The Healing Power of Being Truly Known w/ Sarah Peyton | #14
If you’re someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you. “Resonance” is a term frequently used by today’s guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others. Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you. In this episode, Sarah talks about: Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what’s possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way How you’re trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit Being “known” by others can actually rewire your brain To learn more about Sarah’s work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/ And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Sarah Peyton: Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/ 20% Off Sarah’s Book “Your Resonant Self”: https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields
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Making Meaning Out of Pain: w/ Jon Macaskill | #13
Accepting your humanity means embracing every part of yourself, including your emotions. The image we often associate with a Navy SEAL is toughness, resilience, and strength. That’s what makes today’s guest, Jon Macaskill, so compelling. A retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, Jon has been through some extraordinary experiences. But instead of using his past as an excuse to close off from his emotions, he has chosen to express them openly and confidently through his widely successful podcast Men Talking Mindfulness. Jon is a layered and complex person. In this conversation with Jay, you’ll have the chance to experience so many different sides of him. He is a warrior, a kind and thoughtful man, a father, a speaker, and someone who knows the value of pausing to reflect. As someone who has worked directly with Jay, Jon is a great example of what it looks like to stop, say “Hey, Wait,” and hold space for both your own experience and the experience of others. In this episode, Jon talks about: Lessons learned through the Navy SEALS The continued value of practicing mindfulness Being “Nice” is not the same as being “Kind” Having resilience in yourself starts by having faith in yourself You’re more confident than you’re giving yourself credit for To learn more about Jon, explore his podcast, work, and offerings at jonmacaskill.com/links. And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jon Macaskill: Official Website: jonmacaskill.com/links Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalkingmindfulness “Men Talking Mindfulness” Podcast: https://mentalkingmindfulness.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonmacaskill Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields
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Giving Yourself the Gift of Peace: with Erin Diehl | #12
Improv is about saying “Yes, and.” It’s about listening to others, embracing the moment, and choosing to input your own reality. In that way, improv and “Hey, Wait” are actually very similar. Today’s guest Erin Diehl is as authentic as they come. She’s a speaker, author, podcast host, “edutainer,” “failfluencer,” and self-proclaimed professional “Zoombie.” Erin fully owns who she is, and yet she still finds herself struggling with people-pleasing. Whether it’s through their shared love of Oprah, discussing a messy trip to Mexico City, or hitting heavy topics like the importance of empathy and alignment… Jay’s conversation with Erin is one that I think you’ll really be able to relate to. It’s funny, it’s engaging, but most importantly it’s entirely authentic. In this episode, Erin talks about: The powerful health benefits of aligning mind and body. How she’s learned to say “Hey, Wait” in her own life. Why The Gift of Peace isn’t just a nice-to-have. It’s essential. What it looks like to let go of ego in service of the mission. Feeling inspired to try the Chicken Dance yourself? Visit itserindiehl.com to learn more about Erin, and click here to purchase a copy of her book I See You! To stay connected with Jay Moon Fields, head to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Erin Diehl: Official Website: itserindiehl.com Improve It’s Website: learntoimproveit.com Instagram: instagram.com/itserindiehl Workday Playdate Podcast: learntoimproveit.com/podcast-page-empathy Empathy Cheat Sheet: mailchi.mp/8331b3185dac/empathycheatsheet Erin’s Book “I See You!”: https://www.itserindiehl.com/i-see-you Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields
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Break the Pattern. Not the Peace. | #11
You’re not picking a fight. You’re picking yourself. Saying “Hey, Wait” might feel like confrontation… But what if it’s actually one of the most loving and respectful things you can do? In this solo episode, Jay closes out her three-part series on the “Hey, Wait” method with the final and most tender step: actually saying “Hey, Wait” to another person. Whether you’re someone who keeps the peace at all costs or someone who only speaks up when you're already at a boiling point, this practice will help you to find a healthy space in between. A way to stay with yourself while staying true to your relationships. A way to speak up without burning it all down. Because “Hey, Wait” isn’t just about learning how to use your voice. It’s about learning that your reality matters. In this episode, Jay shares: Why “Hey, Wait” can feel so charged, especially if you’re used to staying quiet How to turn “Hey, Wait” into a true bid for connection How to start practicing in low-stakes situations before tackling the bigger ones What to say next, and how to keep the moment grounded in your truth In this episode, Jay also opens up about her course, Yours Truly: a self-paced program designed to help you come home to yourself in your nervous system, your voice, and your relationships. For a limited time, you can join for just $148. Visit jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly to learn more, and use the code wholeness at checkout to receive your discount. Have a question for the podcast? We’d love to hear it! Send Jay a DM on Instagram, you might just hear your question in a future episode. Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields
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Becoming Radically & Embarrassingly True to Yourself: with Nancy Dreyfus | #10
You don’t need to stand up for yourself. You need a “self”. Saying “Hey, Wait” is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you’ve been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She’s been Jay’s mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the “Hey, Wait” approach you’ve been hearing about. Think of Nancy as the “Yoda” of helping people get their insides to match their outsides. She’s a psychotherapist, an author, and, more than anything, a deep well of wisdom. If this podcast has been resonating with you, you’ll love this episode. It’s packed with thoughtful insights and practical takeaways that’ll help you get one step closer to being Radically and Embarrassingly True to Yourself. In this episode, you’ll hear Nancy talk about: Why being authentic can feel both embarrassing and liberating How to stand in your truth and honor someone else’s reality What it really means to “do the work” with your partner And how you’ll start to notice your own growth when you take healing seriously Want to go deeper? Grab Nancy’s book, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love, and flip through the flashcards one by one. Don’t just read them… say them out loud. Let the words settle into your body. Here’s the link to grab the book. And don’t forget to stay connected with Jay Moon Fields—check out jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. Got a question for the podcast? Send it in! You might just hear it in a future episode. Connect with Nancy Dreyfus: Official Website: https://nancydreyfus.com/ Nancy’s Book: “Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love”: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ Nancy’s Psydbar Substack: https://nancydreyfus.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instahttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ref=s9_simh_gw_p14_d1_i3gram.com/nancydreyfus_psyd/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/nancydreyfus.bsky.social Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields
Hey, Wait is a podcast about what happens when you stop reacting from old patterns—and start responding from what’s actually true. Because those two little words—“Hey, wait”—can change everything for you.
Hosted by leading somatic coach, educator and author Jay Moon Fields, each episode features honest, insightful, and often funny conversations with experts (who are also humans) about how to come back to yourself in the moments that matter most. If you’re navigating conflict, change, or just trying to show up more fully—you’re in the right place.
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