Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

In this encore episode, I'm teaching one of the most foundational skills for healing after betrayal: how to feel your feelings instead of fighting them. Our emotions are not the problem — they are how we experience the world. And when we try to rush past pain, numb it out, or judge ourselves for feeling it, we actually make it last longer.

I walk through the most common ways we deal with emotions — resisting, avoiding, reacting — and why none of those create real relief. Then I introduce the practice of allowing emotions: observing them, getting curious, and letting them move through your body without believing every story your brain tells.

I also share a deeply personal experience from my own life that illustrates what it looks like to allow difficult emotions while still choosing how you want to show up. Healing doesn't mean never feeling fear, grief, or sadness again. It means learning that you can handle whatever comes up.

In this episode, I cover:
Emotions must be felt to be released
Allowing feelings is different from believing them
You can choose which emotions fuel your life

Register for After Betrayal: Who You Decide to Be in 2026 - the women who heal fastest aren't the ones who try hardest. They're the ones who decide. That's why I'm hosting this live class on Tuesday, January 21st at 12 pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/after-betrayal-january

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EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2 
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Infidelity can feel like one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through, and in this encore episode, I talk about why it cuts so deeply — and how healing is truly possible. I explore how betrayal impacts us not only emotionally, but at a primal level, threatening our sense of safety, belonging, and self-worth. I also share parts of my own story and explain how infidelity can reopen old, unhealed wounds that have nothing to do with our partner's choices.

One of the most powerful frameworks I discuss is the Buddhist concept of the two arrows. The first arrow is the betrayal itself. The second arrow is the meaning we attach to it—the self-blame, shame, and stories that often create even more pain. While we cannot control the first arrow, we always have a choice about the second.

Whether you are considering staying or leaving, this episode will help you understand how to reduce the impact of infidelity, reclaim your power, and stop hurting yourself with stories that are not true. Healing does not require perfection. It requires compassion, honesty, and courage.

In this episode, I cover:
Infidelity hurts deeply because of both biology and meaning
The second arrow of self-blame is optional
Your partner's choices are not a reflection of your worth
Healing is possible, whether you stay or leave

If you're ready to move forward with strength instead of shame, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing journey. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2 

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Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
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Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you one of the most powerful tools I use in my coaching: the thought model. This framework helps you see, with clarity and compassion, how your thoughts create your feelings, actions, and ultimately the results you're living with right now. This isn't about positive thinking or forcing yourself to feel better. It's about awareness — learning how your brain works so you can decide, on purpose, whether the thoughts you're believing are helping you or holding you back.

I walk you through real-life examples to show how the same circumstance can lead to very different outcomes depending on the thoughts driving it. When you understand this, you stop living at the effect of other people or situations and start reclaiming your power. You learn how to interrupt old thought patterns, create intentional results, and build a life that feels expansive instead of constricting.

In this episode, I cover:
Why circumstances don't create results — thoughts do
How to identify the thoughts running your life
What a daily thought download is and how to use it
How to create intentional results instead of repeating old patterns

If you're ready to feel more grounded, confident, and in control of your healing, I invite you to reach out and work with me. You don't have to do this alone. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2 

More from me:
Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you.

I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention.

I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through.

Key takeaways:
Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer
You can learn to trust your own judgment again
Commitment builds confidence over time
Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence by Jeffrey R. Holland: https://youtu.be/pCSs4f9DlVM?si=OihbR5qlp-5c1Nky

If you're facing a decision right now and feel overwhelmed or unsure, reach out. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2 

More from me:
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to move forward is actually a normal response to emotional trauma—and how your brain is trying to protect you, even when it's keeping you trapped.
 
I walk through three common scenarios I see again and again: staying when you're afraid to leave, being left and drowning in self-doubt, or choosing to stay but feeling unable to trust or feel peace. If any of these sound familiar, you're not broken. Your brain is wired to seek ease, avoid pain, and cling to what feels familiar—even when that familiarity hurts.

I also share how real change begins by reconnecting with your future self—the version of you who already knows what's possible. When you get clear on what you want and why you want it, you can start creating movement, even in small ways, and reclaim your power.

Key takeaways:
Feeling stuck is a protective brain response, not a personal failure
Avoiding pain often keeps us locked in familiar suffering
Clarity about what you want is the way out of stagnation

If you're ready to stop feeling trapped and start moving forward, reach out. You don't have to do this alone. I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

More from me:
Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles