Love Your Life: Love Your Life: Midlife Reinvention, Emotional Regulation, & Parenting

How often do you say "It's fine" when it really isn't? 
Or agreeing to something you don't want to do just to keep the peace?
So many of us have become experts at pretending. 
Pretending we're okay. 
Pretending we don't have needs. 
Pretending someone else's behavior doesn't bother us. 
While those habits may have helped us as kids (or in our emotionally immature relationships), they hold us back as adults and women trying to be in supportive, emotionally safe and mature relationships.
Pretending and people pleasing leave us feeling disconnected from people in our lives (not to mention exhausted!)
In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I come to you with a mid-year invitation to stop pretending and start choosing you.
 
You'll learn:
Why people pleasing and pretending aren't personality traits, they're protective patterns
How the "good girl" conditioning keeps so many women stuck
What one of the top regrets of the dying can teach us about living today
Simple ways to stop self-abandoning without becoming "selfish"
How small moments of honesty build confidence and self-trust (and are the very things we need in our adult relationships and that we want to model for our preteens and teens!)
If you're ready to stop performing, stop apologizing for things that aren't yours, and start living more in alignment with who you truly are, this episode is for you.
The world doesn't need another exhausted woman pretending she's okay. It needs the real you.
 
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 
People Pleasing and Lying on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/213-people-pleasing-and-lying/id1434429161?i=1000770657772
People Pleasing and Lying on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0G207R5QM1oBD4u07od0Oh?si=QSM1XmuNQvSiLDRt5GsrxA

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In this week's episode, I'm joined by friendship expert, ADHD coach, and author Caroline Maguire to talk about the friendship skills most of us were never taught.
We explore how past relational wounds, people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and even being easily distracted can impact our ability to build and maintain meaningful friendships. Caroline shares practical tools to help us stop performing for connection and start creating relationships that feel more genuine, supportive, and fulfilling.
This was a super fun conversation (we found out she's living next to the small town I grew up in - I literally haven't met anyone who knew of my town since I was 18!). Plus the things we dove into were great! 
Listen in to hear:
How past friendship experiences may still be shaping your relationships today
Why some people struggle to maintain friendships even when they deeply care
The hidden role of rejection sensitivity and overthinking
How people-pleasing and masking can get in the way of authentic connection
Practical ways to deepen friendships during busy seasons of life
What belonging actually feels like and how to create more of it
Friendship isn't something we're supposed to know how to do. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and strengthened.
I  loved this conversation with Caroline and can't wait for you to listen.
 
If you liked this show, you'll like this one:
Episode 354 How To Make Friends on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/354-how-to-make-friends/id1434429161?i=1000770657518
Episode 354 How To Make Friends on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/72IyJPMsdVFRbYLb1eGgq3?si=FcCkdHwxSwiO4DQ9kL4x-Q
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Warrior, when was the last time you asked yourself what you want?
Not what your kids need.
Not what your partner wants.
Not what needs fixing.
Not what everyone else expects of you.
What do you want?
For many of us, especially moms, focusing on everyone else starts as healthy and necessary. When our kids are little, they need us to prioritize their needs. And, as they grow, many of us never make the shift back. We keep organizing our lives around everyone else's wants, feelings, and goals while losing touch with our own.
Then one day we wake up feeling restless, resentful, or like something is missing.
In this episode, I'm talking about the healthy transition from considering and prioritizing their needs first to considering your needs also. It's not selfish. In fact, I've seen it be so harmful to family units when moms don't make this change that I argue it's selfish not to.
Join me in this gentle, supportive episode to learn:
Why so many midlife women struggle to answer the question, "What do I want?"
How over-responsibility and people-pleasing disconnect us from ourselves
Why your kids benefit when you reconnect with your own dreams and desires
How a simple Life List can help you rediscover what lights you up
Why it's never too late, and this is the perfect day to start.
I can't wait for you to listen in. You have this one precious life, and what I find is that so many women support others in reaching their dreams or paying attention to their goals while whittling away their own time here living their lives. 
You matter.
Let me help you rediscover you and your spark!
First step: listen in!
Second, join me and let's make our LIFE LIST! https://smbwell.com/lifelist 
I can't wait to help you turn up the volume so you can hear the wisdom that's been inside you all along.
 
