The Confidence Chronicles

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Yadi, an anthropologist and fellow Puerto Rican living in Australia, to talk about what it really means to live far from your motherland and still keep your culture alive.

There are less than 1% Latinos in Australia.
There are even fewer Puerto Ricans.
No restaurants. No food. No community hubs. No shared language in the streets.

And yet… here we are.

This conversation was inspired by Bad Bunny bringing his global tour to Australia, selling out two massive shows, and reminding us how deeply culture lives in the body, especially when you’re far from home.

We talk about diaspora, displacement, identity, grief for the motherland, and the responsibility of keeping culture alive for our children when it’s not reinforced by the environment around us.

This episode is for anyone who has ever:
• Left their home country
• Missed their people, food, music, or language
• Felt invisible in a dominant culture
• Had to become the culture carrier
• Built family and community from scratch

✨ IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:

• What it’s like being Puerto Rican in a country that doesn’t know Puerto Rico
• The grief and beauty of living in diaspora
• Relearning what our grandmothers knew instinctively
• Raising children with cultural pride far away from home
• Why music, food, and language matter more than we think
• Finding each other when “your people” barely exist
• Celebrating Puerto Rican identity in a non-latin country

💛 FOR THE IMMIGRANTS, THE DISPLACED, AND THE DIASPORA

If you’ve ever felt homesick for a place that shaped you,
If you’ve ever had to explain who you are, again and again,
If you’ve ever worried about your kids losing their roots…

This episode is for you.

You’re not alone.

Chapters

00:00:00 Celebrating Puerto Rican Culture Down Under
00:02:05 The Miracle Meeting: Finding Family 16,000 Miles From Home
00:09:12 Seeds Planted: How a Mother's Dream Sparked a Journey
00:12:51 From the Bronx to the World: A Puerto Rican Upbringing
00:14:47 The First Flight: Italy at Fifteen and Finding Identity
00:33:35 Kidnapped at Seven: Erica's Traumatic Puerto Rico Story
00:34:51 Bad Bunny's Gift: Music as Cultural Healing
00:59:31 The Diaspora Experience: Living Between Worlds
01:07:19 Bailé Inolvidable: The Quinceañera Dance That Connected Generations
01:23:08 Building Community in Foreign Soil
01:33:40 The Concert Countdown: Bad Bunny Comes to Australia

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If you’re doing all the “right things”
Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional…
But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in,

This episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading.

This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless.
It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology.

In this episode, we cover:

Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistency

How “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respected

The subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safe

Why neutral brands are forgettable brands

How confidence and trust are felt, not forced

What shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspective

If you’ve ever thought:
“I don’t want to upset anyone”
“What if people judge me?”
“I should probably tone this down…”

This episode will challenge you in the best way.

You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere.

👑 WANT MORE OF THIS?

I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember.

If that’s something you’d want:
👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram
or
👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.”

Your responses will decide if I run it.

Chapters

00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand
00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts
00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There
00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise
00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically
00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice
00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions
00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics
00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass
00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet

📲 LET’S CONNECT

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Or, if you’re listening on Spotify, drop a comment:
What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions?

Because the moment you stop performing for approval…
Your brand starts working for you.

Before you even open your mouth, people are already feeling you.

Your energy walks into the room before your words do.

This lesson is all about presence, not performative, not loud, not forced.

We’re talking about grounded, magnetic energy that holds weight. That commands respect.

You’ll learn the psychology of presence, how to shift your nervous system into calm confidence,
and how to use breath, posture, and stillness to take up space without overcompensating.

This isn’t about being the loudest.
It’s about being the most anchored.

Because when you’re regulated, rooted, and intentional—people listen.
Not because you yelled…
But because they felt you.

Chapters

00:00:00 The Energy You're Broadcasting Right Now
00:00:22 You Don't Have to Be Loud to Be Powerful
00:00:45 Energetic Presence: How to Be Felt Without Speaking
00:01:15 The Lion in the Room: Understanding True Presence
00:03:08 What Presence Really Is: Safety, Confidence, and Congruence
00:04:35 The Insecurity Trap: How Self-Obsession Kills Presence
00:06:41 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal
00:08:02 Your Nervous System Doesn't Lie
00:09:24 Confidence Is Frequency: Contracting vs. Expanding
00:09:55 Are You Leaking or Anchoring Your Power?
00:10:47 Commanding Attention Without Overcompensating
00:11:18 The Power of Stillness and Silence
00:12:21 Body Language Mastery: Posture, Movement, and Eye Contact
00:16:30 The Final Shift: Becoming the Lioness in the Room

✨ Reflection Prompts:

👑 What kind of energy do you usually bring into a room? Is it grounded, chaotic, avoidant, performative?
👑 What does it feel like when someone walks in and you can immediately sense their presence?
👑 What would it look like to bring more intention into your presence this week—at a meeting, a dinner, or even a social media post?

