In the first video of my series, In Case You Were Wondering (This is a video series where I share wisdom and answer the questions I get that aren’t directly related to parenting), I’m tackling the first question most of you ask me: How do you move through fear?In this 6-minute video, I will help you shift from a fear-based mindset to welcoming more faith and trust into your process. What I cover:Growing an audience on social media when it feels dauntingAddressing limiting beliefsMaking career pivotsTaking ChancesMy two-step process for choosing faith over fearEnjoy, and feel free to leave a comment or share it with a friend.
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A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
Today on the podcast I’m welcoming back New York Times Bestselling Author Elise Loehnen. If you haven’t listened to the first episode where Elise was on The Parenting Reframe Podcast, it gives a great overview and conversation about her first book, On Our Best Behavior. You can listen to it here: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnenElise is the author of On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good, True and False Magic, a collaboration with Phil Stutz, and her workbook coming out soon, Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness. There are so many things we talk about in this episode from the creative process to parenting, the social context of her books to the ways women feel in their own bodies, and so much more. It’s always a pleasure to talk with Elise and get her perspective on so many different topics.Here’s what we talk about with Elise: Elise’s writing processes and how she uncovers societal norms and expectations through her work.An overview of her book On Our Best Behavior and how society forces women to be inherently good through the lens of the seven deadly sins. Her companion workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness and how it helps individuals work through their own beliefs and change the negative narratives. How the stories you tell about yourself are almost always rooted in lack. What we can learn about compassion and patience from neurodivergent children.Recognizing as parents we need to relinquish control over our children and be a safe place for them to land. Letting go of micromanaging our kids to allow them to develop their own roadmap to reach their goals.The amount of energy and self monitoring it takes to stay a certain size or weight as a woman and the mental toll it takes over time. An overview of True and False Magic and how life is an ongoing evolution of feelings and emotions to work through.Resources: Elise’s first Parenting Reframe podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnenElise’s podcast, “Pulling the Thread”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pulling-the-thread-with-elise-loehnen/id1585015034On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay to Be Good: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/onourbestbehaviorTrue and False Magic: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/778182/true-and-false-magic-by-phil-stutz-with-elise-loehnen/Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/771811/choosing-wholeness-over-goodness-by-elise-loehnen-and-courtney-smith/ For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.comAnd be sure to follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe for more parenting tips and advice.
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Anxiety, Stress, and Parenting: A Neuroscientist's Guide to Emotional Well-being
On this week’s episode, I am talking to Dr. Cindy Hovington, founder of The Curious Neuron and the Reflective Parenting podcast. Dr. Hovington is a mom of three and has a doctorate in neuroscience. Her goal is to break down science-backed research on child development and parenting and turn it into applicable advice for parents. She is very passionate about parental well-being as she knows we have to take care of ourselves in order to be able to take care of our children. We discuss tantrums, setting boundaries, and strategies to keep yourself calm while meeting your child’s needs. This is the episode for you if you experience these challenges and want to understand more about the science of parenting.Here’s what we talk about with Dr. Hovington: How The Reflective Parenting Club was created to help parents find best practices while effectively managing emotions and stress.Acknowledging when we as parents are not sitting in the most calm emotional space and being able to pause and communicate these feelings to others.Parenting and changing behaviors takes time and does not change overnight.Using boundaries and discipline as a way to teach our kids what to do or not to do in order to set them up for success.Creating awareness around your own physical state can help calm stressful situations.How emotional states and stress can affect the overall state of your home and the way your child reacts in certain situations.Resetting challenging moments throughout your day to create moments of joy.Sharing your emotions with your kids can help create connection and evolve trust.Resources: The Curious Neuron website: https://curiousneuron.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curious_neuronFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/curiousneuronThe Reflective Parent Club: https://curiousneuron.com/reflective-parent-club/Reflective Parenting Podcast: https://curiousneuron.com/podcasts/ For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.comAnd be sure to follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe for more parenting tips and advice.
