119: How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty (It Starts With Your Impulses)
Ask Kelly your burning questions in her monthly Vital Life Project membership.You’ve been gaslit into distrusting your own impulses—here’s how to take them back.In this episode, Kelly dives deep into one of the most powerful yet overlooked skills in personal growth: reclaiming your native desires. She unpacks a brilliant question from her Vital Life Project community—what’s the difference between discernment and judgment?—and uses it to expose the subtle ways we self-domesticate, override our needs, and live out of “shoulds” instead of self-trust.Through intimate personal stories (yes, including peeing mid-interview and belting into the void with a vocal coach), Kelly reveals how she’s rebuilt a relationship with her own body, voice, and creative fire—not by changing who she is, but by expanding her awareness and nervous system capacity to hold discomfort. If you’ve ever felt caught between the urge to grow and the desire to be accepted as you are, this episode is your permission slip to do both. Expect provocative insights, radical reframes, and one audacious answer you won’t forget.You’ll Learn:How honoring small body signals rebuilds self-trust and nervous system regulationWhy the impulse to “pee immediately” can become a radical self-reclamation practiceHow to distinguish true discernment from fear-based judgment in relationshipsWhat the transition from “I should” to “I want” reveals about intrinsic motivationWhy indulging so-called “bad” impulses can heal childhood conditioningHow nervous system capacity—not mindset—determines your ability to changeWhat vocal expression teaches about stored shame and creative liberationWhy seeking support isn’t about answers but about safe containers for expansionHow the desire to self-improve can mask deeper self-rejectionWhy awareness—not transformation—is the real metric of personal evolutionTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:38] The difference between discernment and judgment[01:22] When it might be time to pause with a coach[02:00] How structure and discipline build capacity[02:45] Why rituals help reclaim personal choice[03:30] Transitioning from “I should” to “I want”[04:10] Honoring impulses as a path to healing[05:00] Restoring trust in cravings like dark chocolate[05:55] Biological impulses and meeting basic needs[06:50] Peeing as a practice of self-trust[07:30] The fear of creative self-expression[08:15] What awareness really means[09:05] Singing in front of a stranger despite fear[10:00] How awareness builds nervous system capacity[10:45] The trap of self-improvement driven by rejection[11:35] Reclaiming childhood desires as valid[12:10] Real growth comes from self-acceptance[12:55] Why change isn’t the real goal[13:30] Romantic relationships and the illusion of change👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Try out the cleanest grass-fed beef protein on the market - head to equipfoods.com/kellybrogan to get 15% off your order, or 30% off your first subscription!
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118: How to Speak Your Truth, Communicate Better & Build Strong Relationships
Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project, here.What if the most powerful act of rebellion... is telling the truth in real time?In this episode, Kelly cracks open the concept of “breaking the fourth wall” in real life—not on stage, but in your relationships, your identity, and your communication. She explores the subtle art of speaking the unspoken script, challenging the roles we play in family dynamics, breakups, power structures, and even content creation. From dismantling victim narratives to reclaiming autonomy through raw, unscripted truth-telling, this episode is a masterclass in emotional courage. