Sex in Space

Willis Austin Chimano, known simply as Chimano, is formally a key member of Africa’s biggest band Sauti Sol. Hailing from Nairobi Kenya, Chimano, through the frequency of grace, love and discernment now embarks on a solo career designed to set the world on fire through his music, product lines and advocacy.

Chimano is celebrated for his deep baritone voice, dynamic stage presence, and distinct fashion sense. His first solo EP "Heavy is the Crown" highlights Chimano's vocal prowess and his ability to blend different musical styles, including pop, soul, and electronic influences. The EP has been well-received by fans and critics alike, noting Chimano's bold step in expressing his individuality and exploring new artistic territories.

Chimano is known for his bold fashion choices, often seen in flamboyant and stylish outfits that challenge traditional norms. He has been an advocate for self-expression and individuality, inspiring many fans to embrace their unique identities. In a landmark moment for his personal life and the LGBTQ+ community in Kenya, Chimano publicly came out as gay in 2021. His openness about his sexuality has been a significant step toward breaking down barriers and challenging societal norms in a region where LGBTQ+ rights are often underrepresented.

Chimano's influence extends beyond music. His advocacy for self-expression and his courage in sharing his personal journey have made him a role model for many. Through his solo work, he continues to inspire and entertain, leaving a lasting impact on the African music scene and beyond.

Find more of Chimano here: https://www.willischimano.com/
Check him out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willis.chimano/?hl=en
We asked Chimano which song he’d like us to play alongside this podcast episode. Here is ‘Beautiful Day,’ his song of choice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DICz0wi8RU

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:36 – Who is Chimano?
01:54 – Being a part of Sauti Sol
04:15 – Chimano’s experience of coming out publicly
12:40 – Rethinking his identity as an artist
21:13 – The importance of a positive mindset and how to achieve it
26:43 – Reflecting on your Chimano’s childhood relationship with music
34:30 – Chimano's message to young queer people in Africa
37:29 – What’s next for Chimano
42:23 – Outro

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In this episode, Toshi sat down with Issy from Our Streets Now to talk about why showing Adolescence in schools isn’t a good idea – as well as some alternatives.

Our Streets Now is a UK based organisation that is looking to end public sexual harassment. It was founded in 2019 by two teenage sisters, sharing how they experienced the world as young women. They spoke about feeling afraid walking home at night. About being harassed in their school uniform. About how their lives were restricted by the fear of public sexual harassment. And about how this was an everyday reality for millions of women, girls and people of marginalised genders up and down the country.

They began a petition to make public sexual harassment (PSH) a criminal offence. Within 100 days, that petition had over 100,000 signatures. It now sits at almost half a million. It caught the attention of local media, then national media, then policymakers at the heart of government. And, in 2023, the five year campaign to make PSH a crime was a success.

Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
00:55 – What is Our Streets Now and what do they do?
03:20 – All about the workshops run by Our Streets Now about sexual harassment
07:06 – How different genders respond differently to these workshops
10:23 – How to get students involved in difficult conversations about sexual harassment
13:43 – What do young people want to know?
18:40 – How we are all part of the problem
25:24: The ‘little and often’ approach – and why it’s so useful
26:54 – Should Adolescence be shown in schools as a learning resource?
31:14 – The alternative to showing Adolescence in schools
34:25 – How can parents and carers support these conversations?
37:41 – Issy's message to young people
39:13 – Where to find out more about Our Streets Now
40:50 – Conclusion

Find out more about Our Streets Now: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/
Our Streets Now support: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/support
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In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix.

Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia?
01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix?
02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work?
04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’?
05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia?
06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker?
08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are”
10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks
12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia
13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant?
14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence
16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money”
17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job?
19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave?
20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant?
21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women
23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work?
24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating?
27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy
29:30 – Navigating shame
33:07 – Final thoughts
34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms
36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women
36:44 – Goals for the future
37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

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For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to have a conversation with Will Adolphy, a former manosphere insider turned therapist. Will is a psychotherapist, educator, and speaker specialising in men’s mental health, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing. He leads M-Path, delivering talks and workshops to schools across the UK on masculinity, empathy, and the online world influencing boys. Will also hosts regular online parent + staff sessions for anyone interested in understanding the manosphere and how to approach conversations with boys more deeply.

Find him on Instagram @psychwill.
Check out Will’s website here: https://www.willadolphy.com/.

Trigger warning: mention of rape, suicide.

In this episode, we discuss:

Will’s story: how he was drawn into the manosphere and why online masculinity influencers attract young men.
The scale of the issue: why this content is so widespread and influential.
Inside the manosphere: Will’s experience with anti-feminist, anti-woke spaces.
Engaging young men: how we can create safer, more open conversations about masculinity.
A deeper problem: the manosphere as a symptom of society’s lack of support for men.
Recovery steps: from self-empathy to accountability partners and honest dialogue.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Trailer
01:02 – Who is Will Adolphy?
03:06 – What drew Will to online masculinity influencers and why are they so appealing to young men and boys?
10:07 – How big is this issue?
12:05 – Will's experience of the manosphere
14:51 – How can we engage young men in this conversation?
17:31 – The manosphere isn’t the problem: it’s a symptom of the problem
19:00 – The difficulty of opening up as a man
21:22 – How was Will impacted by this masculinity content?
26:29 – The importance of having empathy for yourself
28:27 – What created the big shift for Will
33:53 – Will's step by step process for recovery
38:08 – How to find an accountability partner
39:45 – The importance of having open conversations
48:44 – What Will would want his younger self to know
53:34 – How do we become men?
58:36 – Conclusion

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

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In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move.

TW: mention of self-harm.

Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/
Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality

Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space?
08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with?
12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations?
15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group
16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast
19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops?
24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others
25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics
31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind
32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work?
39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move
46:38 – Reframing rejection for men
50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one
52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

Follow us here:
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https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom
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https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace

For more info, check out our website at:
https://www.sexinspace.com/
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