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Breaking Free: Neil Strauss on Healing Trauma to Build Authentic Love | Ep59
Sometimes, love and relationships aren’t as straightforward as we’d like them to be. This week, we sat down with Neil Strauss—a famous Writer for the Rolling Stone magazine and New York Times Bestselling Author, known for his thought-provoking works, including "The Game" and "The Truth," and for pulling back the curtain on what really goes on beneath the surface of love and connection. Neil opened up about his personal journey, from the world of pick-up artistry to his quest for something deeper and real. If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel so intense or why it’s hard to trust, you’re going to find so much in his story that hits home.
We didn’t hold back in this episode, diving straight into the fears we all carry about love and why those fears often drive us in directions we don’t expect. Neil’s perspective on attachment styles and the impact of our past experiences is not only eye-opening but also deeply validating. You’ll hear us share our own struggles with trusting intentions in relationships, especially when the past is hard to shake. Neil’s wisdom brings a whole new understanding of how we can transform those old patterns and finally find peace with our needs.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions in relationships or just can’t seem to find someone who “gets” you, this episode is for you. Neil’s stories, advice, and raw honesty left us inspired and ready to take on love with a fresh perspective. Join us for a deep, unforgettable conversation on love, trust, and the power of vulnerability.
Key Timestamps
[00:02:52] Transition from pick-up artistry.
[00:05:18] Emotional safety in relationships.
[00:08:30] Self-fulfilling prophecies and trauma.
[00:11:28] Toxic masculinity and emotional safety.
[00:15:23] Psychopaths and their control.
[00:17:28] Intention versus emotional safety.
[00:20:30] Attachment styles in relationships.
[00:25:35] Unspoken expectations and resentments.
[00:31:26] Empath women and narcissistic men.
[00:35:49] Parenting styles and emotional attunement.
[00:40:07] Spiritual awakening and self-discovery.
[00:41:57] Healing through emotional availability.
[00:47:37] Spiritual celebrity interviews.
[00:49:19] Commitment vs. connection in relationships.
[00:52:40] Manifestation and personal boundaries.
Memorable Quotes
"You can tell a trauma is at work or there's something you need to heal if you have the exact opposite result of your intention. Meaning that my intention is to make sure I don't get abandoned, but my behavior is getting me abandoned."– Neil Strauss
"Sadness, pain, anger, hurt, love, all those things are feelings, but a thought would be betrayed. Like, what is the feeling of being betrayed? When you're betrayed, when you imagine, when you make up that you're betrayed, you feel sad. So, you want to be careful not to make accusations as feelings, like betrayed and disrespected. A lot of times someone might feel disrespected, but the person didn't tend to disrespect." – Neil Strauss
Where to Find Our Guest
Website: https://www.neilstrauss.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neil_strauss/
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Why Every Great Love Story Needs Conflict: Lessons From Powerful Couples | Ep 58
Intimacy can be transformative, but what happens when we make it sacred? This episode dives into the raw, transformative power of sacred sexuality through the stories of three couples who’ve been through it all—breakups, reunions, and those messy, beautiful moments that define a relationship. They’re sharing how rituals and shared practices have not only strengthened their bonds but helped them navigate conflict in a way that feels... well, sacred. Whether you're coupled up or just curious about deeper love, this one will make you see connection in a whole new light.
When it comes to conflict, these couples are refreshingly honest, offering a glimpse into the ways they tackle tough times together. They’ll talk you through some seriously cool approaches to handling disagreements—think “calls to greatness” instead of arguments. It’s all about building something that feels safe, respected, and still exciting. They’re not just sharing tips—they’re giving a genuine look at what it takes to build trust, feel seen, and truly support each other. It’s the kind of understanding that goes beyond advice and into the heart of what makes love last.
And, in perhaps the most beautiful part, they explore what “home” means in a relationship—a feeling of joy, safety, and shared purpose that isn’t easy to put into words but is felt deeply. Whether you’re partnered or single, these stories will get you thinking about love, connection, and how we all crave that deeper sense of belonging.
Key Timestamps:
[00:01:43] Sacred sexuality and relationships.
[00:03:54] Energy fluency and kundalini activation.
[00:09:06] Common expressions during orgasm.
[00:15:07] Evolution in relationships.
[00:18:31] Compromise versus settling in relationships.
[00:20:28] Relationship ethos and values.
[00:31:14] Parenthood deepens love and commitment.
[00:37:58] Communication in relationships.
[00:39:27] Safe words in conflict resolution.
