Dear Anger

In this, the final episode of Dear Anger limited series, Ed and Renee talk about self compassion, and compassion for others, and its role in our relationship with anger.  Our pain points, our triggers, the things that really get us worked up, are often related to the things that we're hardest on ourselves about. To complicate the issue, when we shame ourselves for feeling triggered and angry over those pain points, it makes us feel even worse. Join your favorite emotional experts one last time as they guide you through the practice of self compassion, and de-shaming the experience of anger. 

Ed and Renee are here with a solution for limiting screen time and making kids love it. Ha! Just kidding! Parents get angry when kids spend too much time on electronic devices. Kids get angry when they're told to turn them off. The battle over time spent on video games and phones is common in every home, and it’s not going away. While there is no fix-all tool, we do have plenty of strategies and advice for helping parents maintain boundaries without losing their temper. 

It's not always what we say, but how we say it.  Sometimes, when frustration mounts, our anger comes out in body language and tone of voice.  Our words can take on totally different meanings when we say them in different ways and at different volumes. Often we don't even realize it!  Ed and Renee get to the bottom of the language of delivering language, and how we can practice saying things exactly as we intend to.

Please stop. Stop it! STOP IT NOW!Sometimes it feels like kids just don't listen.  Certain behaviors, for whatever reason, are so alluring, they can't seem to STOP! "Stop jumping on the couch!" "Stop using that language!" "Stop playing with your food!" Why do they insist on doing the opposite of what we say? It has to do with inner voice, and personal choice. Today, Ed and Renee take a deep dive into behaviors kids can't seem to stop, and how we can control more by allowing more.

Mess! Mess everywhere! Show me a neat and tidy child, and I'll show you a myth. Yet, our expectations as parents are often much different. We think they "should" be able to clean up. They "should" think to make their bed every morning. They "should" offer to help with chores. When expectations are not reality, we get triggered, and the battles begin. Listen in as Ed and Renee examine the science of organization, brain development, and the anger that surrounds it all.