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to navigate uncomfortable conversations, own your experience without controlling the outcome, and use directness as a spiritual practice. If you're tired of performance and ready for realness, this one hits hard.You’ll Learn:How “breaking the fourth wall” in relationships activates deeper connection and self-awarenessWhy staying in character keeps us stuck in victim-villain dynamicsHow emotional courage rewires nervous system capacity for real conversationsWhat unspoken scripts reveal about hidden power struggles and unmet needsHow to use the “appreciation burrito” to deliver critical feedback without triggering defensivenessWhy direct communication dissolves resentment faster than years of surface-level nicetiesHow false professionalism can sabotage genuine healing and trustWhat the shadow side of activism reveals about unmet personal needsHow to sense when truth-telling is ripe—and when it’s a self-sabotage trapWhy liberating your “yes” and “no” reclaims energy lost to emotional performanceTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:43] Authenticity vs performance in content and relationships[02:36] Power dynamics and emotional connection[04:18] Transparency in business and content creation[05:00] Why we avoid real conversations after breakups[06:26] How projecting onto others maintains victim roles[08:00] When emotional courage is actually required[09:16] Shifting from manipulation to honest communication[11:20] The discomfort of vulnerability in daily interactions[12:07] Awareness as the key to choice in hard conversations[12:45] How truth-telling links to thyroid imbalances[13:54] Energy lost in managing perception and avoiding conflict[14:55] Balancing autonomy with real connection[15:52] How to structure difficult conversations for impact[17:18] Using positive intent to disarm defensiveness[18:22] Breaking the victim-villain-savior dynamic through truth[19:28] Recognizing roles and reclaiming real interactionWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Try out the cleanest grass-fed beef protein on the market here and get 15% off your order, or 30% off your first subscription!Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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117: The Truth About Marriage, Real Love & Dating | Rabbi Manis Friedman
Check out the replay of my masterclass Reclaimed Relationship here.Listen to this related episode, Reclamation of Courtship here."If you're looking for love, don't get married."That’s just one of the many paradigm-shifting perspectives from today’s guest, Rabbi Manis Friedman—author, philosopher, and renowned lecturer on the spiritual and psychological architecture of relationships. Rabbi Friedman is one of the foremost voices challenging modern assumptions about love, marriage, intimacy, and gender roles—and his take is anything but conventional.In this provocative episode, Kelly and Rabbi Friedman deconstruct the myths of modern romance—from why marriage shouldn’t be “for love,” to how women can actually identify a husband, not just another man. They dive deep into the nature of intimacy, the lost art of commitment, why sex should happen with the lights off, and what it truly means to belong to someone. Whether you're in the dating pool, rethinking your current relationship, or seeking to reclaim reverence for the sacred masculine and feminine, this episode will challenge you, awaken you, and offer a radically honest roadmap to relational clarity.You’ll Learn:How “lights-off” intimacy activates deeper soul connectionWhy dating for love sabotages true compatibilityHow to recognize the man who makes you feel like a wifeWhat long-term marriages reveal about emotional belongingWhy conditional love weakens relational stabilityHow the matchmaker model protects your heart and accelerates clarityWhat sexual objectification obscures about authentic connectionHow to exit dating dynamics without emotional wreckageHow performance-focused sex disconnects you from real intimacyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[02:11] Why sexual intimacy should happen with the lights off[04:08] Why marriage is the highest form of imitating God[06:13] Why humans are not content just being human[07:38] Why marriage must be between a man and a woman[08:20] The danger of seeking love instead of a person[09:16] What long marriages reveal about true belonging[10:02] The Fiddler on the Roof test of love[11:17] Love as a byproduct, not the goal[13:05] How marriage eliminates aloneness[14:51] The difference between roommates and real intimacy[15:27] Why intimacy requires turning off the lights[16:33] How sensory stillness deepens connection[18:03] Why performance ruins intimacy[19:47] The myth of unconditional love[20:57] The danger of sexual liberation for women[22:06] How dating replaced commitment[23:44] Marriage as reunion, not just union[25:02] Why the best dates make the worst husbands[26:17] Why multi-year relationships are emotional torture[27:52] Why women often don’t truly choose their husbands[28:26] The role of chemistry in real compatibility[29:34] What it means to feel like a wife[30:06] Why