289. Overthinking Part 3: How to Change the Beliefs That Keep You Stuck
If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.Because here’s the truth most sensitive women never get taught:Thoughts are not facts.They never have been.But when your nervous system is dysregulated (Part 1) and your emotions feel too big to hold (Part 2), your brain grabs the easiest, most familiar thought it can find — even if that thought hurts you.This episode breaks down why your overthinking isn’t caused by the thoughts themselves…It’s caused by the beliefs you’ve practiced for years, the ones that have become so familiar your brain mistakes them for truth.You’ll learn how beliefs become well-worn paths in the brain, why new thoughts feel impossible at first, and how to practice thinking in a way that creates safety, self-trust, and actual change. This is the step that allows everything you learned in Part 1 and Part 2 to finally land.This is the third and final part of my overthinking series — and it’s where the transformation really locks in.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy thoughts feel true (even when they aren’t)The real reason you can’t access helpful thoughts when your emotions are at a 9 or 10How practiced beliefs become mental “paths” your brain walks automaticallyWhy your brain prefers painful familiarity over unfamiliar possibilityWhat it actually takes to create a new belief you can rely onHow radical self-love, compassion, and hope build the thoughts that change your lifeWhy you keep ending up in the same emotional patterns even when you try to “think differently”A simple, repeatable three-step system to create thoughts that serve you instead of sabotage youHow changing your thoughts becomes effortless when your nervous system and emotions are balanced🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/289👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess
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288. Overthinking Part 2: You Don’t Have a Thought Problem — You Have an Emotion Problem
If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth:You don’t have a thought problem — you have an emotion problem.When your emotions feel too big, too fast, or too overwhelming for your system, your brain does the only thing it knows how to do: it starts thinking harder. It analyzes, spirals, replays conversations, imagines every worst-case scenario — not because you’re dramatic, or weak, or too sensitive, but because your body is trying to protect you from the intensity of unprocessed emotion.This episode explores why overthinking is always rooted in emotional dysregulation, how a sensitive nervous system amplifies feelings, and why “controlling your emotions” has never worked. You’ll learn what emotions actually are, how they move through the body, and how to start building emotional capacity so your mind can finally take a breath.You don’t need to out-think your feelings — you need to learn how to experience them in a way that feels safe.This is Part 2 of my three-part series on overthinking, and it’s the piece no one teaches sensitive women… but it’s the one that makes everything else finally click.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy overthinking is an emotional issue long before it becomes a thought issueThe difference between “reacting” to emotion and actually processing itWhat emotions really are — and why they’re not good, bad, or logicalHow a sensitive nervous system intensifies emotional wavesWhy unprocessed emotion always comes back bigger, louder, and more overwhelmingHow emotional capacity makes difficult feelings easier to handleThe simple skill of “feeling emotion in the body” without being consumed by itWhy learning to process emotion is the key to ending the overthinking cycle🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/288👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess
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287. Overthinking Part 1: Why Your Mind Races (and What’s Actually Causing It)
Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival response.If your brain feels like it never shuts off, if you replay conversations, worry about every decision, or try to anticipate every possible problem before it happens — this episode is for you.When your nervous system has been running in survival mode for too long, overthinking becomes your body’s way of trying to keep you safe. But the truth is, it’s not protecting you — it’s exhausting you. In this episode, we break down why overthinking isn’t a mindset problem, it’s a nervous system problem, and how learning to regulate your body first changes everything.When you understand that your “racing thoughts” are really a sensitive nervous system doing its best to help you survive, you stop trying to fix yourself — and start working with yourself.This is Part 1 of a 3-part series where I teach the Love Yourself No Matter What Method — starting with nervous system regulation and why your gas pedal and brake are always out of sync.💡 In this episode, you’ll discover:Why overthinking is your nervous system’s way of trying to keep you safeHow a sensitive nervous system gets triggered — and what it really meansThe difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems (and how to balance them)What “fight, flight, freeze, or fawn” actually looks like in real lifeWhy your brain doesn’t know the difference between a bear chasing you and your friend not texting backThe simple daily practices that start rebalancing your nervous system — without hours of meditation🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/287👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess
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286. What Experts Get Wrong About Sensitive Women (and How to Become the Expert on You)
What if everything you’ve been told about being “too sensitive” is wrong?In this episode, I share a deeply personal story from my early motherhood — the exhaustion, the misdiagnoses, and the moment I realized that I wasn’t broken… I was sensitive. For years, I tried to “fix” myself, believing that my emotions were the problem. But the truth is, sensitivity isn’t a weakness — it’s a form of wisdom.We’ll explore what sensitivity really is (and what it’s not), how it overlaps with common mental health labels, and why learning to partner with your sensitivity is the key to feeling grounded, powerful, and whole.If you’ve ever felt like the world was too loud, your emotions too big, or your empathy too much — this episode is for you. You’ll learn:✨ Why your nervous system feels things so deeply✨ How to stop pathologizing your sensitivity✨ What it looks like to create safety and strength from the inside outYour sensitivity isn’t something to fix — it’s something to understand.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/286Interested in working with me? Book a free discovery call: amandahess.caJoin the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership: https://www.skool.com/emotions-school-8427/about?ref=b947741c562941f4b4d1d3f05a1b437cCome find me on TikTok and Instagram: @theamandahess
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285. It's Not Your Fault: Why You're So Hard On Yourself
Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled glass of water that turns into chaos, the constant need to assign blame, the walking on eggshells - these experiences don't just disappear when you become an adult. They show up as that relentless inner critic, the exhausting need to control everyone's emotions, and the panic that rises when something goes wrong. The path forward isn't about becoming perfect or never making mistakes. It's about learning to feel safe in the mess of being human. In this episode, you'll discover how to recognize criticism as a red flag for feeling unsafe, how to regulate your nervous system when panic rises, and most importantly, how to build the muscle of self-compassion. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/285Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess
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