Love Your Life: Love Your Life: Midlife Reinvention, Emotional Regulation, & Parenting

Do you ever notice that you can be having a perfectly fine day… and then someone else's mood changes everything?
Your teenager is grumpy, and suddenly you're walking on eggshells.
Your husband is frustrated, and you can't seem to relax.
Someone is disappointed in you, and you spend the rest of the day wondering what you did wrong.
You might not think of yourself as someone who gets angry or has a bad mood. You probably think of yourself as stressed, overwhelmed, worried, or exhausted.
But what if part of the reason you feel so overwhelmed is that you're constantly responding to what everyone else is feeling?
In this quick bonus episode, I'm talking about why other people's emotions can affect us so deeply, why we can know intellectually that their feelings are theirs and still get completely pulled into them, and what emotional regulation has to do with it.
And if this sounds familiar, I'd love for you to join me for my FREE workshop, How to Stop Letting Everyone Else Ruin Your Mood. Sign up here: https://smbwell.com/event
I'll teach you the 4 automatic responses that can take over when you're stressed or activated and show you how to start creating more space between what happens around you and how you respond.
Because you can care deeply about the people you love without letting their emotions determine how you feel.
You don't need to become less caring. You need to learn how to stay connected to yourself while other people are having their feelings.
 
FREE workshop, How to Stop Letting Everyone Else Ruin Your Mood. Sign up here: https://smbwell.com/event

Do you ever find yourself talking, talking, talking…trying to explain your decision, your actions, your boundary? Hoping that if you talk enough, the other person will understand?
Uh…me!!!
And in this episode, I'll be talking about why so many of us women overexplain, how confidence is involved, how what happened in our childhood could be involved, how relationships with narcissists are involved, how it could be harming our relationships with our teens and young adults, and much more.
Plus, I give you actual ways to stop. Ways that work! I had all those things going for me (the childhood trauma, narcissistic relationships, teens, confidence 🤯!)
In this episode, we're talking about why so many women overexplain and how this habit often starts in childhood, when our feelings were questioned, dismissed, or misunderstood.
If you learned that you had to justify your emotions to be accepted, it makes sense that you're still doing it today.
The problem? Emotionally mature people don't need a long explanation to respect your choices. And emotionally immature or narcissistic people often use your explanations against you.
I'll show you how overexplaining quietly drains your confidence, keeps you seeking validation, and makes it harder to communicate with calm authority. You'll learn why "because I want to" is often enough, how healthy relationships assume positive intent, and practical ways to answer with fewer words and more confidence.
If you're ready to stop defending yourself and start trusting yourself, this episode is for you.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why so many women feel the need to overexplain
How childhood experiences can shape this communication habit
The difference between emotionally mature and emotionally immature relationships
Why overexplaining can fuel conflict with narcissistic people (and teens!)
This episode will help you speak with more confidence, protect your peace, and remember that your feelings and choices don't need a lengthy defense. I got some ideas from Jefferson Fisher (expert trial lawyer) and added my own expertise. I really hope you'll listen in. 
 
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 
391: Three Gen X Blind Spots That Hurt Our Relationships and How to Heal Them on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/391-three-gen-x-blind-spots-that-hurt-our-relationships/id1434429161?i=1000770657456
391: Three Gen X Blind Spots That Hurt Our Relationships and How to Heal Them on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2HK0olINBrKMTPwQRidXOO?si=WU8W50uXQsiBSC6deF89RA
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How often do you say "It's fine" when it really isn't? 
Or agreeing to something you don't want to do just to keep the peace?
So many of us have become experts at pretending. 
Pretending we're okay. 
Pretending we don't have needs. 
Pretending someone else's behavior doesn't bother us. 
While those habits may have helped us as kids (or in our emotionally immature relationships), they hold us back as adults and women trying to be in supportive, emotionally safe and mature relationships.
Pretending and people pleasing leave us feeling disconnected from people in our lives (not to mention exhausted!)
In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I come to you with a mid-year invitation to stop pretending and start choosing you.
 
You'll learn:
Why people pleasing and pretending aren't personality traits, they're protective patterns
How the "good girl" conditioning keeps so many women stuck
What one of the top regrets of the dying can teach us about living today
Simple ways to stop self-abandoning without becoming "selfish"
How small moments of honesty build confidence and self-trust (and are the very things we need in our adult relationships and that we want to model for our preteens and teens!)
If you're ready to stop performing, stop apologizing for things that aren't yours, and start living more in alignment with who you truly are, this episode is for you.
The world doesn't need another exhausted woman pretending she's okay. It needs the real you.
 
