More than Roommates

Pornography is one of the most common—and destructive—threats facing marriages today. In this episode, we talk honestly about lust, confession, repentance, and how couples can fight for holiness, healing, and intimacy in their marriage.

Discussion Questions:
- What boundaries do we currently have in place to guard our marriage from sexual temptation? Are they enough?
- What does it look like practically to “make no provision for the flesh” in our home?
- How can we create a culture of confession and grace in our marriage?
- Who are trusted people or community members we can invite into accountability if needed?

Resources
- Freedom Starts Today by John Elmore
- Your Brain on Porn
- Fight the New Drug
- Covenant Eyes

Healthy marriages aren’t built in isolation. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew talk about why authentic Christian community is essential for a thriving marriage—and why waiting until your marriage is on fire to ask for help is a mistake.

Discussion Questions:
- Who are the people in your life that truly know what’s going on in your marriage?
- What fears keep you from being vulnerable with other couples?
- What is one step you could take this month to deepen community in your marriage?

Resources:
- Community Message from Harris Creek
- Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer

The early habits you form in marriage don’t just shape your first year — they set the trajectory for decades to come. In this episode, the More than Roommates team unpacks the foundational patterns that help couples build a marriage that doesn’t drift into “roommate mode,” but instead grows into a lifelong flourishing biblical marriage.

Discussion Questions:
- What kind of marriage do we want to “vote for” with our daily habits?
- Are we consistently praying together? If not, what’s stopping us?
- Who has permission to speak into our marriage?
- Is sex something we are proactively nurturing or just hoping works itself out?
- Do we address conflict quickly, or let things simmer?
- Are there boundaries (work, family, schedule) we need to clarify?

Resources:
- Ready or Knot by Scott Kedersha
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
- Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds by Douglas Rosenau
- Mistake we made as newlyweds More than Roommates
- Good Habits as Newlyweds More than Roommates
- One Habit to strengthen your marriage More than Roommates

Many of the tensions and conflicts in marriage don’t come from a lack of love—but from living with a single mindset in a married reality. In this episode, the More Than Roommates team unpacks how autonomy, independence, and unchecked habits quietly undermine oneness—and how Scripture calls us to something better.

Discussion Questions:
1- Where do you most see a single mindset show up in our marriage (time, money, body, tech, decisions)?
2- How can I renew my mind around gratitude for my marriage daily?
3- What’s one practical step we could take this week to move toward greater oneness?

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew unpack four common negative communication patterns that can destroy marriages: withdrawing, escalating, negative interpretation, and invalidation. Through honest stories and biblical wisdom, they help couples identify their patterns, slow down conflict, and pursue Christ-honoring communication.

Discussion Questions:
1. Which W.E.N.I. pattern do you most often fall into—and why do you think that is?
2. What does validation look like practically when one of us is emotional?
3. What boundaries or “pause plans” can we agree on before our next conflict?

Resource:
- Blog from Scott Kedersha about WENI