Sex in Space

Lillian Frances is a pop star, rock climber, and author of the cheeky guide "Finger Banging for Climber Boys". In this episode, Toshi spoke with Lillian all about how to talk about what you want in bed, advice for pre-hookup check-ins and sexy ways to set boundaries, as well as why you should know more about female anatomy if you want to have better sex.

Find more of Lillian (and her book) here.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:47 – What is finger banging for climber boys?
01:51 – Why this book is a trojan horse (in the best way)
03:22 – How asking questions makes you so much better in bed
07:23 – Why it’s important to talk about sex in your everyday life
12:12 – Asking for consent is sexy: here’s why
19:41 – Advice for a pre-hookup check-in
21:25 – The difference between opt in vs opt out consent (and why one leads to better sex)
27:18 – Try this if you want a fun, sexy way to set boundaries
30:33 – What you should know about the female anatomy to have better sex
33:39 – Why you should read Lillian’s book

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On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Sarah and Cam all about asexuality.

Sarah (whose artist name is Vōx), is a musician and writer on Substack, and Cam is a creative producer, a curator and creator of time and space. We came across Sarah and Cam after reading an article in the Guardian written about their relationship and how they’ve embraced Sarah’s asexuality.

Toshi had the opportunity to talk with them both about:
What asexuality and compulsory heterosexuality is
How Sarah came to understand she’s asexual
What it was like for both Sarah and Cam to embrace Sarah’s asexuality
Common misconceptions about what it means to be asexual
How neurodivergence is connected to this conversation
Thoughts on decoupling romance from sex
And more.

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

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For more info, check out our website at:
https://www.sexinspace.com/

You can check out Sarah’s Substack here:
https://itsmevox.substack.com/
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On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Kate Daly, one of England’s leading experts on divorce, separation relationships and family law reform. Kate is the co-founder of amicable, the leading online divorce services company, and the co-founder and host of ‘The Divorce Podcast’. Together they had a conversation about why we need to change the narrative around divorce, advice for anyone navigating a separation or divorce, why communication is key – and how to be better at it – and a practical guide to divorce without the drama.

Find amicable here.
Check out Kate’s book here.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro
01:00 – Kate Daly’s experience with divorce
05:06 – We need to change the narrative: divorce is not a failure
08:38 – Why it’s important to acknowledge the emotional journey behind divorce
13:24 – Advice for navigating a separation or divorce
19:11 – What can divorce teach us about ourselves, and relationships?
22:37 – Two different questions: is it over, and should I leave?
25:39 – Why maintaining your identity is key to relationship success
28:30 – Why communication is key when it comes to navigating a divorce amicably (and how to be better at it)
34:33 – A practical guide to divorce without the drama
42:40 – One thing you should know about starting over

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

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https://www.sexinspace.com/
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On this episode of the podcast, Tim chatted with board certified urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman about all things men’s health, including the health of your penis. Dr. Pearlman specialises in male sexual and hormonal health, and is fellowship trained in male genitourinary reconstruction, male infertility, and prosthetics. Although she is trained as a surgeon, Dr. Pearlman’s primary mission is to educate people on the basics of their bodies, encourage healthy behaviours to optimise health and help people live their most authentic lives.

Together, Tim and Dr. Pearlman spoke about:
Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor
How testosterone impacts men’s health
Her health tip for young men
How much growth you can get from penile filler, and why men get it
Advice for men looking to get penile filler
And more.

You can find more of Dr. Amy here:
https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro.
00:55 – What does Dr Amy Pearlman do?
04:35 – Why we need a ‘Wellman’s visit’ at the doctor.
09:00 – How testosterone impacts men’s health.
16:09 – Why do men get penile enhancement?
24:18 – How much growth can you get from penile filler?
27:16 – What does a ‘normal’ penis look like – does it even exist?
31:36 – Why Dr Pearlman doesn’t start the conversation talking about penis size.
33:34 – Does filler show up more when the penis is flaccid or erect?
39:39 – Advice for men looking to get penile filler.
42:40 – What makes Dr Pearlman’s practice different.
46:59 – Where to find more about Dr Pearlman.

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

Follow us here:
https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom
https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom
https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom
https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace

For more info, check out our website at:
https://www.sexinspace.com/
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In this episode, Toshi sat down with Jocelyn Silva to talk all things sexual shame. Jocelyn grew up in a conservative, Spanish-speaking Catholic home in Los Angeles, California. She attended Catholic school, went to weekly confession, and dreamed of becoming a nun at 16 - her entire world revolved around faith. But that faith also taught her to see her body and desires as sinful, leaving her ashamed and feeling disconnected from herself.

When she was 18 and had sex for the first time, this sent her on a different journey. By 21, Jocelyn was a sex educator. She earned a degree in Gender and Women’s Studies, ran a sexual wellness boutique for 4 years, and later completed her Master’s in Social Work. Over 15 years in this field and now 6 years coaching women, men, and couples, she’s learned that our sexuality is not something to be ashamed of – it’s where our power lives.

Together, Toshi and Jocelyn discussed:

Jocelyn’s journey from wanting to be a nun, to becoming a sex expert
How she unlearned sexual shame (and how you can too)
Tips for feeling more confident speaking your desires in the bedroom
Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip (and it’s not communication)
How Jocelyn reconnected with her faith
The conversation you need to be having early on in your relationship

Find more of Jocelyn here: https://www.jocelynsilva.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro
00:46 – How Jocelyn's life plan went from nun, to sex expert
02:42 – Jocelyn's journey unlearning sexual shame
04:34 – The early messages around sex that follow us into adulthood
06:27 – Tips for unlearning sexual shame
11:56 – How to feel more confident expressing your sexual desires as a woman
18:37 – Jocelyn’s #1 sex tip
22:04 – What Jocelyn learned from being a cheater
24:33 – How to sit in discomfort
32:08 – How Jocelyn relearned faith
34:55 – Why you need clarity before a sexual experience
38:22 – The conversation you should have early on in your relationship
41:45 – Where to find more of Jocelyn Silva

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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.

Follow us here:
https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom
https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom
https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom
https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspace

For more info, check out our website at:
https://www.sexinspace.com/
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