You walk into a room and your guard goes up. Not because anyone said anything. Not because anyone is even looking at you yet. Just the room. If this is you, you've probably called it social anxiety, or being too sensitive, or I just care too much what people think. It's none of those things on their own.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz unpacks what's actually been installed in you over the last twenty years, and why uninstalling the apps doesn't fix it. There's a specific equation running underneath the chronic feeling of being evaluated, and once you can see it, the just stop caring what people think advice stops looking like an answer.
He shares two stories that show how the wiring gets installed and how it propagates. One from when he was eleven, sitting in a Supercuts, flipping through a magazine he'd never normally read. One from last week, with his ten and twelve-year-old kids and a basketball trick shot. The two stories together show why this isn't a personality flaw and isn't fixed by uninstalling the apps. It's the cultural arrangement we've all been swimming in, and the equation it installed inside you decades ago.
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