Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

In this episode, I sit down with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin to talk about what it really takes to heal and rebuild after infidelity. We explore the truth that love alone is not enough — and why real growth requires deep self-reflection, emotional safety, and intentional skill-building.

E.J. and Tarah don't pretend to have it all figured out — they've lived it. From navigating their own intense early challenges to helping hundreds of couples each week, they bring both expertise and humanity into this conversation.

We talk about betrayal trauma, the importance of radical honesty, and how healing isn't just about saving the relationship — it's about becoming a healthier, more empowered version of yourself.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, unsure whether to stay or go, or stuck in painful patterns, this episode will give you clarity and hope.

In this episode, we cover:
Why love is not enough to sustain a relationship 
How betrayal trauma impacts your nervous system 
The role of radical honesty in rebuilding trust 
Why individual growth changes the entire relationship dynamic 
What the "messy middle" of healing looks like 

Reach out if you need support — you don't have to navigate this alone.


Resources Mentioned:
The Untethered Soul – https://untetheredsoul.com

More on E.J. and Tarah:
EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and creators of the Relationship Renovation Model™, as well as hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. They blend raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience to help couples deepen intimacy and build emotional safety. Known for their vulnerability and real-life storytelling, they share practical, research-backed tools rooted in attachment science and nervous system regulation.
EJ is also the founder of Men Who Do the Work, a group helping thousands of men create emotional safety and show up more intentionally in their relationships.
Together, their work includes the nationally recognized Relationship Renovation Counseling Center in Tucson, Arizona, a globally ranked top 1% podcast, the Relationship Renovation @ Home manual (available on Amazon), a global online community, and private coaching for couples and individuals.
They are passionate about helping partners break old patterns, rebuild trust, and create lasting, intentional connection. 
Relationship Renovation website - https://relationshiprenovation.com
Relationship Renovation Podcast - https://relationshiprenovation.com/podcast/
The Relationship Renovation At Home Manual: A Guided Journey for Couples to Rebuild Trust, Communication, and Thrive Together - https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Renovation-Home-Manual-Communication/dp/B0FWMGQP8D/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/

More from me:
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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

Fear can feel so real — so urgent — that it's easy to believe every emotional "rustle" is a threat. In this episode, I walk through how fear actually works in the brain and why so much of what we react to isn't what's truly happening in the present moment.

I share personal stories and real-life examples to help you understand how your nervous system is trying to protect you — but may also be keeping you stuck. Whether you've been betrayed or you're the one who broke trust, fear shows up in powerful ways. And until you learn how to examine it, it can quietly run your life.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, pull the thread, and look deeper. Because when you're willing to follow fear all the way to its source, you gain clarity, self-trust, and the ability to move forward with intention instead of panic.

In this episode, we cover:
How fear is often based on prediction, not reality
Why your brain keeps sounding alarms from old pain
The difference between reacting and examining
How to "pull the thread" to uncover truth
Building self-trust so fear no longer controls you

If you're ready to stop living in reaction and start living in truth, this work will change everything.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I take you deeper into what it really means to tell your truth all the way out — especially the parts we keep hidden. I share what I've been discovering in my own life as I slow down and begin to look honestly at what's been "living in the corners." These are the patterns, beliefs, and versions of myself that once felt like strength — but may actually be rooted in survival.

I explore the difference between survival strength and what I'm calling examined strength — the kind that comes from truly knowing yourself and standing in that truth, even when it's uncomfortable. This process has required me to question everything: my choices, my relationships, my work, and the version of me that created them.

If you're navigating infidelity or any kind of personal upheaval, this is your invitation to look inward with honesty and compassion.

In this episode, we cover:
There's a difference between survival strength and examined strength
Real vulnerability happens in real time, not after it's "resolved"
You are allowed to re-evaluate the life you've built
Slowing down is essential to seeing what's been hidden

If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and connect with me. You don't have to navigate this alone.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm sharing what led me to step back — and what I discovered when I finally slowed down and got honest with myself. After years of building, producing, and helping others, I realized I had been operating from a place that looked like strength… but was actually rooted in survival.

This season of my life has been about something deeper: telling the truth all the way out. Not the polished version. Not the "this should be enough" version. But the real truth about what I want, what I feel, and who I actually am.

If you've been circling your own truth — avoiding hard conversations, silencing your needs, or settling for what looks "good enough" — this episode is an invitation to stop. To listen inward. To get radically honest.

Because real healing, especially after infidelity, doesn't come from checking boxes. It comes from truth.

In this episode, we cover:
Strength rooted in survival can keep you stuck
Truth creates alignment—even when life feels uncertain
Avoiding your truth prolongs pain
Real healing requires radical honesty

If you're ready to stop circling and start moving forward, I invite you to reach out and take the next step with me.

If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

If you've ever felt stuck in the question of whether to stay or leave, this encore episode is for you. I'm sharing some of the most common concerns I see when women are facing this deeply personal decision — and I'm also opening up about my own story in a way I haven't before.

This isn't about giving you a checklist or telling you what you "should" do. It's about helping you come back to yourself. I walk through what it really means to show up with integrity, to self-confront, and to take ownership of your emotional growth — regardless of what your partner is doing.

I also explore the questions that matter most: Are you being honest with yourself? Are you in a place where you can truly thrive? And do you genuinely like your reasons for staying or leaving?

This work is not easy — but it is powerful. And it's yours to keep, no matter what you decide.

In this episode, we cover:
You leave when you feel at peace with how you've shown up 
Self-confrontation leads to real clarity and growth 
Emotional self-regulation is essential for decision-making 
Your reasons matter more than anyone else's approval 
You deserve a life where you can truly thrive 

If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk.

Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions

If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching

More from me:
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles