Episode 136 - How to Stay Attracted & Attractive in Marriage
What do you do when you're not as physically attracted to your spouse—or when your body or theirs begins to change? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to retrain your mind, feed your eyes on what is good, and build a marriage rooted in character, commitment, and mission—not just physical chemistry.Scriptures:MT 6:22-23MT 5:27-28PR 5:18-19PR 31:301 Sam 16:7 Questions to Discuss:1. What voices (shows, music, media, social media) are shaping your perception of attraction right now?2. Have either of you experienced changes in attraction during your marriage? How did you work through it?3. What practical steps could you each take to build gratitude and delight in your spouse?
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott explore what it means to be on mission together as a couple. Whether you’re raising kids, leading a class, or serving behind the scenes, a shared purpose breathes life into your marriage and moves you from being just roommates to intentional partners in the gospel.Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures:Ecc 4:9-12Acts 20:24Eph 2:10Eph 5:15-17 Questions to Discuss:1. How have you seen God use your unique gifts and passions together?2. How do you make room for each other to use the gifts God has given to you and your spouse?3. What does it look like for you and your spouse to be on mission together?4. Are there areas where you’re drifting into apathy instead of pursuing purpose?5. What small step could you take this week to be more intentionally on mission together?
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Episode 134 - A Marriage Game Plan: Know, Be, Do, Experience
In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss what it means to build an intentional marriage using four categories: what you want to know, be, do, and experience together. In this mini episode we encourage couples to dream together and define their marriage vision through Scripture, spiritual disciplines, and fun experiences.Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Questions to Discuss:1. What do we want to KNOW about marriage, and about each other?2. What kind of people do we want to BE in our marriage (character, values)?3. What do we want to DO together—skills we want to learn or improve?4. What do we want to EXPERIENCE—trips, hobbies, or memory-making moments?5. Which Scripture could serve as a guiding verse for our marriage?Scriptures:1 Peter 3:7Gal 5:22-23Eph 4:2-32 Tim 2:4Acts 20:24Phil 2:1-11 Resources:MTR Episode 3 – The Biblical Vision and Picture of MarriageBook – Making Marriage Easier, by Arlene PellicaneBook – The Know/Be/Do/Experience framework comes from The Intentional Father, by Jon Tyson
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Episode 133 - Trust is Built in Drops: How to Grow Together
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about the importance of trust in marriage. Trust is foundational in any relationship, but especially in marriage. They discuss how past wounds—whether from family, friends, or former relationships—can deeply impact your ability to trust your spouse and experience true intimacy. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures Referenced:1 Peter 2:23-24James 1:19 Resources:Podcast Episode – More Than Roommates, Episode 61 – Trust: How to Build It and Restore ItBook – Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold It, How to Earn It, and How to Fix It When It Gets Broken, Dr. Henry CloudVideo from the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference – The Importance of Trust in Marriage Questions to Discuss:1. When you hear something, do you trust it immediately or do you need to do some research to verify the truth?2. How do your past hurts (either from others or from your spouse) impact your relationship with your spouse?3. Is there any unresolved hurt in your life that might be affecting your marriage today?4. What are small ways your spouse has been trustworthy lately? Have you acknowledged or celebrated them?5. If you’ve been hurt, what’s one step you can take this week to move toward healing and trust?
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Episode 132 - Before You Text Your Spouse—Turn to God
In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the common habit of going to friends or a spouse before going to God for wisdom. While community is important, the best place to start is with the Lord. Scriptures:Matthew 6:33James 1:5Proverbs 3:5-6PR 19:11 Questions to Discuss:1. Who and what do you turn to when you’re looking for counsel and advice?2. Are you more of an internal or external processor? How about your spouse?3. What’s one decision you’re facing right now—and have you gone to God first? Resources:Sermon – Questions to Ask When Making Decisions, by Jonathan “JP” PokludaPodcast – More Than Roommates Episode 22 - Episode 22 - What Questions Can Help You Make Decisions in Marriage?
Welcome to More Than Roommates, where we want to help you take the next step to be more intentional in your marriage. We want to help you avoid falling into the trap of being merely roommates with your spouse. We hope that through authentic, biblical, and practical conversation you will gain tools and wisdom to help you take one step closer to the Lord and the marriage He intends for you and your spouse. Listen in as Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, and Derek Davidson help you intentionally strengthen your relationship.
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