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 
People Pleasing and Lying on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/213-people-pleasing-and-lying/id1434429161?i=1000770657772
People Pleasing and Lying on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0G207R5QM1oBD4u07od0Oh?si=QSM1XmuNQvSiLDRt5GsrxA

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In this week's episode, I'm joined by friendship expert, ADHD coach, and author Caroline Maguire to talk about the friendship skills most of us were never taught.
We explore how past relational wounds, people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and even being easily distracted can impact our ability to build and maintain meaningful friendships. Caroline shares practical tools to help us stop performing for connection and start creating relationships that feel more genuine, supportive, and fulfilling.
This was a super fun conversation (we found out she's living next to the small town I grew up in - I literally haven't met anyone who knew of my town since I was 18!). Plus the things we dove into were great! 
Listen in to hear:
How past friendship experiences may still be shaping your relationships today
Why some people struggle to maintain friendships even when they deeply care
The hidden role of rejection sensitivity and overthinking
How people-pleasing and masking can get in the way of authentic connection
Practical ways to deepen friendships during busy seasons of life
What belonging actually feels like and how to create more of it
Friendship isn't something we're supposed to know how to do. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and strengthened.
I  loved this conversation with Caroline and can't wait for you to listen.
 
If you liked this show, you'll like this one:
Episode 354 How To Make Friends on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/354-how-to-make-friends/id1434429161?i=1000770657518
Episode 354 How To Make Friends on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/72IyJPMsdVFRbYLb1eGgq3?si=FcCkdHwxSwiO4DQ9kL4x-Q
Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Caroline; go here👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/418
 
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Warrior, when was the last time you asked yourself what you want?
Not what your kids need.
Not what your partner wants.
Not what needs fixing.
Not what everyone else expects of you.
What do you want?
For many of us, especially moms, focusing on everyone else starts as healthy and necessary. When our kids are little, they need us to prioritize their needs. And, as they grow, many of us never make the shift back. We keep organizing our lives around everyone else's wants, feelings, and goals while losing touch with our own.
Then one day we wake up feeling restless, resentful, or like something is missing.
In this episode, I'm talking about the healthy transition from considering and prioritizing their needs first to considering your needs also. It's not selfish. In fact, I've seen it be so harmful to family units when moms don't make this change that I argue it's selfish not to.
Join me in this gentle, supportive episode to learn:
Why so many midlife women struggle to answer the question, "What do I want?"
How over-responsibility and people-pleasing disconnect us from ourselves
Why your kids benefit when you reconnect with your own dreams and desires
How a simple Life List can help you rediscover what lights you up
Why it's never too late, and this is the perfect day to start.
I can't wait for you to listen in. You have this one precious life, and what I find is that so many women support others in reaching their dreams or paying attention to their goals while whittling away their own time here living their lives. 
You matter.
Let me help you rediscover you and your spark!
First step: listen in!
Second, join me and let's make our LIFE LIST! https://smbwell.com/lifelist 
I can't wait to help you turn up the volume so you can hear the wisdom that's been inside you all along.
 
🎧 If you liked this episode, you'll like this one:
The Life List with Kate Christie on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/251-the-life-list-with-kate-christy/id1434429161?i=1000770657660
The Life List with Kate Christie on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3secdHENHzVLqIsCCwDQay?si=AlsB20QFThKSXp9EgbNGeA
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👩🏼‍🎓Take it to the next level: See if the Love Your Life School is open for enrollment!
📸 Marinate your brain in positivity and helpful programming: Come follow me on Instagram @smb.wellness https://instagram.com/smb.wellness or Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/SMBwell
🩷Support Susie's mission of helping as many women and girls live lives they love: Become a Patreon here: https://SMBwell.com/patreon
🤓FIRST TIME LISTENER? Grab the PODCAST ROADMAP with the foundations of emotional intelligence and mental wellness here: https://SMBwell.com/roadmap
🌟Get the full show notes here 👉🏾 https://SMBwell.com/417
📺Find and follow her on YouTube - LOVE YOUR LIFE VLOG - YouTube https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW9PibXJfNpKk5Yr6rpNVq4P_utWFkvYS