The Confidence Chronicles

I am so fucking excited about my life right now.
And I don’t say that because everything is perfect.
I say it because I know what it feels like to experience loss, grief, trauma and moments where you genuinely don’t know how you’re going to find your way through.
Those experiences taught me something I wish I could somehow transfer directly to you:
Your life is precious, and it is happening right now.
Not when you have more money. Not when your business grows. Not when you find the relationship. Not when the kids get older. Not when you finally feel confident enough.
Right now.
In this episode, I want to talk about the areas of our lives where we’ve accepted stagnation, unhappiness or “this is just how it is”, and what happens when you decide you’re no longer willing to live that way.
In this episode:
• what feeling stagnant can reveal about what you actually want
• why your hardest seasons can become the beginning of an expansion
• how I’ve learned to turn fear into excitement when I’m doing scary things
• why creating a life you love ultimately becomes your responsibility
Maybe you’ve outgrown the person you used to be.
Maybe the relationship, career, business, friendship or life that once fit you doesn’t anymore.
That doesn’t necessarily mean something has gone wrong.
Maybe you’re expanding.
You are here. You are breathing. There are still things you want to experience, people you want to love, places you want to go and dreams you want to chase.
Go fucking live.
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→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
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You can be brilliant, hardworking and incredibly capable, and still find yourself being overlooked.
But what if the problem isn't only what's happening around you?
After speaking at a women in tech event, I left thinking about how many incredible women are frustrated that they're not being heard, recognised or given the opportunities they deserve, while also struggling to speak up, set boundaries, advocate for themselves and communicate what they actually want.
There are absolutely barriers women face in workplaces and leadership.
But this episode is about the part we have the power to change.
I'm talking about radical responsibility, the stories we carry about ourselves and how those beliefs can quietly influence the way we show up, lead and allow other people to treat us.
In this episode:
• why working harder isn't always what gets you recognised
• how your internal narrative can follow you into every room
• what changes when you start advocating for yourself and your career
• why confidence and self-trust are essential for women who want to lead
If you're waiting for someone else to notice how capable you are, recognise your contribution or finally give you the opportunity you've been hoping for, this episode might challenge you to look somewhere different.
At yourself.
Because when you stop outsourcing your power, everything changes.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
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When Bad Bunny announced his Australian tour, we thought we were just going to a concert.
We had no idea it would change everything.
What started as two Puerto Rican women trying to find their people became a growing community of Puerto Ricans and Dominicans across Australia. From WhatsApp groups and concerts to parties, new friendships and families finally finding each other, this episode is about creating community instead of waiting for it.
This isn't just a concert recap.
It's a conversation about belonging, identity, culture, courage, and finally finding home on the other side of the world.
In this episode, we talk about:
• how Bad Bunny's tour unexpectedly united Puerto Ricans across Australia
• what happened when we realised there were far more of us than we imagined
• why community doesn't happen by accident
• what this experience taught us about belonging and connection
Whether you're Puerto Rican, Latino, living overseas, or searching for your people, this is a reminder that sometimes one person willing to bring people together can change everything.
🎥 WATCH THE FIRST EPISODE
Before this community came together, Yadi and I sat down to talk about Puerto Rican identity, diaspora, cultural grief, and what it means to carry your roots while building a life in Australia:
https://youtu.be/2Z3D36sK4fI?si=f8QHupwyGE2g2N57
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
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Chapters

00:00:00 How Bad Bunny Brought Puerto Ricans Together in Australia
00:00:27 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:24 From Eight Puerto Ricans to Eighty: The WhatsApp Explosion
00:04:18 The Bad Bunny Super Bowl Moment That Changed Everything
00:05:34 We Tried to Get Bad Bunny to Our Party: Shooting Your Shot
00:07:58 The Pre-Concert Gathering: Finding Each Other Before the Show
00:08:45 Concert Night: Collecting Puerto Ricans Like Pokemon
00:09:26 Cultural Appropriation or Appreciation: The Puerto Rican Flag Everywhere
00:10:25 Exchanging Phone Numbers With Strangers: Instant Family
00:11:31 The Magic of Finding Your People: Serendipity at the Stadium
00:15:26 Bad Bunny's Team: Coffee, Culture, and Community on Tour
00:16:39 General Admission Chaos: Too Old for This But Here We Are
00:18:49 Meeting Erica Peña: When Your Favorite Designer Flies From Bali
00:20:09 Surprise Guests From America: Friends Flying In for the Experience
00:20:37 The Tears, The Tequila, The Pure Joy: Concert Emotions
00:20:58 The Spontaneous Street Party: When the Concert Ends But We Don't
00:21:58 Australia Wakes Up to Puerto Rico: The Cultural Impact
00:23:43 From Concert to Community: Planning the Christmas in July Parranda
00:24:46 Erica Invites 80 Strangers to Her House: What Could Go Wrong?
00:25:20 The Parranda: Puerto Rican Christmas Party Down Under
00:26:07 Six Pernils and Endless Rice: When Puerto Ricans Bring Food
00:28:31 The Kids Dancing With Flags: Passing Down Culture to the Next Generation
00:32:52 PR and Media Coverage: Telling the Puerto Rican Australia Story
00:34:19 The Mangrove Effect: How Community Creates Ecosystem
00:37:20 Supporting Each Other: From Opera to Personal Training
00:35:00 The Courage to Take Up Space and Make Noise
00:38:54 We're Not Alone Anymore: The Gift of Finding Your People
00:40:33 Stay Curious: Finding Similarities in Different Cultures
00:39:53 We Invited Puerto Rico to Australia: Final Reflections

