How To Love Yourself No Matter What

Feeling is part of being human. Suffering is not.In this episode, Amanda breaks down the crucial difference between feeling emotions and suffering because of them. You’ll hear a raw, honest reflection on what it’s like to try to “hold it all together,” why doing more never actually fixes emotional overwhelm, and how learning to slow down is the real way out of suffering.This episode is a reminder that you don’t need better tools, better behavior, or more discipline — you need to take your foot off the emotional gas.What You’ll LearnWhy 50% of life is always uncomfortable emotion (no matter how well you’re doing)The difference between feeling pain and creating sufferingHow “trying not to feel” actually extends sufferingWhy doing more, pushing harder, or expecting yourself to cope better doesn’t workThe compounding factors that turn pain into long-term sufferingWhat it really means to “take your foot off the emotional gas”Simple, practical ways to slow your nervous system in real timeHow to start asking yourself, “What do I need right now?” — and listening to the answerKey TakeawaysFeeling is inevitable. Suffering is optional.Pain happens. Hurt happens. Loss, rejection, and grief are real.Suffering comes from:JudgmentPressureEmotional accelerationNot slowing downNot regulating your nervous systemYou don’t need to fix yourself — you need to pauseSlowing down is not quitting; it’s leadershipSelf-trust is built in small percentages — 5%, then 10%, then morePractical Tools MentionedTaking your foot off the emotional gasRegulating through the senses:Look aroundNotice what you see, hear, smell, taste, touchBreathing and grounding (takes seconds, not minutes)Asking yourself:“What do I need in this moment?”Choosing support instead of speedMemorable Quote“Feeling is inevitable. Suffering is not.”Want This Kind of Support in Your Ear Every Day?If this episode resonated and you find yourself thinking, “I need more of this — consistently,” that’s exactly why my membership exists.Inside the membership, you get ongoing support to help you:Slow down instead of pushing harderRegulate your nervous system in real lifeBuild self-trust one moment at a timeLearn how to feel without sufferingThis is the work — and you don’t have to do it alone.👉 Join us at:joinamanda.caInvitationBring your questions.Bring the overwhelm.Bring the part of you that’s exhausted from trying to hold it all together.You know where to find me.

What most women call overwhelm or anxiety is often something deeper: emotional burnout — the kind that happens when you’ve spent years trying to tolerate your emotions instead of learning how to expand your capacity for them.In today’s episode, I’m sharing a private training from the podcast I create exclusively for my clients. We’re breaking down the real difference between emotional tolerance (the rigid, finite jar that eventually cracks) and emotional capacity (the flexible container you can actually grow).You’ll learn:Why simply “tolerating” your emotions exhausts youThe glass-jar metaphor that explains emotional burnout perfectlyWhat true emotional capacity looks like — and why it’s a skill, not a personality traitHow nervous system regulation expands your capacity in real timeThe 4 pillars of capacity-building (regulation, nature, pleasure, and thought quality)How to stop outsourcing control and reclaim it in a way that’s actually sustainableSimple daily practices to grow your internal bandwidth so you don’t get knocked over by lifeIf you’ve felt like you’re at the end of your rope — irritated, overstimulated, or one small thing away from snapping — this episode will help you understand why… and what to do next.✨ Want this level of support every week?This episode comes from the private podcast feed I create for my 1:1 coaching clients — the kind of deep, practical emotional work we do together.If you want to explore the ways you can work with me, head to:👉 joinamanda.ca🧡 If this episode landed for you…Share it with someone who needs it, or post it to your stories and tag me.And if you want your own questions answered join one of my coaching containers — we can go even deeper there.

The holidays bring everything — family dynamics, overwhelm, expectations, pressure — and underneath it all is the fear of speaking up in a way that feels good. In this episode, we break down what a boundary actually is, why it feels so hard to set one, and how fear and nervous system dysregulation keep you stuck in people-pleasing or emotional shutdown.You’ll learn how to identify fear in your body, regulate before you respond, and create clean, grounded boundaries that support the life you want. This is the episode to listen to if you want to stop abandoning yourself and start honoring what works for you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:What a boundary really is (and what it’s not)Why fear makes speaking up feel impossibleHow fight/flight/freeze/fawn sabotage your voiceHow to regulate before having brave conversationsWhy self-worth must be chosen firstSPECIAL OFFER — TODAY ONLYSign up for my 1:1 coaching at JoinAmanda.ca without a discovery call and receive:✨ 5 months for the price of 4✨ 20 private sessions✨ A $250 credit after completing the programBOUNDARIES WORKSHOP — DECEMBER 15Join me for a live class on setting boundaries & having brave conversations.Link in bio on Instagram/TikTok @theamandahess. or https://amandahesscoaching.as.me/brave

If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.Because here’s the truth most sensitive women never get taught:Thoughts are not facts.They never have been.But when your nervous system is dysregulated (Part 1) and your emotions feel too big to hold (Part 2), your brain grabs the easiest, most familiar thought it can find — even if that thought hurts you.This episode breaks down why your overthinking isn’t caused by the thoughts themselves…It’s caused by the beliefs you’ve practiced for years, the ones that have become so familiar your brain mistakes them for truth.You’ll learn how beliefs become well-worn paths in the brain, why new thoughts feel impossible at first, and how to practice thinking in a way that creates safety, self-trust, and actual change. This is the step that allows everything you learned in Part 1 and Part 2 to finally land.This is the third and final part of my overthinking series — and it’s where the transformation really locks in.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy thoughts feel true (even when they aren’t)The real reason you can’t access helpful thoughts when your emotions are at a 9 or 10How practiced beliefs become mental “paths” your brain walks automaticallyWhy your brain prefers painful familiarity over unfamiliar possibilityWhat it actually takes to create a new belief you can rely onHow radical self-love, compassion, and hope build the thoughts that change your lifeWhy you keep ending up in the same emotional patterns even when you try to “think differently”A simple, repeatable three-step system to create thoughts that serve you instead of sabotage youHow changing your thoughts becomes effortless when your nervous system and emotions are balanced🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/289👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess

If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth:You don’t have a thought problem — you have an emotion problem.When your emotions feel too big, too fast, or too overwhelming for your system, your brain does the only thing it knows how to do: it starts thinking harder. It analyzes, spirals, replays conversations, imagines every worst-case scenario — not because you’re dramatic, or weak, or too sensitive, but because your body is trying to protect you from the intensity of unprocessed emotion.This episode explores why overthinking is always rooted in emotional dysregulation, how a sensitive nervous system amplifies feelings, and why “controlling your emotions” has never worked. You’ll learn what emotions actually are, how they move through the body, and how to start building emotional capacity so your mind can finally take a breath.You don’t need to out-think your feelings — you need to learn how to experience them in a way that feels safe.This is Part 2 of my three-part series on overthinking, and it’s the piece no one teaches sensitive women… but it’s the one that makes everything else finally click.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy overthinking is an emotional issue long before it becomes a thought issueThe difference between “reacting” to emotion and actually processing itWhat emotions really are — and why they’re not good, bad, or logicalHow a sensitive nervous system intensifies emotional wavesWhy unprocessed emotion always comes back bigger, louder, and more overwhelmingHow emotional capacity makes difficult feelings easier to handleThe simple skill of “feeling emotion in the body” without being consumed by itWhy learning to process emotion is the key to ending the overthinking cycle🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/288👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess