The Confidence Chronicles

I had someone ask me recently:
"What are you actually scared of?"
And it made me realise something...
I'm scared all the time.
Not because I'm doing something wrong.
Because I'm constantly building, creating and stepping into bigger rooms.
In this episode, I share why fear has become one of my greatest teachers, how I've stopped seeing it as something to avoid, and why the opportunities you're dreaming about are almost always hiding on the other side of uncertainty.
If you've been waiting to feel confident before making your next move, this conversation is exactly what you need.
In this episode:
• why confidence doesn't come before courage
• how to use fear as fuel instead of letting it stop you
• why uncertainty is part of creating anything meaningful
• the mindset shift that helps you focus on possibility instead of worst-case scenarios
You don't need to eliminate fear.
You simply need to stop believing it means you shouldn't go for it.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here:
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Also available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and all major audiobook platforms.
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My high-level mentorship for ambitious women ready to build visibility, influence and lasting success.
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✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
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Chapters

00:00:00 Fear Can Become Your Greatest Teacher
00:00:20 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:17 My Face Hurts From Smiling: Everything Is Finally Working Out
00:02:30 I'm Always Scared: The Truth About Living in Fear
00:03:06 Confidence Feels Like Shit: The Reality of Chasing Your Dreams
00:03:50 Born and Raised in Uncertainty: My Beautiful Relationship With the Unknown
00:04:52 Life Is Unknown: The Whole Thing Is a Question Mark
00:06:19 Your Brain Is Amazing at Being Right: Stop Looking for the Bad
00:08:22 Fear and Excitement Feel the Same: Choose Your Story
00:08:53 We're Going to America: Embracing Possibility Everywhere
00:10:13 I Was Petrified of My TEDx Talk: Using Fear to Fuel You
00:10:37 What If Everything You Want Comes True?
00:11:50 There Is No One on Planet Earth That Isn't Scared of Something
00:13:22 Let Your Fear Fuel You, Not Freeze You
00:13:38 You Want a Big Life? Buckle Up, It's Going to Be Petrifying
00:14:23 See You in Boston: FFFCon 2026

Last night, something happened with my son that I'll never forget.

What started as tears over something seemingly small turned into one of the most healing moments I've ever experienced as a mother.

Not just for him.

For me.

As someone who grew up with trauma, I realised in that moment I wasn't just parenting my son. I was re-parenting the little girl inside of me who never had someone help her process her emotions.

It reminded me that every therapy session, every difficult conversation, every tear, every breakthrough and every piece of healing work I've done over the years wasn't just changing my life.

It was changing the way my children experience theirs.

If you're a parent, or you're doing the work to heal from your own childhood, I hope this episode reminds you that your healing matters more than you know.

In this episode:

• the emotional moment that completely shifted the way I saw my own healing

• why regulating your nervous system is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children

• how breaking generational patterns happens in everyday parenting moments

• the lesson that left me crying in the shower with gratitude

If this episode resonated with you, send it to another parent who needs this reminder.

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book

Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA:
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA

Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/

LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

Website
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/

TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES

Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI

Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022

YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI

All platforms
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

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Chapters

00:00:00 The Generational Trauma We're Not Passing Down
00:00:23 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:20 A Self-Acknowledgement Cry in the Shower
00:02:29 Why Nervous System Regulation Matters for Parents
00:04:36 The World Cup Wake-Up Calls: When Parenting Gets Real
00:07:48 The Meltdown Moment: When Your Kid Is Full of Anger
00:12:10 Nobody Ever Taught Me How to Process Anger
00:10:41 Holding Space for My Son to Release His Anger
00:11:41 Underneath Anger Is Sadness: The Breakthrough
00:13:44 Breath Work, Tapping, and Settling the Nervous System
00:16:12 Your Internal Work Is the Gift You Give Your Children
00:18:28 They Model Who You Are Being, Not What You Say

You don't build a powerful personal brand by waiting until you feel confident.
You build it by being audacious enough to show up while you're still scared.
In this episode, I'm sharing why audacity, not confidence, is the real reason some people create incredible opportunities while everyone else stays stuck waiting to feel ready.
If you've been holding yourself back because you're worried about what people think, you're second-guessing yourself, or you're waiting for the "perfect" time, this conversation is for you.
Your personal brand isn't built by playing it safe.
It's built one brave decision at a time.
We talk about:
why audacity is the real foundation of a powerful personal brand
how to become magnetic by showing up before you feel ready
what it actually feels like to build confidence in real time
why your biggest opportunities are waiting on the other side of courage
If you're ready to become impossible to ignore, this episode is for you.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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Chapters