[00:52:23] Relationship priorities and dynamics.
[00:55:20] Gender dynamics in relationships.
[01:00:12] The power of feminine love.
[01:08:29] Energy creation in relationships.
[01:12:58] Scheduling intimacy in relationships.
[01:17:24] Peak life experience.
Memorable Quotes:
"Get rid of the idea that sex is only about pleasure because sex is about life itself. And so if you want full spectrum aliveness, you have to open yourself into a portal of sexuality that allows you to express the fullness of your being."– Layla Martin
"Sacred sexuality is… instead of needing to look outside for that aliveness, you really get to find it in your partnership—and it's because of the partnership, and the safety of your partnership that you get to then go so deep." – Johann Urb
"Once your kids... your children come into the world, then you understand the word compromise—because your life changes for them, as well as for each other, because you have to help make each other better parents and be there for each other." – Richard Schiff
Where to Find Our Guests:
Layla Martin’s Website: https://laylamartin.com/
Dr. Baback Amen’s Website: https://www.dramenfunctional.com/
Sheila Kelley’s Website: https://bysheilakelley.com/
Richard Schiff’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therichardschiff
Rachel Pringle Urb’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/positivepringle
Johann Urb’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/urbjohann
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Find Love and Heal Fertility Blocks with Marisa Peer Hypnosis | Ep 57
A few words can alter a lifetime, and few understand this better than Marissa Peer, a world-renowned Psychologist, Best-selling Author, and the Founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). Today, you’ll hear about her journey from teaching aerobics for Jane Fonda to becoming a sought-after therapist for high-profile clients like the late Princess Diana. Marissa reveals how her revolutionary RTT approach moves beyond conventional therapy, focusing on immediate, deep-seated change that reshapes lives. If you’ve ever wondered how your own beliefs might be affecting your physical health and well-being, you’re about to get some eye-opening answers.
Marissa doesn’t just talk about mind-over-matter; she shows how beliefs can change the way our bodies function, sometimes even causing physical pain or making it harder to conceive. She shares her take on emotional blocks, the ones we barely realize we carry but that impact us in ways we might not expect. Her approach invites us to empower ourselves by questioning what we’ve been told and taking charge of our own healing. By the end, you’ll have practical ways to start making those shifts yourself.
Whether you’re struggling with something specific or just curious about the mind-body connection, Marissa’s wisdom will feel like a gentle wake-up call. This conversation is all about how we can start healing from the inside out, challenging old stories, and taking back the power to create real, lasting change in our lives.
Key Takeaways:
[00:01:02] Impact of eating disorders.
[00:06:17] Fertility myths and realities.
[00:11:47] Role of migraines and illness in healing.
[00:19:46] Think better thoughts, heal the body.
[00:27:02] Decode and rewire beliefs.
[00:32:24] Negative expectations of motherhood.
[00:35:42] Baby blocks and fears.
[00:44:39] Soulmate blockers and imprints.
[00:45:41] Relationship beliefs shape outcomes.
[00:50:23] Fear of rejection in relationships.
[00:55:51] Social media and happiness impact.
[00:56:12] Flaws in relationships.
[01:01:44] Spirituality vs. Psychology in Healing.
[01:11:01] Fertility begins in the brain.
[01:16:09] Worthiness of love and self-acceptance.
[01:19:21] Attracting and manifesting love.
Memorable Quotes:
"If you can just think better thoughts all the time, your body is doing its job of making your thoughts real. Your job is to think better thoughts so your body can make those real." – Marisa Peer
"Imagination is more powerful than knowledge. And about having logic and emotion, emotion always wins. And every thought you think is a blueprint, and here's one more, the strongest force in you is you must act in a way that lines up with how you identify you." – Marisa Peer
Where to Find Our Guest:
Website: https://marisapeer.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMarisaPeer
Twitter: https://x.com/MarisaPeer
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/MarisaPeer1
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themarisapeer
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Why You Should Resist Institutions for the Sake of Your Children | Ep 56
Most of us want the best for our children, but what if the very institutions we trust are actually steering our kids in the wrong direction? In this episode, Dr. Shefali, a renowned Conscious Parenting Expert and Bestselling Author gets real about how we can break away from the pressure of mainstream culture—competition, materialism, all of it—and help our kids stay connected to who they really are. She digs into how social media, AI, and these societal norms are messing with our mental health and our kids’ sense of self.