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one:
The Life List with Kate Christie on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/251-the-life-list-with-kate-christy/id1434429161?i=1000770657660
The Life List with Kate Christie on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3secdHENHzVLqIsCCwDQay?si=AlsB20QFThKSXp9EgbNGeA
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How do we raise emotionally intelligent kids?
It's not what our instinct tells us!
It's not by preventing them from having big feelings or to try to get them to think positively or see "the bright side".
It's also not to expect them to not have emotions or to think that our big feeling kid is doing something wrong that needs to be fixed.
Nope!
And yet, that's what most of us were taught (for sure me!) and so that's how we parent until we learn differently.
That's what this week and my mission is all about. I teach the emotional intelligence skills to adults so that they can parent from emotional regulation and raise emotionally intelligent kids. 
Click play on this episode of the Love Your Life Show to learn:
The two foundational building blocks of emotional intelligence
Where feelings actually come from
Why trying to fix your child's emotions often backfires
How to teach your child to process feelings in a healthy way
The simple three-step process: Name It, Describe It, Feel It
Why emotional intelligence requires both support and boundaries
How learning about emotional intelligence with a surfing metaphor helped me long before I lived by the beach in Australia! 
If you've ever found yourself saying, "Don't be sad," "It'll be okay," or "Just think about it differently," this episode will help you approach your child's emotions in a completely new way.
Because emotionally intelligent kids aren't kids who never have big feelings.
They're kids who learn that feelings are safe, normal, and something they can move through.
One parent at a time. Thanks for being that parent and listening to episodes like this. 🩷
 
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🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one:
Emotional Regulation: The Skill That Makes Parenting and Marriage Easier on Apple Podcasts 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-your-life-show-personal-growth-mindset-habits-for-moms/id1434429161?i=1000770657544
Emotional Regulation: The Skill That Makes Parenting and Marriage Easier on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/373zUMIMUZ4ff9CyNbdwUD?si=kEGo6ofnRrKb8_j0qz3zyw
Toxic Positivity on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-positivity/id1434429161?i=1000770657666
 
Toxic Positivity on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Hsbo2qulNAfCNOCfsNaiC?si=zO96BwS2SACjhauGofib6A
 
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What if one of the number one skills for feeling calmer, more confident, and more in control of your life was something you were never taught?
If you're a genX, boomer, or early millennial, chances are…you weren't!
Which is why, for this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I'm doing a masterclass on emotional maturity.
Many of us grew up believing we were responsible for other people's feelings. We learned to keep the peace, make others happy, and avoid upsetting anyone around us. While those habits may have earned us praise by parents and friends, they eat away at your self concept and confidence. They exhaust us. Further, they lead to us feeling deeply lonely and often misunderstood.
Think about it - if we believe as we're taught that "we're good if we do what they want", we disconnect from ourselves and our inner knowing while overly focusing on managing everyone else's emotions.
And guess what, when we feel responsible for other people's feelings and moods, we are highly influenced by others' moods.
We might feel like we're walking on eggshells or always waiting to see what he or she will be thinking and feeling.
It's a very anxiety-ridden and out-of-control feeling.
I know, because I lived 4 decades like this.
Which is why I'm thrilled to bring you this masterclass teaching on emotional maturity.
I have found that it's the secret to feeling more confident and in control of your life. I really hope you'll listen in. 
Because goodness knows - those teenagers are going to be moody. Those husbands are going to be grumpy. Those moms are going to be needy…
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
What emotional maturity actually is (and why it has very little to do with age)
The three foundational skills that make up emotional maturity
Why other people's moods can feel so overwhelming
How to stay connected to yourself when someone else is upset, disappointed, or frustrated
The emotional maturity gap many Gen X women were never taught to close
If you've ever found yourself worrying about everyone else, taking responsibility for other people's feelings, or feeling completely thrown off by someone else's reaction, this episode is for you.
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 
Emotional Intelligence 101 on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/12-emotional-intelligence-101/id1434429161?i=1000770658074
 
Emotional Intelligence 101 on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3GWK2i77mU4zmwwAVd3tc4?si=CwDPd1UsSAGCijiS57vxxg
 
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