We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!” In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth. Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships.  With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power. Follow Chidera Here: https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Intro 00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower' 00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos' 00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy 00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father 00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships 00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence? 00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat 00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time 00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women 00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera? 00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance 00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic 00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage? 00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance? 00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego 00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work' 00:55:10 Huel Ad 00:56:12 Tinder Ad 00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy 00:59:40 4B Movement 01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual' 01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix 01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start? 01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego 01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux' 01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera 01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation 01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways 01:49:10 Fiver Ad Sponsored by: Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/

Appearance Was A Big Part Of My Childhood: Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment.  Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience.  With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms. Follow Megan here: Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ep1wbj4jJOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support: Women's Aid https://g2ul0.app.link/WyCdvWWjJOb Refuge https://g2ul0.app.link/pmZkBsOjJOb NUM https://g2ul0.app.link/sosyTb1jJOb MIND https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb 00:00 Intro 2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea 3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth 4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories 5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend 6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School 10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences? 12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth 13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy? 15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation 16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story 21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It 24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back 25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper 27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective 29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper? 30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant 32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club 35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career 37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island 39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island 40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island 41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island? 42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story 44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience 46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye 54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles 56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating 58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response 1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi 1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended 1:05:41 Adobe Ad 1:06:36 Tinder Ad 1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now? 1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner 1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age 1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned 1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back 1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men 1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman 1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans 1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans 1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories 1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take 1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection 1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations 1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey 2:01:11 Huel Ad Sponsored by: Adobe https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder https://tinder.com/en-GB  Huel https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL

Do younger partners make you happier? In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality. Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms. Follow Cindy Here: Cindy's Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/neknglRJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ANV19lVJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Fundraiser https://g2ul0.app.link/3nwgfqdMJOb Support MakeLoveNotPorn Here: https://www.wefunder.com/makelovenotporn Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop? 02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean? 03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her 04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self 06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self 09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms 12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love? 13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love 15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women 17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates? 20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love 24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change? 25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices 27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships 28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men 35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family” 37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact 42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn? 46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission 53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark? 58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits 01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent 01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex? 01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn” 01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex 01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn 01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy 01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable Conversations Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB

Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction. From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment. Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. Follow Dr Karen Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 00:00 Introduction   1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life   1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?   3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know   5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?   7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?   10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference   15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios   18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations   21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters   27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?   31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size   34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?   36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?   37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?   40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?   45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond   47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad   48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad   49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?   52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships   1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship   1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting   1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life   1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?   1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?   1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life   1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships   1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?   1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship   1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important   1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?   1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex   1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex   1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad   -- Sponsored by: Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB