Navigating Disconnection in Family, Church, and Leadership
In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode from their stop in North Tonawanda, Danny and Brittney Serpell dive deep into some of the hardest relational dynamics—what to do when connection seems impossible. From family members who resist correction to church leaders who reject feedback, this episode explores how to keep your love on when everything in you wants to shut down.
Through honest audience questions and raw discussion, Danny and Brittney model what it means to stay powerful, protect your peace, and lead with love in your family, church, and community.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to communicate needs without demanding behavior change
Why your goal in conflict must be connection—not being right
What to do when your parent (or child) values control over relationship
How to maintain boundaries without turning your love off
Why accountability in leadership is essential for a healthy church
The difference between harmony and true connection in marriage and parenting
Key Takeaways:
Love doesn’t require agreement—it requires ownership. You can tell someone what you need without trying to control them.
Correction that flows through connection brings change—anything else feels like punishment.
When someone chooses being “right” over being in relationship, you still get to choose love and protect your peace.
Healthy leadership starts with accountability. If no one can give you feedback, you're not leading—you're ruling.
Raising whole and healthy kids is about consistent love, not perfection. Connection, not control, is your greatest legacy.
Join the Conversation:Have you struggled to stay connected to a parent, child, or leader who resists feedback? Tell us your story—your vulnerability can inspire healing in others.
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Connection Before Correction: How to Guide Your Kids Without Losing Their Hearts
In this live episode from North Tonawanda, New York, Danny and Brittney Serpell respond to powerful audience questions about parenting, correction, and connection. From overcorrected kids and resistant teenagers to “I don’t know” shutdowns and sibling conflict, this episode is full of real-life moments, raw honesty, and practical tools for parenting with love and leadership.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to shift from punishment to wisdom when offering correction
Why connection is the foundation for lasting influence with teens
How to draw out your child when they shut down or avoid engagement
What to do when sibling rivalry becomes the norm
How to model repentance and rebuild trust as a parent
Key Takeaways:
Correction without connection breeds resistance—prioritize relationship over being right.When kids say “I don’t know,” it’s often self-protection—create safety by managing your reaction.
You can’t control your kids, but you can control your access to resources, opportunities, and permission.
Sibling relationships are training grounds for love—don’t settle for conflict as the norm.Leading your family well means owning your mistakes, leading with humility, and choosing connection every time.
Join the Conversation:Have you navigated resistance, shutdowns, or sibling rivalry in your home? We’d love to hear what helped you reconnect. Share your stories and continue the conversation.
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Launching Kids with Love and Restoring Trust in Family
In the final stop of their Northwest tour at Risen King in Redding, California, Danny and Brittney unpack the emotional terrain of parenting adult and soon-to-be-adult children, navigating grandparenting, and repairing fractured relationships. This episode is rich with wisdom, heart, and practical tools for maintaining love, connection, and grace in every season of family life.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to transition from parent to consultant as young adults gain independence.
The importance of sustaining connection with children who feel ready to launch—and when things get messy.
What supportive grandparenting looks like (and isn’t!).
Steps you can take to repair relationships that were strained by criticism or control.
How to foster oneness in marriage through vulnerability, honest communication, and mutual trust.
Key Takeaways:
Launching adult kids is less about permission and more about staying connected—your love and availability matter most.
As a grandparent, your role shifts to support—not control—and that “yes space” becomes your sweet spot.
Restoration begins with humility: admit your mistakes, apologize, and invite connection without insisting on change.
Healing relationships is rooted in curiosity, not advice: ask how you’re experiencing them and what they need to feel understood.
True marriage oneness comes from shared vulnerability, speaking truth about your experience, and inviting your spouse into your heart—not pointing out theirs.
Join the Conversation:Are you navigating the “launching” season, a grandparenting role, or relationship restoration? Share your stories and insights—we’d love to hear how connection is being cultivated in your home.
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Narcissists, Responsibility, and Big Emotions
Live from Risen King Church in Redding, California, Danny and Brittney tackle some of the most asked-about topics in relationships and parenting—including how to deal with someone labeled a narcissist, how to raise responsible children, and how to guide kids through big emotions without losing connection. Whether you're navigating disrespect in your marriage, parenting toddlers with tantrums, or raising teens who resist chores, this episode offers deep wisdom, practical tools, and real talk from two leaders who’ve walked it out.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why trying to fix or change someone else (especially a narcissist) is a losing strategy.
How to use the KYLO 5 to protect yourself and preserve connection.
What it really means to set boundaries with love, not rejection.
How to cultivate responsibility in kids through feedback and connection.
Strategies for guiding children through sadness and anger with maturity and empathy.
Key Takeaways:
You can’t change someone who doesn’t think they have a problem—focus on managing yourself.
Boundaries are not punishment; they are a message of hope for reconciliation.
A ten-year-old isn’t too young to begin learning how to steward their part of the relationship.
Emotionally explosive moments are opportunities to teach—not control—your children.
As a parent, your job isn’t to stop emotions but to protect the culture of your home with self-control and leadership.
Join the Conversation:What stood out to you in this episode? Have you been in a relationship where you tried to fix someone? How do you approach parenting through connection rather than control?
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Humility, Anger, and Parenting Through Disconnection
Live from Empowered Life Church in Talent, Oregon, Danny and Brittney dive deep into three of the most challenging relational dynamics: humility in marriage, anger and emotional regulation, and the evolving role of parenting teens and adult children. With powerful personal stories and practical strategies, they model how to keep your love on even when emotions are high, triggers are firing, or relationships feel strained. Whether you’re navigating covenant in marriage or coaching your teenager through anxiety and independence, this episode is packed with real talk and transformational truth.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How humility can de-escalate conflict and restore connection in marriage.
Why disconnection is more dangerous than you think—and what to do about it.
Practical tools for recognizing anger before it turns into destruction.
How to guide your children from childhood into adulthood with wisdom, empowerment, and connection.
The power of co-regulation and feedback in a healthy home environment.
Key Takeaways:
Humility isn’t weakness—it’s a superpower that diffuses disrespect and fosters trust.
Disconnection is like a couch on fire: don’t ignore it. Move toward the people you love quickly.
Learn to recognize the signs of fight-or-flight in your body—and hit pause before reacting.
Parents move from cop to coach to consultant; don’t try to skip stages or cling to control.
Empower your kids by building trust, not fear. They’ll keep you in their life if they know you can handle their mess.
Join the Conversation:What’s your go-to strategy for reconnecting after conflict? Share your experience with us online, or let us know which part of today’s episode hit home for you.
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Welcome to The KYLO Show, a weekly podcast hosted by Danny Silk and Brittney Serpell. Join us as we answer your questions and share practical tools for building and protecting healthy relationships. This podcast is your guide for how to Keep Your Love On no matter what and pass on legacy to the next generation. Tune in to discover how whole healthy families are going to save the world!
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