00:00:00 The Most Audacious Person Always Wins
00:00:14 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:08 Audacity Means You're Scared as Hell But Doing It Anyway
00:02:29 Introducing the Audacious Personal Brand Masterclass
00:03:26 You Are That Big Sister Slapping You Around With Love
00:04:18 Every Opportunity Starts With Having the Audacity
00:05:02 Confidence Feels Like Shit: The Reality of Audacity
00:05:45 Five Minutes Before Every Stage: The Nervous Reality
00:06:18 Audacity Happens Before the Moment Arrives
00:07:05 The Day I Meet Tony Robbins: I'm Going to Vomit and Die
00:09:48 You Already Have a Personal Brand
00:11:16 When You're Audacious, You're Magnetic
00:11:36 Your Personal Brand Is Built One Brave Decision at a Time
00:12:33 I Don't Give a Fuck What You Think About Me
00:13:09 Do What You Can: Starting My Podcast in My Car
00:13:28 Go Left When Everybody's Going Right
00:14:27 Have the Audacity to Be Who the Fuck You Are
00:15:05 Category of One Energy: How to Cut Through the Noise
00:15:51 Someone Doesn't Like You? Who Gives a Fuck?
00:16:08 You Swear Too Much: Yeah Bitch, I Swear in My Intro
00:16:55 Say It With the Most Audacity and We Will Follow
00:17:57 Come to the Personal Brand Masterclass: Comment the Word Brand
00:18:23 The Number One Thing We're Missing: Permission to Be Audacious
00:18:50 The Internet Be Lying: It's Nerve-Wracking
00:19:40 Audacity Is a Decision You Make
00:20:07 How Are You Different? That's When You Start Attracting Everything
00:21:05 Thank You for Listening: Share This With a Woman Who Needs It

If You're Over 40, You Need to Hear This

If you've found yourself wondering whether you're still relevant, whether you've been left behind or whether younger creators have something you don't, this episode is your reminder.

Your experience isn't a disadvantage. It's your greatest competitive edge.

Erika shares why so many women over 40 lose confidence online, how comparison steals your power, and why your lived experience is something no trend, algorithm or AI can ever replace.

We talk about:

why so many women over 40 are questioning their confidence

the hidden cost of comparing yourself to younger creators

how to reconnect with your experience, wisdom and authority

why your next chapter can become your biggest one yet

If you're over 40 and building a business, changing careers or stepping into a new season of life, this episode will remind you exactly who you are.

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?
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Chapters

00:00:00 The Comparison Crisis: Why Women Over 40 Are Second-Guessing Themselves
00:00:36 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: This One's For You If You're Over 40
00:01:57 Feeling 28 at 43: Refusing to Believe in Age Limitations
00:02:42 What You're Really Comparing: Experience vs. Confidence
00:04:37 This Is Not a New Problem: Every Generation Faces This
00:07:06 You Forgot What You Built: Remember Who You Are
00:09:09 The Internet Rewards Loud, But Business Rewards Trust
00:12:04 Stop Outsourcing Your Authority to Younger People
00:14:34 You Are a Category of One: Stop Asking How to Be Like Her
00:18:25 Midlife Reinvention: Who Am I Now and What's Important?
00:21:08 Am I Relevant? The Question You Should Be Asking Instead
00:22:46 Your Experience Is Yours Alone: Nobody Can Take That Away
00:24:06 Get High on Your Own Supply: Remember Who You Are

Have you ever looked at someone online and wondered why they're so much further ahead than you?
In this episode, Erika shares why comparison is one of the fastest ways to destroy your confidence and why most of us are comparing completely different lives without even realising it.
From age and motherhood to money, support systems and life experience, there are countless factors we never see behind someone's success. Yet we compare ourselves anyway.
This conversation is a reminder to stop measuring your life against someone else's timeline and start focusing on building your own.
We talk about:
why comparison without context is keeping you stuck
the hidden factors you're forgetting every time you compare yourself
how social media distorts success and fuels self-doubt
practical ways to come back to your own lane and rebuild confidence
If you've been feeling behind lately, this episode will help you see yourself, and your journey, differently.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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