How To Love Yourself No Matter What

If you’ve been repeating affirmations, journaling your thoughts, and still feeling stuck… we need to talk.
Because it’s not that you’re doing it wrong.
It’s that these tools aren’t actually designed to create the kind of change you’re looking for.
In this episode, I’m breaking down why mantras and journaling often don’t work—especially for sensitive, self-aware women—and what to do instead.
Mantras can create internal conflict when your brain doesn’t believe what you’re saying.
Journaling can turn into rumination that reinforces the exact patterns you’re trying to break.
So if you’ve ever felt like:
“I should be further along by now”
“I know better, so why am I still stuck?”
“I’ve done so much work, why hasn’t anything really changed?”
This episode will land.
I’m going to show you a different way to work with your brain—one that actually creates emotional buy-in, shifts your beliefs, and changes how you show up in your life.
✨ In This Episode, I Talk About:
Why mantras often feel empty (and can actually increase anxiety)
How journaling can quietly reinforce negative thinking patterns
The role your survival brain is playing behind the scenes
Why your beliefs—not your thoughts—are what need to change
The real skill that creates confidence, calm, and lasting change
How asking better questions can completely shift your emotional state

🔑 What I Want You To Take Away:
You don’t need to force yourself to think positively.
You need to learn how to question what you’re thinking in a way that actually opens something up.
💭 Try This Instead:
Next time you feel stuck, don’t reach for a mantra.
Ask yourself:
What if this isn’t actually true?
What would be possible if I believed I was enough?
How would I show up if I felt fully accepted?

Let your brain answer. That’s where the shift happens.
💬 Want Help With This?
This is exactly the work I do with my clients.
If you’re ready to stop spinning in your head and actually create change that feels real and sustainable, you can book a call with me:
👉 amandahess.ca/bookacall
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If you’ve ever thought “why am I so emotional?” or felt like you’re just too sensitive for this world, this episode is going to shift everything.
Because what if the problem isn’t your emotions…
but what you’ve been taught to believe about them?
In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden conditioning that makes sensitive women feel weak, overwhelmed, or “too much”—and why that narrative is not only false, it’s keeping you stuck.
We’ll talk about:
Why being emotional has been framed as a flaw
How society profits from you believing something is wrong with you
The real reason you feel overwhelmed, reactive, or “too much”
Why trying to fix yourself is making things worse
The powerful shift from problem-focused → desire-led living
How to start trusting your sensitivity instead of fighting it

If you’re a deeply feeling, intuitive woman who’s tired of trying to be less…
this is your permission slip to stop.
🎧 What You’ll Walk Away With
A completely new way to understand your emotional experience
Relief from the belief that you’re “too much” or broken
A starting point for working with your sensitivity instead of against it
A powerful reframe that opens the door to more peace, energy, and self-trust

💬 Ready to Go Deeper?
If this episode hit home and you’re ready to stop overthinking, people-pleasing, and feeling stuck in your own emotions…
Book a free discovery call with me:
👉 https://amandahess.ca/book-a-call
We’ll talk about what’s going on for you and map out what real support could look like.
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Know someone who feels like they’re “too emotional” or struggles with sensitivity?
Send this to her. It might be exactly what she needs to hear.

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Do you ever feel like you just… can’t let things go?
Like something happens and other people move on—but you’re still thinking about it days, weeks, or even years later?
If that’s you, this episode is going to change how you see yourself.
Because it’s not that you’re overreacting.
And it’s not that you’re too sensitive.
It’s that your brain and body are trying to process past hurt—and no one has ever shown you how.
In this episode, I’m breaking down what trauma actually is (and why it’s not always what you think), how a sensitive brain stores and replays emotional pain, and why trying to “think your way out of it” will never work.
In This Episode, I Cover:
What trauma really is (and why it’s different for everyone)
Why you don’t get to choose what your brain labels as traumatic
How past hurt shows up in everyday moments (conversations, tone, silence, looks)
Why you replay conversations and overanalyze what you said
The real reason you assume “I did something wrong”
How your brain uses the past to try to create safety in the present
Why this is NOT a logic problem—it’s a feelings problem
Why trying to change your thoughts first keeps you stuck
What’s actually happening when you feel anxious, triggered, or reactive
Why suppressing or “shrinking” your emotions makes everything worse
The cycle of overthinking → reacting → reinforcing fear
Why your brain is working exactly as it’s designed to
The truth about trauma: it doesn’t disappear—and it doesn’t need to
Why willpower, discipline, and “just calming down” don’t work long-term
What it actually takes to stop looping and start feeling steady

Key Takeaway
You’re not holding onto things because you’re weak.
You’re holding onto them because your brain is trying to protect you.
This isn’t a logic problem—it’s a feelings problem.
And until you learn how to process what you feel,
your mind will keep trying to solve it… over and over again.
You don’t need to think better.
You need to learn how to work with your nervous system and your emotions.
Invitation
I’m teaching a brand new free class on April 16:
Sensitive, Not Fragile
If you’re done overthinking everything,
replaying conversations,
and feeling like you can’t fully relax in your life…
I’m going to show you a completely different way to work with yourself.
Inside this class, I’ll teach you how to:
Stop the overthinking loop
Work with your emotions instead of against them
Regulate your nervous system in real time
Feel more steady, even when life feels hard

👉 Register here: joinamanda.ca
Connect With Me
If this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.
Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahess

If you’ve been told your whole life that you’re “too sensitive”…
and somewhere along the way you started believing that meant you’re fragile…
This episode is for you.
Because sensitivity is not the problem.
But not understanding how to work with it?
That’s where things start to break.
In this episode, I’m breaking down what sensitivity actually is (hint: it’s not just crying), why so many women feel like they’re one step away from falling apart, and what’s really going on beneath the anxiety, overthinking, and emotional overwhelm.
In This Episode, I Cover:
What sensitivity actually means (and why it’s so misunderstood)
Why a “sensitive nervous system” doesn’t always look emotional on the outside
How childhood conditioning teaches you that who you are is a problem
Why masking, performing, and shape-shifting become your default
How confidence decreases as life gets more complex
Why anxiety, second-guessing, and overwhelm start to increase over time
The real reason you feel like you might “break”
Why nothing has gone wrong — you’ve just never been taught how to work with yourself
The difference between being sensitive and being fragile
What actually creates stability, confidence, and emotional strength

Key Takeaway
You are not too sensitive.
You are under-supported.
Sensitivity without the right tools will feel like overwhelm.
But sensitivity with support, self-trust, and nervous system regulation?
That’s power.
Invitation
I’m hosting a brand new free class:
Sensitive, Not Fragile
If you’re done feeling like you’re one emotion away from falling apart,
this is where you start.
I’ll teach you how to:
Feel your emotions without collapsing
Regulate your nervous system
Build real self-trust
Create a life that actually feels good

👉 Register here: joinamanda.ca
Connect With Me
If this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.
Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahess