285. It's Not Your Fault: Why You're So Hard On Yourself
Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled glass of water that turns into chaos, the constant need to assign blame, the walking on eggshells - these experiences don't just disappear when you become an adult. They show up as that relentless inner critic, the exhausting need to control everyone's emotions, and the panic that rises when something goes wrong. The path forward isn't about becoming perfect or never making mistakes. It's about learning to feel safe in the mess of being human. In this episode, you'll discover how to recognize criticism as a red flag for feeling unsafe, how to regulate your nervous system when panic rises, and most importantly, how to build the muscle of self-compassion. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/285Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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284. When Your Heart Hurts: A Loving Approach to Navigating Heartache
When your heart feels like it's been shattered into pieces and the pain consumes every moment of your day, you're experiencing something that every human being knows intimately: heartache.In this episode, I'll walk you through my Love Yourself No Matter What method - a three-part process that helps you regulate your nervous system, process the emotion in your body, and decide what to believe about yourself when your brain offers up those cruel thoughts. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/284Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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283. Behind the Gossip: The Truth About Jealousy
Most of us have been taught that jealousy is wrong, and that we should never feel it. But rejecting a normal human emotion only makes it come back louder and more destructive. In this episode, I share my own experience with jealousy and shine a light on the hidden connection between feeling threatened and speaking poorly about others. You'll learn ways to regulate your nervous system, reduce your jealousy, and hear why the person who truly wins isn’t someone who never feels jealous - it’s the person who can feel all their feelings without sabotaging themselves.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/283Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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282. WHO Before HOW: How Goals Grow You from the Inside Out
Most of us think the point of a goal is to achieve it. But what if the real purpose is who you become along the way? When I laced up my skates, put on a sparkly costume, and stepped onto the ice to perform in front of judges, I thought the goal was the medal. What I learned instead was that the goal was there to help me meet every part of myself—the scared, the brave, and the resilient—all in one two-minute skate.In this episode, I’m sharing what really happens between setting a goal and achieving it, and why that messy middle is where the true transformation takes place. Through stories from my own skating experiences, I’ll show you how goals aren’t just about the finish line. They’re about the relationship you build with yourself while you go for it.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/282Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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281. Turning Fear into Fuel: The Self-Love Approach to Big Goals
Goal setting triggers panic for so many of us. The fear of not meeting expectations, the pressure of deadlines, the looming possibility of disappointment - it's enough to make anyone avoid setting goals altogether. But what if the real problem isn't the goal itself, but our relationship with failure along the way?Tune in to hear my four-step process for moving through fear and failure with compassion. You'll discover how to set goals that stretch you, create belief before you see results, fail on purpose (yes, really), and evaluate without judgment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/281Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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