dating should be selfish and strategic[31:57] Why giving a breakup reason is cruel[32:35] Why women should not initiate marriage[33:54] How men get emasculated before the wedding[35:09] Why women need men to lead[36:02] How matchmaking protects your heart[37:58] Why polite dating causes emotional confusion[39:54] Dating as emotionally safer than shopping[40:57] Why respect between spouses heals families[42:44] Why kids need clear parental structure[44:17] Why grandma’s way might’ve been wiser[45:29] What real intimacy looks like in the bedroomWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.You can connect with Rabbi Friedman and his work through his website here.Follow Rabbi Friedman on Instagram, Facebook, X, YouTube, and TikTok.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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116: The Truth About Parasites No One Told You Yet | Daniel Roytas
Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset here.What if everything you’ve been told about parasites is wrong?In this explosive episode, Kelly sits down with Dr. Daniel Roytas—clinical educator, researcher, and author of Can You Catch a Cold?—to unravel one of the most deeply held beliefs in both mainstream and alternative health: the idea that parasites are invaders that must be eradicated. Daniel’s work challenges the foundations of germ theory and dives into the seductive psychology of victim consciousness that underpins much of modern medicine—yes, even “natural” medicine.Get ready to question everything you think you know about gut health, parasite cleanses, and even the existence of so-called “pathogenic” organisms. This conversation exposes how medical myths get recycled, how belief systems override biology, and why the real toxin might not be what’s in your gut—but how you think about your body. From pleomorphism and misdiagnosis to the spiritual implications of blaming nature for our ailments, this is a no-holds-barred exploration of what it truly means to reclaim health in a toxic world. If you’ve ever taken black walnut tincture or been told your symptoms are due to “Lyme,” you need to hear this.You’ll Learn:How the “parasite cleanse” trend may reinforce victim consciousnessWhy the existence of parasites—even in medical literature—is still up for debateWhat polymorphism reveals about the adaptability of microbes inside the bodyHow artifacts in lab tests can lead to false parasite diagnosisWhy asymptomatic “infections” challenge germ theory logicHow certain worms may actually protect the body from toxinsWhat anti-parasitic herbs might really be doing to support detox pathwaysHow the Lyme disease narrative can distract from root causes of illnessWhy focusing on “killing pathogens” may prolong chronic symptomsHow to prioritize foundational health practices over fear-based protocolsTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:03] Why parasites are the sacred cow of alternative medicine[02:22] How parasite belief crosses both conventional and alt-health circles[03:56] The link between parasite obsession and victim consciousness[05:28] What we’re actually talking about when we say “parasites”[06:43] Why some “parasites” might not cause illness at all[08:19] New research suggesting many parasites are harmless[10:26] The problem with asymptomatic infection logic[12:47] How artifacts are misidentified as parasites in lab tests[14:40] Why the theory of pleomorphism changes everything[16:48] Studying microbes outside the body vs. inside[19:14] How healthy people test positive for “pathogenic” organisms[21:30] Why immune system explanations don’t add up[24:42] What worms may actually be doing in your gut[27:10] The surprising detox role of certain parasites[30:44] Why “anti-parasitic” herbs may work for a different reason[33:03] What’s really happening when people pass worms[35:05] The emotional and cultural grip of Lyme disease[38:16] Why misdiagnosing the cause keeps people stuck[41:26] Simple practices that matter more than parasite cleanses[43:45] How parasite fear reflects a deeper healing patternWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Resources Mentioned:Can You Catch a Cold? by Dr. Daniel Roytas | BookFollow Humanley on Facebook and Instagram and while you’re at it, join the Telegram Channel.You can connect with Daniel on his website and get his new book here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Go to the Juvent Store and use code KELLY300 at checkout to get $300 off your purchase.
