Part 2: How to be a 'good enough' parent during unforeseen change
I will be reflecting on the difficulty of accepting a ‘new normal’, the challenge in wearing our different hats, the ‘collective weary’ and how ‘good enough for now’ can have a real place in maintaining a happy and functioning household for you and your children during turbulent times of change.
References"
Donald Woods Winnicott FRCP (7 April 1896 – 25 January 1971) was an English pediatrician and psychoanalyst who was especially influential in the field of object relations theory and developmental psychology who coined the phrase “good enough mother” in 1956.
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor who has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy who references the “collective weariness” in her Unlocking Us Podcast (March 2020)
Psychology Today, Can I be a good parent and a good professional during Covid-19?, April 20th 2020.
Daniel J Siegal “No drama Discipline” 2014, Bantam
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Part 1: Being Ordinary and Good Enough in a Perfect World
I will be looking at the misnomers behind positivity and success. I will also be looking at the notion of perfection and how we have potentially reached untenable aspirations and expectations of ourselves and others. I will be exploring the notion of winning and losing at life and it’s historical influencers. Finally I will be tackling the demands that we put upon ourselves to be the perfect parent and how we can use consolation and compromise to nurture and deepen the relationships that we have with our children, our partners and ourselves and be essentially ‘good enough’ a phrase coined by the famous psychotherapist Donald Winnicott at the turn of the 20th Century.
References:
Donald Woods Winnicott FRCP (7 April 1896 – 25 January 1971) was an English Paediatrician and psychoanalyst who was especially influential in the field of object relations theory and developmental psychology who coined the phrase “good enough mother” in 1956.
Alain de Botton https://www.theschoollife.com/london/
Judith Y Locke, The Bonsai Child, Paddington QLD, 2015
Toby Ouvrey – hhtp://integralmeditationasia.com
Advocating being ordinary and 'good enough'* in a perfect world and sometimes by valuing the little things, the successes and big wins in life will seem like the icing on the cake!
*a phrase coined by Donald Winnicott (1896-1971)
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