The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

This episode covers how Murray Bowen remained a non-anxious presence in his family of origin, after he had purposely raised the anxiety level of those in the interlocking triangles that were keeping it stuck.
Show Notes:
Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray Bowen
The Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious Leader
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In this case study, I'll unpack Murray Bowen's retelling of doing his own family of origin work. It helps understand how interlocking triangles work and how to rework them.
Show Notes:
Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray Bowen
The Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious Leader
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Self-differentiating, taking responsibility for self, can be hard when others respond by defining and blaming you. This is sabotage. Here are three steps to respond effectively.
Show Notes:
Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue
by Edwin Friedman*
A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman*
What IS a Failure of Nerve? – The Non-Anxious Leader
The Differentiated Leader - The Non-Anxious Leader
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Going from a child-adult to adult-adult relationship in your primary triangle is simple but not easy. This episode covers what that looks like.
Show Notes:
Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray Bowen
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When we are uncomfortable with another, we often avoid dealing directly with that relationship by triangling a third person or issue. Understanding how triangles work and how to deal with them is essential to healthy functioning.
This is the audio of Chapter 4 on Triangles from my book, If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer. You can find all 10 chapters of the book in Episodes 56-65 of this Podcast.
Show Notes:
If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer
What IS a Failure of Nerve? – The Non-Anxious Leader
The Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious Leader
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