The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Self-differentiating, taking responsibility for self, can be hard when others respond by defining and blaming you. This is sabotage. Here are three steps to respond effectively.
Show Notes:
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue
by Edwin Friedman*
A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman*
What IS a Failure of Nerve? – The Non-Anxious Leader
The Differentiated Leader - The Non-Anxious Leader
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Going from a child-adult to adult-adult relationship in your primary triangle is simple but not easy. This episode covers what that looks like.
Show Notes:
Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray Bowen
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When we are uncomfortable with another, we often avoid dealing directly with that relationship by triangling a third person or issue. Understanding how triangles work and how to deal with them is essential to healthy functioning.
This is the audio of Chapter 4 on Triangles from my book, If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast.
Show Notes:
If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer
What IS a Failure of Nerve? – The Non-Anxious Leader
The Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious Leader
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The primary triangle between yourself and your parents/caregivers is the most influential triangle in your life. Here's what that looks like and why.
Show Notes:
Triangles — The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family
Family Projection Process — The Bowen Center for the Study of the Family
What IS a Failure of Nerve? - The Non-Anxious Leader
The Differentiated Leader - The Non-Anxious Leader
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Thinking about your thinking is essential if you want to lead as a non-anxious presence, personally and professionally. Here's what that looks like and how you can do it.
Show Notes:
Differentiation of self and its relationship with metacognitions about worry and anxiety - ScienceDirect (May 2024)
Metacognition - Wikipedia
Positive Intelligence - The Non-Anxious Leader
What IS a Failure of Nerve? - The Non-Anxious Leader
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