More than Roommates

What if the difference between feeling like roommates and feeling deeply connected was as simple as dating your spouse again? In this episode, the team unpacks the powerful framework of DATE—Dialogue, Affection, Time, and Ephesians 5 (love and respect)—and how practicing it can transform your marriage in any season.

Discussion Questions:
1- Which part of DATE do we currently do best? Which one do we tend to neglect?
2- How has busyness, kids, or phones affected our dialogue?
3- How can I love or respect you more clearly this week—in how I say things, not just what I say?
4- What would one simple, realistic date look like in our current season?

Separation is often presented as a healthy solution when marriage feels hard—but is it really? In this episode, the More Than Roommates team explores what separation actually means, why it so often leads to divorce, when it may be necessary, and how couples can pursue healing and restoration with Biblical wisdom and community.

Discussion Questions:
1- Why do you think separation so often leads to divorce rather than healing?
2- How does selfishness subtly show up in your marriage during hard seasons?
3- What role does community currently play in helping you protect and strengthen your marriage?
4- How could you better “water your own grass” in this season?

Resources:
Episode 83 Divorce part 1
Episode 84 Divorce part 2
Episode 127 Healing from Sexual Abuse 
Watermark statement on marriage and divorce

Joy in marriage isn’t about perfect circumstances—it’s about a deep, Spirit-formed posture of the heart. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and special guest Andrew Owen explore how biblical joy sustains marriages through hardship, disappointment, and everyday life, and how couples can actively choose joy together.

Discussion Questions:
1- When you think about your marriage right now, would you describe it as joyful? Why or why not?
2- How would you define the difference between joy and happiness in your relationship?
3- What currently tends to rob joy in your marriage (fear, anxiety, unmet expectations, bitterness)?
4- How can you better encourage one another daily so your hearts don’t become hardened?

As the year comes to a close, join the More Than Roommates team for a short conversation about what it looks like to look back and look ahead as we all seek to be more intentional in our marriages. The MTR team reflects on what God's Word says about rememberance and how that applies to our marriages.

Discussion Questions:
1- Start, Stop, Continue- as you apply that idea to your marriage, what do you want to focus on in this new year?
2- How have you seen God move in the last year? What are you grateful for?
3- What is a place in your life you are still waiting to see God move?

In the midst of a busy and often distracting Christmas season, this episode challenges couples to choose presence over just more presents. The More Than Roommates team offer practical, biblical encouragement to help you slow down, be intentional, and truly connect with your spouse and Jesus during the holidays.

Discussion Questions:
1- When you think about this Christmas season so far, where have you been most distracted? Where have you felt most present?
2- What tends to pull your attention away from your spouse during the holidays (phones, stress, schedules, comparison, etc.)?
3- What does presence look like for you personally? What about for your spouse?
4- How can you intentionally create moments of connection in the days ahead—even if Christmas has already passed?

Resources
Episode 51 - How to make this Your Best Holiday Season