The Confidence Chronicles

My love, I want to bring back a conversation from the Confidence Chronicles archives because I think it's a reminder so many ambitious women need.

You do NOT have to choose between hustling yourself into burnout and sitting around waiting for your dreams to magically happen.

There's another way.

And it starts with understanding the difference between hustle and hunger.

Hustle can get you moving, especially when you're starting out. But when you're constantly operating from fear, scarcity or the need to prove yourself, that energy can eventually leave you exhausted.

Hunger is different. It's the fire behind your purpose, your vision and the impact you're here to make.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to recognise which energy you're operating from, the questions I ask myself to stay aligned, and practical ways to keep your ambition alive without burning yourself out.

Because baby, I don't want you to stop dreaming big.

I want you to stay hungry for the life you're building. 👑

🌴 MIAMI — THIS IS YOUR LAST CALL!

And if you didn't know already, while I'm here in Miami, I'm hosting Positioned, Paid & Published with Maha Abouelenein!

It's an intimate, full-day personal branding workshop where we'll work on your visibility, reputation, media opportunities, stages and your 90-day action plan.

If you're ready to make a bigger impact and become known for what you do, I'd love to have you there.

🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special listener offer.

👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

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Chapters

00:00:00 Why Working Harder Isn't Growing Your Business
00:00:43 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:40 The Difference Between Hustle and Hunger
00:03:44 The Burnout Story That's Keeping You Stuck
00:05:35 When Hustle Is Actually Useful and When It's Not
00:06:30 Hunger Is the Fire That Sustains You
00:09:12 How Hard Work Became Part of Erica's Identity
00:12:07 Tapped Into Purpose: Why Erica Does What She Does
00:13:00 Fear Checks You, But It Shouldn't Run You
00:14:16 Hunger Is Knowing Where You're Going
00:16:07 Check Yourself: Are You Moving from Fear or Desire?
00:16:39 The Sticky Test: When to Walk Away
00:17:46 Using Struggle as Fuel When You're Starting Out
00:18:27 Comfort Can Kill Your Hunger
00:19:56 The Stories You Tell Yourself Become Your Reality
00:21:20 Does This Energy Feel Expansive or Exhausting?
00:22:36 When People Project Their Limits Onto You
00:25:25 How to Stay Hungry Without Slipping Into Hustle
00:26:43 Tip 1: Set Goals That Are Intentional and Outcome-Driven
00:27:56 Tip 2: Rest Without Guilt—It Fuels Your Hunger
00:29:30 Tip 3: Define What More Means for You
00:32:35 Tip 4: Surround Yourself with People Who Expand You
00:34:15 Tip 5: Feed Your Fire Daily
00:37:28 Stay Hungry, Stay Grounded, Go After What's Yours
00:38:09 The Queen's Table: Your Invitation to Expand

Have you ever been so focused on what's next that you've forgotten how far you've already come?
I'm coming to you from Florida, where I had a moment by the pool that completely broke me open.
Years ago, I looked up at the Florida sky screaming and crying after losing my husband. This week, I looked up at that same sky and cried again. But this time, it was because I finally stopped long enough to see the life I've created.
My husband. My beautiful children. My business. Speaking on stages across America.
There was a time when I genuinely thought I was cursed. That I wasn't worthy. That my life would never turn out the way I dreamed.
And now? I can't believe how far I've come.
This episode is a reminder for every woman who's been working so hard to build her future that she's forgotten to acknowledge everything she's already survived, overcome and achieved.
IN THIS EPISODE:
The emotional moment in Florida that brought my past and present together
Why ambitious women struggle to celebrate how far they've come
How the hardest chapters of your life can shape who you become
Why you can be grateful for what you have and still want more
Please take a moment today to look at your life and say, “I'm proud of me.”
Because I am so fucking proud of you 👑
🌴 AND WHILE I'M HERE IN MIAMI…
If you've been following this journey, you know how much it means to me to be back in America, sharing my story, speaking on stages and doing work I once never imagined would be possible.
And if you didn't know already, while I'm here in Miami, I'm hosting something really special with Maha Abouelenein!
It's called Positioned, Paid & Published, an intimate, full-day personal branding workshop for women who are ready to stop being overlooked and start becoming known for what they do.
We're getting hands-on with your personal brand, your story, your visibility and your next moves. Think media, stages, building your reputation and creating a real 90-day action plan.
I'd absolutely love to have you in the room with us.
🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special listener offer.
👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?
Please subscribe so you never miss one. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything to us!
Chapters