👑 WORK WITH ME

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High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.
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👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

📚 MY BOOKS

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

📲 LET’S CONNECT

If this episode hit, let me know.

👉🏽 Come and DM me on Instagram and tell me where you noticed yourself leaking or anchoring your power.
👉🏽 Or leave a comment on Spotify and share what landed for you.

If you’re ready for a massive identity shift, this episode is for you.

Because you don’t become your future self by “trying harder”, you become her by deciding who she is, then moving like her until your life catches up.

In this episode, I’m teaching you the method that changed my identity, changed my life, and created “The Queen of Confidence” version of me.
It’s called the Alter-SHE-go Method.

The practice that helped me go from a shy, traumatised, playing-small version of me, to building the Queen identity and everything that came with it.

We talk about:

Why identity comes before results, every time

The biggest trap people fall into, “when I have it, then I’ll be it”

The real shift, Be, Do, Have

Why this is not fake, and what to do if you feel cringe trying it

The science behind it, enclothed cognition, and why what you wear changes how you perform

How I used Alter Shigo energy to do scary things, including stepping onto big stages

The questions to build your future self, her values, standards, boundaries, style, beliefs, and energy

The real challenge, taking action as her, not just journaling about her

This is your reminder that the future version of you is not coming to save you, she’s waiting for you to meet her.

Mentioned in this episode

Watch Beyoncé talking about Sasha Fierce (Alter Ego energy):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtTlFW9_sTI

Chapters

00:00:00 Welcome to the Alter Shego Experience
00:00:30 The Origin Story
00:01:45 Main Character Energy and Becoming Magnetic Preview
00:02:59 The Confession: From Hot Mess to Queen of Confidence
00:06:36 Why Confidence Matters
00:08:39 The Five Steps to Becoming Magnetic Framework
00:09:24 Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce: The Alter Shego Method
00:10:18 Flipping the Script
00:13:42 Forget Fake It Till You Make It: Just Make It
00:16:25 The TEDx Story: Alter Shego in Action
00:20:00 The Science Behind Dressing the Part
00:21:16 Let's Create YOUR Alter Shego
00:24:20 Don't Confuse Your Future Self With Your Present Self
00:26:09 The Challenge: Share and Embody Your Alter Shego
00:28:49 The Final Question

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If you don’t plan your year, your year will plan you.

And most people don’t realise this until they’re exhausted, overbooked, chasing goals that never landed, and wondering why the life they wanted still feels just out of reach.

In this episode, I’m walking you through exactly how Hamish and I plan our entire year in just a few focused hours, and why this process has changed everything for us, our business, our income, our energy, and our family life.

This is how we stop reacting and start leading a year on purpose.

In this episode, we cover:

Why pipe dreams stay pipe dreams without structure

How your calendar quietly dictates your income, content, and capacity

The power of choosing a word of the year and letting it guide decisions

How we map an entire year without burnout or overwhelm

Why promotions, launches, and visibility must be planned early

How to create space for strategy and magic at the same time

The biggest mistake people make when planning a new year

“You can’t co-create with the universe if you haven’t even opened your diary.”

Chapters

00:00:00 Welcome to 2026: The Year Planning Masterclass
00:02:09 Why Intentionality Matters: Creating Your Future
00:08:40 Content and Cash Flow Follow Your Calendar
00:11:01 Step One: Choose Your Word of the Year
00:12:39 Step Two: Get a Massive Year-Long Calendar
00:14:40 Step Three: Eliminate Distractions and Make Time
00:16:09 Step Four: Add Monthly Themes to Your Calendar
00:18:37 Step Five: Block in Special Dates and Commitments
00:19:07 Step Six: Drop in Your Promotional Windows
00:21:46 Step Seven: Add Events You Want to Attend
00:23:10 Step Eight: Schedule Time Away and Mini Adventures
00:25:20 Step Nine: Review Your Capacity and Adjust
00:27:40 Step Ten: Set Your Monthly Focus and Income Goals
00:30:37 The Power of Planning: Lead Your Year, Don't Let It Run You
00:31:26 Becoming Magnetic Bonus Content Announcement

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Reflect honestly on the year that was

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Map the year ahead with clarity and intention

👉 Download it free here:
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💬 STAY CONNECTED

If this episode hit, I want to hear from you.

Come tell me what landed for you, what you’re committing to, or what your word of the year is.

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You can also leave a comment on Spotify and let me know how this episode supported you.

You don’t need another year that runs you.
You need a year you lead.

And it starts here. ♟️