Up Past Bedtime

• S4 Ep9: I don't want to have it all (and I'm tired of being told I should)

  In this episode of Up Past Bedtime, I am pulling apart one of the biggest lies sold to women in our 20s and 30s: the myth of having it all. We are told to be present mothers, have thriving careers, keep perfect homes, stay fit, look good, be emotionally regulated, have hobbies, make money and somehow do it all with a smile. I share the moment I realised I did not actually want it all and how releasing that pressure completely changed my life.I talk about my own experiences with burnout, co-parenting, navigating ADHD and ASD, motherhood and healing, and why balance has never really existed in my world. I also unpack why the idea of “you can have it all, just not all at once” still keeps us stuck chasing an invisible checklist instead of choosing what genuinely matters to us.If you have ever felt like you are dropping the ball or not measuring up, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a reminder that you are allowed to build a life that works for you, not for everyone else.Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats—the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime. HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!Contact us on the UPB Hotline: [email protected] Socials:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or Email Us: [email protected]’s Socials: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina

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• S4 Ep8: November Life Update - Birthdays, Parenting & Burnout

  This week on Up Past Bedtime, I’m giving you my monthly life update; and honestly, it’s been… a lot. Between being sick, juggling solo mum life, and trying to keep up with a wild work month (hi, TikTok Awards), I’ve been stretched in every direction.I chat about where I’m at with my PMDD and birth control journey, what’s been helping, what hasn’t, and how all of it shows up in day-to-day mum life. I also reflect on Rosie’s birthday, the highs and lows of parenting toddlers, and how screen time can turn the sweetest child into a tiny emotional tornado.I open up about burnout, the pressure of being “on” for work while still trying to show up as the mum I want to be, and the little sparks of hope I’m holding for a calmer, more fulfilling 2026.HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!Contact us on the UPB Hotline: [email protected] Socials:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or Email Us: [email protected]’s Socials: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina

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• After Dark S4 Ep2: Chaotic Would You Rather...

  This week on Up Past Bedtime: After Dark, we’re diving head-first into the chaos you girlies threw at me… a full episode of chaotic Would You Rathers that absolutely did not hold back 🔥You asked me everything.Like… everything.From kink preferences and sexuality questions, to whether I’d rather confront 19-year-old Bella or future 39-year-old Bella, to the ultimate dilemma of what I’d pick over ever getting back with my ex 😳 I honestly wasn’t prepared.Grab your headphones... This one gets spicy.Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime. HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!Contact us on the UPB Hotline: [email protected] Socials:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or Email Us: [email protected]’s Socials: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina

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• S4 Ep7: Main Character Energy - Decentering Men 101 with Mia Findlay

  This week on Up Past Bedtime I’m joined by the incredible Mia Findlay, creator, speaker and the brilliant mind behind @whatmiadidnext. Mia has spent years helping women step into their power, unpack their conditioning and build lives that aren’t centred around keeping men comfortable. In this episode we sit down for the chat so many of us needed in our teens and early twenties.Together we dive into what it actually means to decenter men, how to reclaim your identity outside of being someone’s partner, and the quiet ways women accidentally shape their whole lives around satisfying expectations that were never really ours. Mia shares the moments that pulled her into this work, the experiences that shaped her voice online, and why she is so passionate about helping straight women break away from the patterns that keep them small.We talk motherhood, marriage, self abandonment, resentment, boundaries, the “good girl” performance, and why so many women wake up one day wondering how they lost themselves. This conversation is real, validating and a little confronting in the best way.Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime. More About Mia: Instagram: ⁠@whatmiadidnext⁠Tik Tok: ⁠@whatmiadidnext⁠Youtube: ⁠@whatmiadidnext⁠Podcast: Beyond Body & Pod Like A GirlWebsite:⁠ www.beyondbodycoach.com⁠HAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!Contact us on the UPB Hotline: [email protected] Socials:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or Email Us: [email protected]’s Socials: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina

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• S4 Ep7: Main Character Energy - Decentering Men 101 w. Mia Findlay

  This week on Up Past Bedtime I’m joined by the incredible Mia Findlay, creator, speaker and the brilliant mind behind @whatmiadidnext. Mia has spent years helping women step into their power, unpack their conditioning and build lives that aren’t centred around keeping men comfortable. In this episode we sit down for the chat so many of us needed in our teens and early twenties.Together we dive into what it actually means to decenter men, how to reclaim your identity outside of being someone’s partner, and the quiet ways women accidentally shape their whole lives around satisfying expectations that were never really ours. Mia shares the moments that pulled her into this work, the experiences that shaped her voice online, and why she is so passionate about helping straight women break away from the patterns that keep them small.We talk motherhood, marriage, self abandonment, resentment, boundaries, the “good girl” performance, and why so many women wake up one day wondering how they lost themselves. This conversation is real, validating and a little confronting in the best way.Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats... the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime. More About Mia: Instagram: @whatmiadidnextTik Tok: @whatmiadidnextYoutube: @whatmiadidnextPodcast: Beyond Body & Pod Like A GirlWebsite: www.beyondbodycoach.comHAVE SOMETHING TO SHARE?!Contact us on the UPB Hotline: [email protected] Socials:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@uppastbedtimepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Watch on Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or Email Us: [email protected]’s Socials: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bellsmessina

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