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Julie Legg is joined by Kamy Moussavi, former engineer and founder of Step Together, who brings a powerful and personal perspective to the conversation around ADHD, emotional eating, and the brain’s relationship with food. Kamy shares his own childhood experience with obesity, restrictive dieting, and undiagnosed ADHD, revealing how traditional approaches like calorie counting failed to address the real drivers behind his behaviour. 
Together, they unpack the critical link between dopamine, emotional regulation, and eating habits, particularly in ADHD brains. This conversation shifts the narrative away from willpower and discipline, and toward curiosity, compassion, and understanding the root causes behind behaviour. It’s an eye-opening episode for parents navigating food struggles with their children and for anyone who has ever felt stuck in cycles of guilt, shame, or emotional eating.
Key Points from the Episode:
Emotional eating as a dopamine-driven behaviour in ADHD
Why calorie counting and restriction often fail long-term
The connection between ADHD, dopamine deficiency, and food
Bulimia, binge eating, sneaky eating, and shame cycles
Why weight is a symptom, not the root problem
The role of anxiety, loneliness, and boredom in eating habits
How shame drives secrecy and worsens behaviours
The impact of environment vs relying on willpower
Dopamine regulation and over-stimulation from food and technology
Why removing food too quickly can backfire
Family dynamics and parental influence on eating behaviours
Redefining “healthy” beyond diet culture
Links:
WEBSITE: https://www.steptogether.us/
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61568953434947
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@steptogether-child-weightloss
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/steptogether_us/
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamymoussavi/
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Julie Legg speaks with Tiara Brumberg, certified ADHD coach, entrepreneur, and founder of The Middle Coaching. Tiara lives and breathes the realities of ADHD both professionally and personally — as a mum to three children with ADHD, a partner to a husband with ADHD, and an ADHDer herself.
Together, they explore what Tiara calls the “messy middle” — the real-life space where executive functioning challenges, emotional dysregulation, parenting pressures, and everyday family chaos collide.
Tiara shares honest insights about raising neurodivergent kids without losing yourself in the process, why curiosity is more powerful than criticism in ADHD households, and how simple tools like whiteboards, visual systems, and self-compassion can transform family dynamics.
Key Points from the Episode:
Parenting in a household where everyone has ADHD
Late ADHD diagnosis in high-performing women
Curiosity vs criticism when kids struggle with behaviour
The “messy middle” of family life with ADHD
Why ADHD mums often lose themselves in caregiving
Self-compassion in the middle of overwhelm
Visual tools and whiteboards to reduce mental load
Moving from nagging to collaboration with kids
Teaching independence without shame or power struggles
The importance of internal vs external locus of control
Why parents must “put their oxygen mask on first”
Redefining success in ADHD families
Links:
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/tiara.brumberg/
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/tebrumberg/
WEBSITE: https://www.themiddlecoaching.net/
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/themiddlecoaching/
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Julie Legg speaks with Dominic Carubba, a former U.S. Army officer, sales leader, and ADHD coach who was diagnosed later in life after decades of high performance that masked a quiet erosion of self-trust. Dominic shares how ADHD can drive overcomplication, overthinking, and constant attempts to compensate for perceived shortcomings. Even when life looks successful from the outside, internally many ADHDers feel like they are always catching up, always trying to prove themselves. 
The conversation explores how cycles of abandoned projects, unfinished ideas, and chronic urgency can slowly chip away at confidence. Dominic explains why simplifying systems, building visible wins, and learning to forgive yourself are key to rebuilding self-trust. This episode is a reminder that ADHD isn’t about being broken. Often it’s about learning to design systems that work with your brain rather than constantly trying to fix it. 
Key Points from the Episode: 
Late ADHD diagnosis after decades of high performance 
The hidden cost of overcomplication 
How unfinished projects erode self-trust Imposter syndrome in capable ADHD adults 
Why ADHDers often add more systems instead of simplifying 
Visible wins as a way to rebuild confidence 
The importance of learning to say no Lowering the bar to rebuild momentum 
Designing systems that work with ADHD brains 
Persistence vs consistency 
Self-forgiveness as part of growth 
Why ADHD isn’t something to eliminate, but learn to work with 
Links:
WEBSITE: https://momentum.theadhdleader.com/
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/salesandtechnologyconsultants
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/the_dominicx
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dominiccarubba/
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Julie Legg speaks with psychotherapist and author Brian DesRoches (Living a Trigger-Free Life), whose work focuses on the neuroscience of emotional learning and a process called memory reconsolidation. Brian explains why so many people struggle with recurring triggers, self-sabotage, and emotional patterns even after years of insight or therapy.
Rather than simply managing reactions or trying to “think positive,” Brian describes how the brain actually stores emotional learning and how those memories can be updated and rewired through a process that allows the brain to recognise when past threats are no longer true.
The conversation explores internal conflict, self-criticism, and the protective mechanisms behind behaviours many ADHDers experience and offers a hopeful perspective: that lasting emotional change isn’t about trying harder, it’s about helping the brain learn something new.
Key Points from the Episode:
Emotional memories vs explicit memories
What memory reconsolidation actually means
Why insight alone rarely changes behaviour
The brain’s constant threat prediction system
Internal conflict: one foot on the gas, one on the brake
Why willpower and discipline often fail
Self-sabotage as a protective mechanism
Updating emotional memories through new experiences
Reframing ADHD self-criticism and identity
Why emotional learning may represent an evolutionary shift
Links:
WEBSITE: https://www.briandesroches.com/
LIVING A TRIGGER-FREE LIFE: https://a.co/d/bDgsLtC
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-desroches-12313731a/ 
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Julie Legg speaks with Ryan Turner — motocross rider, recruiter, content creator, and founder of Dopamine Hunters. After receiving his ADHD diagnosis in adulthood, Ryan began reflecting on a lifetime of intensity, stimulation-seeking, and relentless energy that had previously felt chaotic and misunderstood.
Through motocross and other high-adrenaline pursuits, Ryan discovered that the environments many people see as risky or extreme can actually bring calm, focus, and clarity to ADHD minds. That insight inspired Dopamine Hunters, a growing community, podcast, and documentary exploring how dopamine drives passion, performance, and purpose.
Ryan shares candidly about late diagnosis, substance use, self-medication, education systems that miss neurodivergent children, and why interest-based learning is often the key to unlocking potential. This episode is an honest and energetic conversation about finding healthy outlets for ADHD intensity and creating spaces where neurodivergent people can thrive.
Key Points from the Episode:
Ryan’s late ADHD diagnosis and emotional aftermath
Growing up masking ADHD while siblings received support
The connection between ADHD and substance self-medication
Why adrenaline environments can calm ADHD brains
Motocross as regulation, focus, and community
The idea behind Dopamine Hunters and how it started
Interest-based learning and why traditional classrooms fail many ADHDers
The “hidden 20%” of students with internalised neurodivergency
Burnout vs healthy stimulation for ADHD minds
Reframing hobbies as exploration rather than “quitting”
The link between ADHD, dopamine, and purpose
Ryan’s mission to create a platform for neurodivergent stories
Links:
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dopamine-hunters/
WEBSITE: https://www.dopamine-hunters.com/
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@DopamineHuntersRyanTurner-h8z
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ryanturner751/
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