, about why people pleasing develops and how it connects to rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), trauma responses, and self worth.
Billy explains how many ADHD adults learn to manage fear of rejection by prioritizing others' needs, avoiding conflict, and taking on too much responsibility. While this can feel protective in the moment, it often leads to burnout, shame, and feeling disconnected from your own goals and identity.
Together, they explore how people pleasing shows up in daily life, from over apologizing and over explaining to avoiding honesty and self advocacy. Billy also shares small, practical ways to begin shifting these patterns with more awareness and self trust.
In this episode, we talk about:
– Why people pleasing is common in adults with ADHD
– How rejection sensitive dysphoria influences behavior
– The "fawn response" and its role in relationships and work
– Overcommitment, over responsibility, and over accommodation
– Conflict avoidance and ADHD masking
– How shame can make honesty feel unsafe
Billy also shares practical strategies, including:
– How to recognize when you are people pleasing
– Ways to practice being more honest in low risk situations
– Why self awareness is the first step toward change
– How telling the truth builds confidence and agency
– Why learning to trust yourself supports healthier communication
If you often feel responsible for other people's emotions or afraid to speak up at work or in relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and realistic starting point for understanding why — and how to begin changing it.
Resources mentioned:
Focused Mind ADHD Counseling
Billy Roberts' upcoming book on people pleasing and ADHD
Adult ADHD therapy and coaching services

Rejection sensitivity and communication challenges at work are often misunderstood, especially for adults with ADHD.
In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah talks with leadership coach and CEO of Collaborate Consulting, Trystan Reese, about how rejection sensitivity can affect workplace interactions and self advocacy. Trystan shares how understanding brain based differences can help people approach work challenges with greater clarity and confidence.
Together, they explore why asking for support can feel difficult, how fear of negative feedback can influence behavior, and how small shifts in communication can improve workplace experiences for neurodivergent employees.
This conversation offers a practical reframe: instead of focusing on what feels hard, we can focus on what helps communication feel clearer and more effective.
In this episode, we talk about:
What rejection sensitivity is and how it relates to ADHD

Why feedback can feel challenging in professional settings

How to think through possible outcomes before making requests

The difference between emotional discomfort and real risk

Why preparation and practice support better communication

How to align requests with shared workplace goals

Why body awareness and regulation can help before difficult conversations

How self understanding supports self advocacy

Trystan also shares practical tools and examples, including:
A step by step approach for evaluating concerns

Ways to request clearer expectations or meeting information

Simple communication scripts for everyday situations

Why practicing conversations can increase confidence

How reframing internal narratives supports growth

If workplace communication feels stressful or uncertain, this episode offers a supportive and realistic approach focused on clarity, preparation, and self trust rather than fear or perfection.
Resources mentioned:
Collaborate Consulting
Trystan Reese coaching and training services
Neurodivergent leadership and workplace inclusion programs

Clutter is often treated like a motivation problem but what if it's really a systems problem?
🎙️ In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah sits down with ADHD and autistic decluttering specialist and podcast host Heather Tingle, founder of Untangled by Tingle, to explore how home organization, dopamine, and executive function are deeply connected for adults with ADHD. Heather shares how her own experience living in chaos led her to create decluttering methods that work with neurodivergent brains instead of against them.
Together, they unpack why consistency can feel so hard with ADHD, how perfection based organizing systems create burnout, and how decluttering can become a source of safety rather than another area of pressure or shame.
💬 This conversation offers a compassionate reframe: instead of asking "Why can't I stay organized?" we can start asking "What makes my space easier to live in?"
🧩 In this episode, we talk about:
✨ Why traditional decluttering systems don't work for ADHD and autistic brains 👀 How dopamine and visibility affect motivation and follow through 🏁 Why finishing matters more than starting 🧠 How executive dysfunction impacts home organization 🎶 How competition, music, and time limits can increase momentum ❤️ Why emotional attachment matters more than logical rules 🪜 How small, bite sized tasks make decluttering more achievable
🛠️ Heather also shares practical strategies, including:
⏱️ How to "beat the kettle" or a song with a tiny decluttering task 📦 Why gathering similar items into one visible place helps ADHD brains 🤝 How body doubling and shared accountability reduce overwhelm 🎮 How turning decluttering into a game builds motivation 🌱 Why starting with the smallest possible step creates success 🗺️ How treating decluttering as a "side quest" lowers resistance
🌈 If clutter feels overwhelming, emotionally loaded, or impossible to maintain, this episode offers a gentler way forward one that centers dopamine, ease, and self compassion instead of perfection.
📚 Resources mentioned:
🎧 Decluttering Untangled podcast by Heather Tingle 🏡 Untangled by Tingle (professional decluttering services) 👥 Untangled by Tingle Declutter Community (Facebook group)