I had someone ask me recently:
"What are you actually scared of?"
And it made me realise something...
I'm scared all the time.
Not because I'm doing something wrong.
Because I'm constantly building, creating and stepping into bigger rooms.
In this episode, I share why fear has become one of my greatest teachers, how I've stopped seeing it as something to avoid, and why the opportunities you're dreaming about are almost always hiding on the other side of uncertainty.
If you've been waiting to feel confident before making your next move, this conversation is exactly what you need.
In this episode:
• why confidence doesn't come before courage
• how to use fear as fuel instead of letting it stop you
• why uncertainty is part of creating anything meaningful
• the mindset shift that helps you focus on possibility instead of worst-case scenarios
You don't need to eliminate fear.
You simply need to stop believing it means you shouldn't go for it.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here:
https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Also available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and all major audiobook platforms.
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
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♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for ambitious women ready to build visibility, influence and lasting success.
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For conferences, corporate events, leadership programs and women's events across Australia and the USA.
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
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Website
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TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube
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All podcast platforms
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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Chapters

00:00:00 Fear Can Become Your Greatest Teacher
00:00:20 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:17 My Face Hurts From Smiling: Everything Is Finally Working Out
00:02:30 I'm Always Scared: The Truth About Living in Fear
00:03:06 Confidence Feels Like Shit: The Reality of Chasing Your Dreams
00:03:50 Born and Raised in Uncertainty: My Beautiful Relationship With the Unknown
00:04:52 Life Is Unknown: The Whole Thing Is a Question Mark
00:06:19 Your Brain Is Amazing at Being Right: Stop Looking for the Bad
00:08:22 Fear and Excitement Feel the Same: Choose Your Story
00:08:53 We're Going to America: Embracing Possibility Everywhere
00:10:13 I Was Petrified of My TEDx Talk: Using Fear to Fuel You
00:10:37 What If Everything You Want Comes True?
00:11:50 There Is No One on Planet Earth That Isn't Scared of Something
00:13:22 Let Your Fear Fuel You, Not Freeze You
00:13:38 You Want a Big Life? Buckle Up, It's Going to Be Petrifying
00:14:23 See You in Boston: FFFCon 2026

Last night, something happened with my son that I'll never forget.
What started as tears over something seemingly small turned into one of the most healing moments I've ever experienced as a mother.
Not just for him.
For me.
As someone who grew up with trauma, I realised in that moment I wasn't just parenting my son. I was re-parenting the little girl inside of me who never had someone help her process her emotions.
It reminded me that every therapy session, every difficult conversation, every tear, every breakthrough and every piece of healing work I've done over the years wasn't just changing my life.
It was changing the way my children experience theirs.
If you're a parent, or you're doing the work to heal from your own childhood, I hope this episode reminds you that your healing matters more than you know.
In this episode:
• the emotional moment that completely shifted the way I saw my own healing
• why regulating your nervous system is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children
• how breaking generational patterns happens in everyday parenting moments
• the lesson that left me crying in the shower with gratitude
If this episode resonated with you, send it to another parent who needs this reminder.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA:
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/
LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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Chapters

00:00:00 The Generational Trauma We're Not Passing Down
00:00:23 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:20 A Self-Acknowledgement Cry in the Shower
00:02:29 Why Nervous System Regulation Matters for Parents
00:04:36 The World Cup Wake-Up Calls: When Parenting Gets Real
00:07:48 The Meltdown Moment: When Your Kid Is Full of Anger
00:12:10 Nobody Ever Taught Me How to Process Anger
00:10:41 Holding Space for My Son to Release His Anger
00:11:41 Underneath Anger Is Sadness: The Breakthrough
00:13:44 Breath Work, Tapping, and Settling the Nervous System
00:16:12 Your Internal Work Is the Gift You Give Your Children
00:18:28 They Model Who You Are Being, Not What You Say