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Common Parenting Issues with Joe Newman
Back by popular demand, Joe Newman is here for his third visit to The Parenting Reframe Podcast. Joe Newman was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and has made it his life’s mission to help parents figure out how to “raise lions,” kids who want to do it themselves. His book, Raising Lions, is one of my favorites and a resource I recommend constantly. In this episode, we discuss the biggest issues we are seeing while working with families today. This includes longer discussion about tantrums, and why we don’t completely agree on what to do when your child is having a tantrum.  Here’s what we talk about with Joe: Why play deprivation is a problem today and why kids need more time to play independently.Kids need to experience struggle in social situations to create change and learn how to better manage their experience on their own. Providing all the answers for kids takes away an “I do it” moment and creates kids who identify as incapable and want things done for them. The nature of attachment between parent and child changes over time and the parent has to allow it to happen in an open and supportive way. How to reframe the negative perception of tantrums and child’s behavior.Why Joe and I disagree about whether or not to hold your child during a tantrum.Using a break as a self regulation tool to help kids get through a difficult moment and become more resilient. Allowing kids to experience deprivation and challenges on their own without judgment creates more independent, resilient, and happy individuals. Kids act as scientists to figure out their way around a situation so it’s incredibly important to hold your boundaries. Practicing holding boundaries at home will make doing it in public easier and reduce your feelings of anxiety in the situation.  Resources:Joe Newman’s website to set up a consultation or discovery call: https://www.raisinglions.com/Joe Newman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinglions/Joe Newman on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinglions1Raising Lions by Joe Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Lions-Joe-Newman/dp/1453639683/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1686055923&sr=1-1Raising Lions with Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-lions-with-joe-newmanA Raising Lions Q+A with Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/a-raising-lions-qa-with-joe-newmanFor more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.comAnd be sure to follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe for more parenting tips and advice.Â
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The Power Pause with Neha Ruch
In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of talking with Neha Ruch, the founder of Mother Untitled, the leading platform for ambitious women leaning into family life. A thought leader, writer and speaker on parenting, women, work and identity, Neha established Mother Untitled in 2017 after working for a decade in digital and brand strategy and earning an MBA from Stanford. Her new book, The Power Pause, examines how to take a career pause after having kids and is available now. We discuss how taking a pause in many stages of life has incredible benefits and the different ways it can look for moms. Here’s what we talk about with Neha: How the question of “What do you do?” has become intertwined in the fabric of who we are as individuals. Ways to change the language surrounding each chapter of your life to a more expansive view.A career pause makes room to chart out other ways you want to grow personally.How “The Mommy Wars” started and the way the narrative has shifted and become more fluid over time. The ways the COVID pandemic caused an examination of work and family balance.Tools to consider for a career pause when there are concerns about finances, work/life balance, and household contributions.Shifting the view of taking a step down from a career to gaining a collection of experiences. Resources:The Power Pause: How to Plan a Career Break After Kids--and Come Back Stronger Than Ever: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Pause-Career-Kids-Stronger/dp/0593716183Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte: https://www.brigidschulte.com/overwhelmedEllse Loehnen podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-40-on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen/For more insight into parenting in today’s world, be sure to subscribe to my Substack: https://www.albiona.substack.comAnd be sure to follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe for more parenting tips and advice.
The Parenting Reframe podcast is a safe space for parents to feel seen, heard, and supported through this wild journey that is parenting. Hosted by educator and parent Albiona Rakipi, we explore some of the biggest parenting challenges: tantrums, potty training, challenging behaviors, neurodivergent learners, teenagers, bedtime, homework, expectations, and more. We'll chat with experts, parents, and even kids about what it means to parent and to be parented.
Albiona's 20 years of experience working with children and families, has brought her insight as she learns from parents and kids alike - even her own. Her only ask is that you stay open and curious, as we reframe parenting together.
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