OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

Whatever you believe, you're right and this week I'm pointing that at Christmas, which is ten weeks away whether you like it or not. A little planning now gets you ahead, and Christmas is far more optional than we pretend. Plus: why spending Friday making paper flowers bigger than my head makes me better at work.

No one is you, and that is your power. After two weeks in Bali and Fiji giving all four of my energies a proper workout, that's the message I keep landing on. This week, I'm talking about my training in doing nothing, why a 67-year-old singer on a Wellington stage is my new role model, and the one job only you can do: being the most you that you can be.

We get so rigid in who we think we are. Quiet, shy, not confident, always the organiser. This week I invite you to play with the energy of opposites: do the opposite of your instinct and meet a different version of yourself. Go big instead of small, loud instead of quiet, and bust out of the box everyone's put you in.
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We're all born with three things: a mind, a body, and a lifetime. How you use the first two determines the third. This week I'm talking about your head diet, why worrying is a waste of your time (be a nonstick fry pan), and why my biggest fear of being frail has turned me into someone who refuses help lifting her own bag. Nourish it, rest it, strengthen it.

You are not the voice in your head. You're just the one who hears it. This week, I'm talking Michael Singer, why your thoughts are just goldfish swimming around a bowl, and the question I ask myself every hour of every day: what would make my energy better?