Blow the Whistle With Coach Andrea

"It's just cheating." "Aren't you over it by now?" "You need to heal and move on." These are some of the harmful narratives used around intimate partner betrayal.

Intimate Partner Betrayal is a serious matter. It is a form of relational abuse that violates the safety of the relationship. This awareness day exists to change the narrative and the responses to betrayal. IP Betrayal Awareness Day is a time to name the harm publicly, so that no one has to suffer silently.

After being blindsided by divorce papers, Alessia Madkins discovered the truth about her marriage. Her former spouse was living a double life and left her to pick up the pieces while she was caring for two young children. Through her faith and a renewed sense of hope, Alessia has built a life that is better than she imagined. Alessia's message to betrayed partners is powerful; it's declaring that healing is possible, hope is alive, and no one's story has to end where their heartbreak began.
Alessia is an LPC and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist with APSATS. You can connect with Alessia via her website www.compassguided.com.

What happens when the time you thought would be your "golden years" turns gray? "Gray divorces", divorces that happen over 50, are on the rise. When betrayal occurs in the latter years of life, there are multiple factors the betrayed partner has to consider.
Julie Calhoun, APSATS CPC, Trauma-Informed Certified Coach, shares the questions, the concerns, and the compassion that those walking the path of gray divorce may have. You can contact Julie at jcalhometx1@gmail.com.

The discovery of intimate partner betrayal is earth-shattering. For some partners, that discovery comes as a result of law enforcement showing up at their doors. The betrayed partner is not only facing the betrayal, but the legal system, as well. Casey Allison, ACC, CDGC, CPC, PSAP, TICC, has walked through the devastation with many of these partners.

Casey approaches this topic with compassion and empathy, while helping partners find a healing path forward. You can learn more about Casey here: Come Awake Recovery and Education, www.comeawakecoach.org, coachcaseyallison@comeawakecoach.org.

Casey is also offering 50% off her Come Awake Recovery Roadmap Agreement Assessments. Discount code: HALF https://www.comeawakecoach.org/2026/06/summer-special-come-awake-recovery.html?m=1

When life deals you a bad hand, you can quit or you can play to win. That's what Dr. Barbara Steffens chose to do when she discovered intimate partner betrayal. She not only changed the game in her own story, she changed the game for every betrayed partner after her.
Dr. Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, author of "Your Sexually Addicted Spouse", and a pioneer in helping to change the narrative around intimate partner betrayal. Her courage, strength, and wisdom have paved the way for so many coaches and counselors to understand betrayal trauma and help others heal.