Heal from Infidelity

• The Truth About Emotional Affairs and What They're Really About

  Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are — and what they're actually about. So many people believe emotional affairs are about the "other person," but I'll show you why they're often rooted in something deeper: unmet emotional hunger, self-abandonment, and the longing to feel fully alive again. You'll learn why these relationships can feel electric, why secrecy distorts truth, and how both partners can begin to heal — not by policing behavior, but by learning to be honest without self-abandonment. Whether you've been betrayed or have strayed yourself, this conversation will help you understand what your deeper needs are and how to meet them with integrity. Key Takeaways: Emotional affairs are about unmet needs, not just betrayal. The healing path begins with radical self-honesty. Integrity isn't the absence of desire — it's staying present with it. Growth means learning to choose yourself without self-rejection. If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

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• The Hidden Weight of Internalized Shame

  Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful. I walk through how shame forms, what the "shame loop" looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others. Key Takeaways: Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it's a lie. Recognizing the "shame loop" is the first step out of it. Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame's grip. Healing begins when we stop proving shame right. If you're ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. Mentioned in this episode: Men's group waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/mens-group-waitlist Couples coaching waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/couples-coaching-waitlist More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

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• Anchoring into Safety When You Don't Have the Answers Yet

  In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn't a punishment — it's a teacher. I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I've learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity. You'll learn why slowing your timeline, grounding into your body, and naming what's true right now can shift the way you experience uncertainty. The in-between may feel shaky, but it's also where growth and truth emerge. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be. In this episode, I share: How to stop making uncertainty mean something's wrong with you Simple tools to ground yourself in the present moment Why waiting doesn't mean nothing is happening A compassionate perspective on in-between seasons If you're tired of spinning in "not knowing," I'd love to help you walk through it with strength and support. Apply to work with me and let's do this together. https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

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• Vulnerability and Surrender: The Courage to Lean in After Betrayal

  After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation. I share how surrender isn't submission—it's the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally see things clearly and choose from strength. Vulnerability, meanwhile, is about daring to show up fully, to feel your feelings, and to trust yourself again—even when there are no guarantees. You'll learn how to recognize your armor, soften it, and reconnect with your heart so you can reclaim your authority over your healing and your future. Takeaways: The difference between surrender and submission Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal Practical steps to release resistance and lean into healing Ready to go deeper? Apply to join my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program and start your healing today at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

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• How to Get More Sleep After Infidelity with Yana Vriesinga

  Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of navigating sleepless nights after infidelity. Yana shares her journey of turning her own struggle into a calling to help others, and she gives us practical, compassionate tools to reclaim restful nights. Together, we talk about why sleep matters so deeply in the healing process, the three "dials" you can adjust to improve your sleep, and how to shift from anxious, perfectionistic thinking into gentle, supportive habits that allow your body to rest. If you've been battling insomnia after betrayal, this episode is for you. Healing is possible—and peaceful sleep can return. Takeaways: Why insomnia is so common after infidelity The three dials that influence healthy sleep How to calm nighttime anxiety and surrender to rest Practical habits to gently reset your sleep rhythm If you're ready to find hope, rest, and resilience, reach out—I'd love to support you on your journey. YANA'S INFORMATION: Yana Vriesinga is a journalist turned certified sleep coach, specializing in helping people reclaim their nights after the shock of infidelity. She knows firsthand how betrayal can hijack the nervous system, leaving even the strongest sleepers among us wide awake at 3 a.m. Drawing on her own story, her background in health reporting, and certification in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Yana has developed a clear, compassionate approach to what she calls post-infidelity insomnia. Through her coaching and her free email course, 'Sleep More, Heal Stronger', she equips betrayed partners with practical tools to calm their bodies, quiet their thoughts, and finally get the restorative sleep they need to stay resilient.  Join her free course at ResilientDays.com (https://www.resilientdays.com) and start sleeping better tonight.  More from me: October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

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