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115: How to Heal Trauma & Rewire Your Energy Field Using Sound and Vibration with Eileen McKusick
What if your anxiety isn’t in your mind—but in your field?In this episode, Kelly sits down with researcher, inventor, and Biofield Tuning founder Eileen McKusick, whose groundbreaking work challenges everything we think we know about healing, consciousness, and the human body. With nearly 30 years of experience decoding the electric blueprint of the body using sound, Eileen has mapped the energetic anatomy that surrounds and informs our physical form—and she’s proving it’s more than just woo.You’ll learn how unresolved trauma shows up as electrical noise in your field, why thoughts aren’t stored in your brain, and how tuning forks can uncover—and dissolve—lifelong emotional patterns. Eileen breaks down the science of vibrational healing in language that’s as sharp as it is accessible, offering a powerful new lens for understanding everything from anxiety and chronic pain to inherited trauma and illness. Whether you're energy-curious or deep down the frequency rabbit hole, this conversation will leave you rethinking what it means to be coherent—and how to reclaim your signal.You’ll Learn:How tuning forks activate your body’s innate ability to reorganize and self-healWhat emotional tones in the biofield reveal about stored trauma and subconscious patterningWhy thoughts are stored in the energy field—not the brain—and how that changes healingHow to detect and decode the vibrational “noise” that disrupts health and flowWhat coherence in your biofield actually means—and how it drives physical resilienceHow sound interacts with the plasma body to shift emotional and physiological statesWhy most chronic symptoms stem from unresolved tension patterns, not pathologyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:45] How thoughts may exist outside the brain[02:30] Practical ways to bring coherence to your energy field[03:05] The idea that humans are electric beings[05:30] What it means to live in a vibrational cosmology[08:05] Tuning forks as tools for energetic feedback[10:05] Why vibes don’t lie—reading emotion through frequency[12:10] What tuning forks reveal about emotional memory[14:05] How emotional patterns are stored in specific zones of the field[16:45] Why anyone can learn to feel energetic distortions[17:30] Memories are stored outside the body in magnetic standing waves[22:30] A shocking example of inherited trauma imprinting in the womb[27:25] The hidden role of worthiness in chronic pain and illness[29:10] What coherence actually means for your body and mind[33:00] Why injuries often occur in incoherent zones of your field[35:10] How forks imprint coherent frequency back into the system[38:00] The link between stress, bone loss, and electrical depletion[40:00] Water, memory, and the vibrational nature of the body[45:00] Rewiring subconscious loops to release stuckness[48:40] 174hz fork to deepen relaxation[51:00] How tension turns into lightness through tuning[53:30] 528hz fork to brighten the field[55:15] How tension suppresses emotional expression[57:00] Resilience as the new immunityWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here.Resources Mentioned:Biofield Tuning | WebsiteThe Secret Life of Plants by Peter Tompkins and Christopher Bird | Book or AudiobookTuning the Human Biofield by Eileen McKusick | Book or AudiobookSonic Slider Tuning Fork | WebsiteSing the Body Electric | Bodywork SeriesVeda Austin’s work on structured water | WebsiteWant to learn more about Eileen and her work? You can connect with her on her website, YouTube, and Facebook.Follow Biofield Tuning on Facebook and Instagram.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Use code KELLYBROGAN for 15% off your first purchase at the Biofield Tuning Store. Not valid during sales. Exclusions apply.
It hurts to have unmet needs. And it sucks to scurry after crumbs when you’re starving. Join Kelly Brogan MD, as she teaches us how our pain points are portals. She’ll help you discover a world where every seeming challenge is a new chapter in your most audacious story. Plot twists, body symptoms, and heartbreak each represent an opportunity to own ourselves and learn to better wield the power of choice. Kelly will take you on a reclamation journey from the battlefield of victim consciousness to the sovereignty of self-devoted pleasure and expose every surprising place you’ve given your power away. Explore the tools you’ll need to find out what you want, how to ask for it and how to stand in fierce alignment with yourself.Kelly Brogan is a soul alchemist and threshold guardian devoted to the transformation of collective consciousness. As a young know-it-all atheist, candy-addict, straight-A MIT neuroscience major and Ivy-league trained psychiatrist, she specialized in feeding women, herself included, straight into the mouth of the medicated beast. After a Hashimoto’s healing journey inspired her to sound the alarm on the bait-and-switch of big pharma, she became a renegade activist—authoring the New York Times bestseller, A Mind of Your Own, and its follow-up, Own Your Self; co-editing the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression; and eventually becoming an honorary member of the Disinformation Dozen. She is the creatrix of Vital Mind Reset, the online health reclamation program, and the membership community Vital Life Project. She’s a human, cat, and chicken mom.
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