00:00:00 You're So Focused on What's Next, You've Forgotten How Far You've Come
00:00:39 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:36 Recording from Florida: The Speaking Tour Reality Check
00:03:05 The Poolside Breakdown: When Gratitude Hits You Like a Wave
00:05:35 From Screaming at the Sky to Living the Dream
00:06:30 The Medicine You Give Is the Medicine You Need
00:06:57 Tell Yourself You're Proud: The Reminder We All Need
00:08:03 Sharing the Moment: Why Vulnerability Matters for Your Brand
00:09:13 Your Past Doesn't Break You, It Makes You
00:11:22 The Bad Shit Is the Bridge to Your Dream Life
00:13:12 My Kids Watched Me Keynote: The Moment That Changed Everything
00:14:11 You're Responsible for Your Life: Radical Responsibility Reminder

I'm in Miami, and I want YOU in the room! 🌴👑
I'm hosting a special full-day event with Maha Abouelenein called Positioned, Paid & Published.
If you're ready to build your personal brand, get visible, land stages, pitch the media and become the obvious choice in your industry, this is for you.
This is an intimate, hands-on workshop where you'll leave with a 90-day action plan for your personal brand.
🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special Confidence Chronicles listener offer.
👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published

Everyone wants the big vision.

The money. The freedom. The impact. The team. The visibility.

But are you actually willing to become the person capable of building it?

Hamish and I are coming to you poolside from Miami because we've been noticing something with business owners lately that we need to talk about.

This isn't me telling you to hustle yourself into the fucking ground.

It's about being honest about what you want and what you're willing to do to get there.

In this episode:

Why a big vision requires a completely different level of action

What happens when you stop being willing to learn

Why outsourcing everything could be costing you far more than money

The problem with comparing your chapter two to someone else's chapter 29

You don't have to build a massive business.

But if that's what you genuinely want, you can't expect the dream without being willing to grow into it.

🎟️ POSITIONED, PAID & PUBLISHED — MIAMI

Want to build your authority, personal brand and become known for what you do?

Come spend the day with me and Maha Abouelenein at Positioned, Paid & Published in Miami.

Use code PPP20.

👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?
Please subscribe so you never miss one. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything to us!

Chapters

00:00:00 The Soft Girl Era Trap: Why That Advice Doesn't Apply to You
00:00:54 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:50 Recording Poolside in Miami: The Reality Behind the Scenes
00:05:21 The Hustle Myth: You've Worked Hard, But Business Doesn't Care
00:11:45 Tip #1: Always Be the Student—Even at 50
00:13:12 Tip #2: Be Honest About Your Vision—Do You Really Want to Be Tony Robbins?
00:15:14 Tip #3: Learn Before You Pay—Or You'll Get Taken for a Ride
00:19:13 Tip #4: You're a Beginner Until You Hit Seven Figures
00:21:18 Tip #5: Build a Loyal Team Inside Your Company
00:23:04 Don't Believe Everything You See on Social Media

Gina Zapanta is a lawyer, entrepreneur, mother of four and founder of Empowered with Gina.

So naturally, I wanted to know:

How the fuck does she do it all?

Her answer?

“I have it all because I don’t do it all.”

And THAT is the conversation.

In this episode:

Why women need to stop measuring their worth by how much they can carry

What Gina learned about success by watching the way powerful men operate

Why opening doors for other women creates more abundance, not less

How Gina thinks about failure, success and building a life on her own terms

We also talk about motherhood, money, service, friendship, gatekeeping, representation and the next big dream Gina is finally bringing to life.

You’re allowed to build a big life without carrying every part of it alone.

🎟️ POSITIONED, PAID & PUBLISHED — MIAMI, OCTOBER 21

If you’re a woman in business ready to build your authority, elevate your personal brand and become known for what you do, come join me and Maha Abouelenein in Miami for Positioned, Paid & Published.

This is for the woman who knows she has something powerful to say and is ready to position herself, get visible and get paid for her expertise.

Use code PPP20.

👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here:
https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ THE QUEEN’S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA:
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?
Please subscribe so you never miss one. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything to us!