EP231 Here’s 5 science-based strategies to reduce your drinking TONIGHT
Click here to register for the Rewrite Neural Pathways to Escape Negative Self-Talk Workshop on July 12th Click here to watch this episode on YouTube Do you have confidence and discipline in most areas of your life, and feel befuddled as to why your drinking feels so hard to control? If your drinking feels out of alignment with your values, your goals, or your sense of self, this episode will give you a clear understanding as to what’s really going on, and also five powerful, science-based strategies that will help you stop yourself from over-drinking—without relying on willpower, restriction, or shaming yourself into submission. Whether you're trying to moderate, avoid shame spirals, or feel more in control after a stressful day, these tools will help you reset your nervous system, reconnect with your values, and get your brain off autopilot so you can build new habits that align with who you really are. 🔑 You’ll Learn: Why your brain craves alcohol when you’re stressed (and how to rewire that urge) How “Delay, Don’t Deny” instantly puts you back in control Why emotional goal setting works better than setting limits on your consumption How to rehearse success using mental imagery What it means to take an “upstream” perspective—and why trying to stop yourself from overdrinking at the end of the day is about as useless as trying to stop the last domino from falling How checking in with your tomorrow self can interrupt the “f-it” cycle Overdrinking is not about your relationship with alcohol. It’s about your relationship with yourself—and these strategies help you rebuild self-trust, one decision at a time. Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
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EP230 Minisode: Processing The Background Alarm
In today’s episode, Colleen unpacks why your background alarm is going off—and how to finally turn it off. You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And your bedtime resistance, your anxious spinouts, your self-sabotage? They’re not random. They. Are. Patterns. Habits formed by younger versions of you who were just trying to stay safe. This episode dives into how childhood beliefs shape your nervous system, why emotional energy gets trapped in the body, and how to reclaim that energy instead of wasting it on panic, shame, or perfectionism. If your anxiety feels like it runs the show, Colleen gives you a way to interrupt the pattern and stop thinking your way out of a feeling problem. Whether you’re healing from overdrinking, a divorce, or just trying to move through your day with more peace, this one shows you exactly how to get back into your body and claim your power. Key Takeaways: That “resistance” you feel? It’s not laziness—it’s a child part of you stuck in a story. Your background alarm (aka chronic anxiety) is often a relic from the past—not a reaction to the present. Trying to think your way through a feeling problem only keeps the alarm ringing. If you’re done spiraling, numbing, or wondering why you sabotage the things you say you want—this episode is your wake-up call to stop overriding your body and start listening. And if you’re ready to reduce your drinking by 80% and finally trust yourself again? Schedule a discovery call with Colleen or the team- BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
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EP229 Minisode: The Black Mirror
You’ve probably heard me say the common phrase “the call is coming from inside the house” — but what if every judgment you make about someone else is too? In this episode, Colleen unpacks the concept of The Black Mirror — the idea that your emotional reactions to other people are often projections of the stories, beliefs, and insecurities you hold about yourself. You’ll learn how to flip the script when you're triggered by someone else's behavior, turn judgment into powerful self-awareness, and use emotional sobriety skills to stop reacting from fear and start responding from clarity. This is shadow work, made practical. This episode is for the woman who is ready to take her power back… by owning what’s hers and releasing what isn’t. 🔑 Key Takeaways: The traits you judge in others often reflect disowned parts of yourself. Emotional reactivity is a mirror — not a fact. Changing “they think…” to “I feel…” is a powerful way to access hidden beliefs. Boundaries come from clarity, not resentment. Emotional sobriety means learning to feel what you feel without making it mean something is wrong with you. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
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EP228 “I’ve become the person I’ve always wanted to be” –Carley’s recovery story (part 2)
Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In Part 2 of Carley’s story, we dive into the healing that began once she joined the program. You’ll hear how she learned to regulate her nervous system, rewire her brain, and change the story she told herself about who she was. Carley shares how she finally stopped chasing external validation, started putting herself first without guilt, and showed up more fully — not just for herself, but for her kids, her husband, and her work. We also talk about what it means to “be emotionally sober” and why drinking less wasn’t the ultimate win for Carley — it was becoming the woman she never thought she could be. This part of the conversation is a celebration of what’s possible when you stop trying to get sober and start learning to feel safe in your own body. What you’ll hear in Part 2: The skills Carley developed that helped her reduce her drinking by 80% How emotional sobriety changed her marriage, her parenting, and her self-talk Why she now calls herself “unrecognizable” — in the best way What she would say to any woman who’s scared to take the first step Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
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EP 227 Minisode: The Upper Limit Problem
Most women don’t realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That’s when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine. In today’s episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle. You’ll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don’t have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations. 🔑 Key Takeaways: The “upper limit problem” is a self-imposed glass ceiling that blocks success, love, and creativity. Most high-achieving women are used to pain—and don’t know how to tolerate feeling good. Guilt is often the signal that you’re expanding beyond what feels “acceptable” to others. You don’t need permission to feel ease, rest, or joy. You just need a new intention. Emotional sobriety means letting go of the need to suffer in order to deserve what you want. ✨ What if your next breakthrough wasn’t about doing more… but feeling more? If you're ready to stop drinking just to take the edge off your own growth, then Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself?
Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control.
Whether you’re a daily drinker who can’t break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don’t drink anymore, the real problem is that you don’t trust yourself.
Which means it’s not about the alcohol. It’s about your relationship with yourself.
I’m an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible.
The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease!
Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body.
Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don’t drink themselves into a stupor.
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