Unblock Your BS

Most people think nervous system regulation is just another wellness buzzword.
Take a deep breath. Meditate. Calm down.
But what does it actually mean to regulate your nervous system when your body feels like everything is an emergency?
In this week's episode, Tara sits down with Aleksandra Chojnicka, founder and CEO of Detox House, a nervous system resilience coach who helps high achievers build more capacity through breathwork, cold exposure, and practical somatic tools.
Inside the episode:
Why your nervous system mistakes uncertainty for danger

What actually happens inside your body during a cold plunge

How breathwork and cold exposure train emotional resilience

Why "white-knuckling" discomfort reinforces survival mode

The connection between childhood conditioning and relationship triggers

How to stop outsourcing your sense of safety to your partner

Practical ways to regulate your body before difficult conversations

If you've ever caught yourself thinking... "I know better... so why do I keep reacting like this?" this episode will finally help you understand why.
Where to find Aleksa Chojnacka
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedetoxhouse
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thedetoxhouse
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-your-freedom-by-detox-house/id1502023435
Website: https://www.detox-house.com/ 
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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

One of the hardest parts of separation isn't the loss of the relationship... It's the desperate hope that one day they'll finally understand your side.
That they'll acknowledge what you carried. That they'll admit it wasn't all your fault.
"Rob" applied to come on for coaching while going through a separation. He'd already taken responsibility for his side, but he was stuck needing his wife to acknowledge hers, and couldn't feel okay until she did. Tara helps him see what that need is really about, and what it's costing him.
In this episode:
Why accountability is not self-abandonment

The hidden difference between defending yourself and making someone feel heard

How people-pleasing slowly turns into resentment

Why miscarriages, young children, and chronic stress can quietly disconnect couples

The survival response underneath defensiveness

Why your partner's validation cannot become the foundation of your healing

The boundary shift that completely changed Rob's conversations with his wife

What emotionally safe leadership actually looks like

If you've ever found yourself thinking "If she would just acknowledge her part..." this conversation might completely change the way you see healing.
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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You did the work. You went to therapy, you changed how you show up, you really tried to become a better man. And it still wasn't enough to make her stay. 
So now you're stuck asking yourself, why wasn't I enough? 
If that question has been living in your head, this one's for you.
"Todd" came into Healthy Men-tality trying to save his marriage. Instead, his wife left and quickly moved another man into her home around their three young kids, and Todd was left wading through some of the ugliest parts of his own self-worth. This is the story of how he came out the other side, not by winning her back, but by finding his worth from the inside.
In this episode:
Why people-pleasing quietly destroys your identity

The difference between performing for approval and creating lasting change

How nervous system regulation completely changed Todd's parenting

What healthy boundaries actually look like during separation

Why your self-worth cannot depend on your partner choosing you

Navigating co-parenting when emotions are still running high

The surprising shift that made Todd more confident in parenting, friendships, work, and life

One of the biggest takeaways?
You don't have to wait for someone else to validate your growth before becoming proud of who you're becoming. When you stop outsourcing your worth, everything changes.
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Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa
 
Connect with Tara:
Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
@unblockyourbs on TikTok 
 Watch the episodes on YouTube
Book a 1:1 call with Tara
Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE
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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

The relationship advice you've heard your whole life might actually be keeping you stuck.
"Happy wife, happy life."
"Never go to bed angry."
"Learn to compromise."
Most of us were handed these ideas long before we ever understood relationships. They sound loving. They sound wise. But what if they're quietly creating resentment, self-abandonment, scorekeeping, and emotional distance instead?
In this episode, Tara sits down with relationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner to unpack some of the biggest myths couples still believe and what actually creates lasting connection.
They explore why emotional safety isn't built through people-pleasing, why accountability is much more than saying "I'm sorry," and how collaboration creates healthier relationships than compromise ever could.
Whether you're rebuilding your marriage, navigating conflict, or simply trying to become a healthier partner, this conversation offers a completely different lens on what strong relationships actually require.
In this episode:
Why compromise often creates resentment instead of connection

The problem with "Happy Wife, Happy Life"

What accountability actually looks like in a healthy relationship

How consistency builds emotional safety

Why happiness isn't your partner's responsibility

The difference between collaboration and compromise

Why "Never Go to Bed Angry" isn't always good advice

Practical ways to communicate needs without blame or self-abandonment

About Monica Tanner
Monica Tanner is a relationship and intimacy coach certified in Relational Life Therapy and Sex Therapy. She's passionate about helping couples create stronger emotional and physical intimacy by challenging outdated relationship advice and replacing it with practical, collaborative skills that actually work in modern relationships.
She is the author of Bad Marriage Advice and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast.
Connect with Monica
Website:https://monicatanner.com
Book:https://badmarriageadvice.com
Instagram:https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafter
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Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa
 
Connect with Tara:
Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
@unblockyourbs on TikTok 
 Watch the episodes on YouTube
Book a 1:1 call with Tara
Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE
__________________________________________________________________________________
 
Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

How long are you going to keep punishing yourself for it? You hurt someone, or someone hurt you, and you're still carrying it, still replaying it, still waiting to feel like you've finally paid enough. If that's you, this one's worth your time.
In this week's episode, Tara goes deep on forgiveness, the kind people get completely wrong. 
Not letting someone off the hook, not pretending it didn't hurt, but choosing to stop carrying the weight so the suffering finally gets an end date. Whether you're the one who caused the hurt or the one who got hurt, it starts in the same place: forgiving yourself first.
In this episode:
Why forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing

The hidden cost of staying stuck in resentment

Why shame isn't accountability

How to forgive yourself after hurting someone

How to forgive someone without giving them unlimited access

The difference between trust and blind trust

Small ways to rebuild integrity after betrayal

Why nervous system regulation matters more than apologies

How to stop letting painful memories dictate your future relationships

You don't earn your way out of shame by sitting in it. You choose your way out.
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Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa
 
Connect with Tara:
Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
@unblockyourbs on TikTok 
 Watch the episodes on YouTube
Book a 1:1 call with Tara
Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE
__________________________________________________________________________________
 
Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.
The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.