You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire
If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I the high-conflict co-parent?” — this episode is for you. In today’s honest and eye-opening conversation, we’re talking about the moms who second-guess themselves, feel guilt over their decisions, and just want to do what’s best for their kids. (Spoiler alert: the fact that you're asking this question is a sign you're not the problem.)But even if you’re not the narcissist, you might still be unintentionally feeding the high-conflict dynamic. From engaging in every argument to trying to co-parent like it's a team sport — we're breaking down 10 ways you might be enabling your high-conflict co-parent without even realizing it.Whether you’re dealing with gaslighting, boundary-pushing, or constant chaos, this episode will help you shift out of reaction mode, stop fueling the fire, and protect your peace.In this episode, we cover:Why narcissists never ask, “Am I the problem?”Subtle behaviors that enable high-conflict dynamicsWhy parallel parenting may be your best strategyThe role of guilt, reactivity, and lack of boundariesWhat to do instead — and how to reclaim your power✨ Ready to stop second-guessing yourself and co-parent with confidence? Inside The Next Chapter membership, you’ll get the tools, support, and weekly guidance you need to heal, set boundaries, and raise emotionally healthy kids — even with a high-conflict ex.Join us here → https://www.samandleah.com/services
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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist Who Refuses to Compromise
Co-parenting with a narcissist or high-conflict ex who refuses to compromise is emotionally draining and can feel like an endless battle. In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the Top 10 truths about co-parenting with a narcissist — including how to stop reacting, start protecting your peace, and shift the dynamic in your favor.Whether you're dealing with gaslighting, manipulation, or a complete lack of cooperation, this episode gives you clarity, validation, and strategies to navigate the chaos with strength.And don’t forget — inside The Next Chapter, we hosted an exclusive live workshop with internationally renowned conflict expert and author Hesha Abrams, who will teach you how to communicate clearly and hold the calm — even when it feels impossible. This replay is now available inside the member library! 📥 Want to catch the replay of Hesha’s workshop and more? Join the Next Chapter: https://www.samandleah.com/services
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Protect Your Peace: 10 Must-Have Boundaries with a Difficult Ex
If you're co-parenting with someone who thrives on control, chaos, or conflict—this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down the Top 10 Boundaries to Set with a High-Conflict Co-Parent that will help protect your peace, your energy, and your mental health.We’ll cover practical strategies like using written communication only, avoiding emotional bait, limiting what you share, and learning how to say “no” without guilt. Whether your ex is a narcissist, emotionally immature, or just plain difficult, these boundaries will help you shift from reactive to grounded and in control.You don’t have to tolerate toxic behavior just because you share children. You’re allowed to protect yourself. And you deserve peace in this new chapter.Tune in now and take the first step toward a calmer, more empowered co-parenting journey.
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Protecting Your Energy When Co-Parenting Feels Impossible
If you’re co-parenting across two households, you already know how heavy the mental load can feel. From worrying about what happens at the other house, to managing transitions, handling your kids’ big feelings, and trying to keep your own home steady — it can feel like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders.In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden work of co-parenting after separation, sharing the top 10 mental loads you might not even realize you’re carrying, and giving you validation that you are not alone. We’ll also talk about how you can start protecting your peace, setting boundaries, and making your home a true sanctuary, no matter how chaotic things feel on the other side.If you’re exhausted by the constant chaos and want to feel calmer, stronger, and more in control, don’t miss this conversation — and be sure to check out our upcoming workshop inside The Next Chapter membership, Managing the Mental Load of the Other House, for even more support and practical tools.Your house. Your rules. Your peace. Let’s help you reclaim it.www.samandleah.com
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The Truth About 50/50 Custody in High-Conflict Divorces: What No One Tells You
On the surface, 50/50 parenting sounds fair and balanced — but what happens when you’re dealing with a high-conflict co-parent who refuses to cooperate? In this episode, we’re breaking down the real struggles of sharing equal time when the other parent thrives on drama and control.We’ll unpack how frequent exchanges turn kids into messengers, why constant transitions rob them of stability, and how so-called “fairness” can be weaponized against you. If you’re exhausted from the battles at every pickup, feeling like the court’s schedule is adding fuel to the fire, or worrying about what this conflict is doing to your kids, you are not alone.Tune in to hear:✨ The five biggest red flags with 50/50 in a high-conflict dynamic ✨ Why co-parenting assumptions can completely fall apart ✨ What to watch for so you can protect your peace — and theirsIf you’ve ever wondered why 50/50 feels so impossible, this conversation will help you see the bigger picture and feel less alone in the chaos.
Welcome to our podcast, a heartfelt and insightful series hosted by two certified divorce coaches who have personally experienced the complexities of divorce. Our podcast is a blend of personal insights and professional expertise, focusing on topics like rebuilding self-esteem, mastering the art of co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, and fostering resilience in both yourself and your kids. Our goal is to offer you a sanctuary of healing, tools, and practical advice. Join us in transforming your divorce experience into a journey of personal growth and empowerment.
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