Unshaming AuDHD

In this episode of UnShaming AuDHD, hosts Jes Diverges and Javelin Laurence explore how neurodivergent individuals can avoid burning out while attempting to recover from or prevent AuDHD burnout. They unpack how traditional self-care or recovery practices often turn into rigid expectations that compound exhaustion and prolong recovery. The hosts define AuDHD burnout as a deep mismatch between demands and capacity, contrasting it with standard career burnout and highlighting severe impacts like skill regression. To catch approaching burnout early, Jes and Javelin share personal yellow and red flags, including apathy toward favorite hobbies, difficulty cooking, and heightened irritability. They discuss practical, low-demand strategies such as "no expectation days" and "task tiering" to safely lower life's difficulty volume and dismantle all-or-nothing thinking. Finally, the hosts emphasize radical acceptance, releasing artificial urgency, and honoring one's individual capacity without guilt or shame.

Autistic Burnout Scale: https://www.instagram.com/p/DDPwf42uNwl/

Jes’s AuDHD Allowed & Out Loud program: https://www.jesdiverges.com/allowedandoutloud

Jav’s Coaching For Queer Artists In Alberta, CA: https://www.alchemycoaching.ca/free-coaching-program

Other Links & Resources:

Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence
Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching
Javelin's Website: https://www.alchemycoaching.ca/

Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠
Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠
Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges
Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠

Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

In this two-part episode, Jes and Javelin explore how growing up Catholic and evangelical (respectively) shaped their beliefs, and how they each found their way into witchcraft, tarot, and more expansive, queer-affirming spirituality. They talk about magic as “science we haven’t explained yet,” the power of placebo, talismans, and ritual, and why neurodivergent brains often thrive on phases instead of rigid consistency. Together, they unpack shame, “good vs bad person” thinking, capitalism, and the myth of being fundamentally broken—offering play, silliness, and wholehearted choice as deeply spiritual practices.

Links:

Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence
Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching
Javelin's Webside: https://www.alchemydivergencecoaching.com

Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠
Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠
Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges
Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠

Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

In this two-part episode, Jes and Javelin explore how growing up Catholic and evangelical (respectively) shaped their beliefs, and how they each found their way into witchcraft, tarot, and more expansive, queer-affirming spirituality. They talk about magic as “science we haven’t explained yet,” the power of placebo, talismans, and ritual, and why neurodivergent brains often thrive on phases instead of rigid consistency. Together, they unpack shame, “good vs bad person” thinking, capitalism, and the myth of being fundamentally broken—offering play, silliness, and wholehearted choice as deeply spiritual practices.

Links:

Javelin’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence⁠
Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching⁠
Javelin's Webside: ⁠https://www.alchemydivergencecoaching.com ⁠

Jes’s Website: ⁠⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠⁠
Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠⁠
Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠⁠
Jes’s TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠⁠
Jes’s Substack: ⁠⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠⁠

Transcript Document: ⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠⁠

New co-host Javelin Laurence joins Jes to talk about all things hobbies as an autistic ADHDer. They discuss what makes a hobby a hobby, how auDHDers tend to interact with their hobbies (or not), and Javelin shares their three rules for sustainable, long lasting hobby-having.

Links:

Javelin’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javelinlaurence
Javelin’s Coaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemydivergencecoaching

Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠
Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠
Join Jes’s Combo Platter Community: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges
Jes’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠
Jes’s Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠

Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠

In this episode, I dive into what I actually mean when I say “unshaming auDHD.” I discuss how shame is not an emotion, but a lens through which we learn to view ourselves. I also talk about where shame comes from, and how to acknowledge and work with it by developing a counteractive voice called a loving witness.

David Bedrick’s website: www.davidbedrick.com

Other Links & Resources:

Individual Coaching: www.jesdiverges.com/individualcoaching
AuDHD Summer Camp: www.jesdiverges.com/audhdsummercamp

Join The Combo Platter: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/jesdiverges
Jes’s Website: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com⁠
Jes’s Email: ⁠⁠jes@jesdiverges.com⁠⁠
Join My Email List: ⁠https://www.jesdiverges.com/newsletter⁠

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/jesdiverges⁠
TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jesdiverges⁠
Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@jesdiverges⁠

Transcript Document: ⁠https://tinyurl.com/UnshamingAuDHDTranscripts⁠