You'll hear about "the matrix" and how it pulls us apart, but more importantly, you'll get some practical ideas for how we can push back against it. Dr. Shefali doesn’t hold back on showing how we can raise kids who are more aware, resilient, and able to tune out the noise. If you’ve ever felt like your family is caught up in the grind of it all, this one's for you.
Whether you’re a parent or just someone wanting a little more clarity in this chaotic world, this conversation will leave you thinking differently. Dr. Shefali’s approach feels like a wake-up call, but in the best way—reminding us to be more intentional and connected with our kids and ourselves. You won’t want to miss it!
Key Takeaways:
[00:02:34] Resisting the matrix trends.
[00:06:41] Social media and separation.
[00:12:40] Unculturing ourselves from societal norms.
[00:12:59] Culture's dysfunction and personal identity.
[00:20:02] America's blood-stained history.
[00:21:13] The burden of historical oppression.
[00:27:38] Change from the oppressed.
[00:30:40] World centrism and identity evolution.
[00:35:06] Rise in consciousness over conflict.
[00:39:34] Leadership and blame dynamics.
[00:44:12] AI's role in future optimism.
[00:48:10] Parental influence on religion.
Memorable Quotes:
"I believe it is the consciousness of the parent that defines the evolution of the future. If what is going into the child's mind is a whole load of pollution and contamination, then you will get the racist, sexist, ageist, ethnocentric adult who will spill blood because they were taught that this is who it is they are." – Dr. Shefali
"I think it is extremely unconscious of parents to have their own attachment to a mythical, unproven existence of an external, never-seen being, and then force their children to believe in that mythical, never-before-seen." – Dr. Shefali
Where to Find Our Guest:
Website: https://www.drshefali.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorshefali
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefali
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorshefali/
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The Spiritual Path That Led Big Sean to Fame and Success | Ep 55
Fame can be a wild ride, filled with both exhilarating highs and daunting lows, and Big Sean knows this all too well. As a Multi-Platinum Recording Artist with hits that have topped charts worldwide, he opens up about the ups and downs of his journey, sharing how spirituality has been a guiding force in his life. You’ll hear about the moment he signed with Kanye West at just 18 and the whirlwind of emotions that came with it. Plus, he shares his thoughts on the art of manifestation and how what we think we want isn’t always what we truly need.
As he opens up about his experiences, Big Sean also gets real about the importance of mental health and self-care, reminding us that taking care of ourselves should be a priority—not just something we think about when times get tough. He reflects on his relationship with his son and how he hopes to instill confidence and resilience in him so that he can hold onto his inner child.
Joining us is Marie Diamond, a Feng Shui Master, who helped Big Sean realign his space to better reflect his goals and intentions—showing how our surroundings can really change your vibe and significantly influence our success. Get ready for an episode filled with raw insights and genuine moments that can resonate with anyone navigating the challenges of fame, self-love, and the ongoing journey of personal growth.
Key Takeaways:
[00:01:41] The tunnel of fire.
[00:05:06] Inner child and spirituality.
[00:09:59] Faith and personal growth.
[00:18:34] Daily self-care lifestyle shift.
[00:23:01] Meditation and success misconceptions.
[00:25:57] Manifestation and its process.
[00:31:12] The wall of frustration.
[00:34:31] Oprah's influence on energy awareness.
[00:38:04] Spiritual connections through feng shui.
[00:43:27] Work environment and productivity.
[00:56:50] Generational trauma and healing.
[01:01:15] Manifesting goals through Feng Shui.
[01:04:16] Celebrities embracing energy healing.
Memorable Quotes:
"It (meditate) actually creates more time. When you get into these, whatever you want to call them, practices, rituals, daily things — it really gives you more time. It's because it gives you clarity. So the clarity will multiply the output that you are doing that you think you're accomplishing without doing it. I really, truly, I mean, I know that for a fact that these practices, these things — they multiply your amount that you do so. If you're already living your best life, I think applying some of these concepts will even heighten it more and free up more time." – Big Sean
"A cluttered environment is a cluttered mind. And so, chaos around you will create chaos in your heart, in your mind, in your life, literally. You will start attracting because we are attracting what we are, but we're also attracting what we live in." – Marie Diamond
Where to Find Our Guest, Big Sean:
Website: https://www.uknowbigsean.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigsean/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/uknowbigsean
Twitter: https://x.com/BigSean
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bigsean
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bigsean
Where to Find Our Guest, Marie Diamond:
Website: https://www.mariediamond.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariediamondofficial/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mariediamondfans
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