SuperPsyched with Dr. Adam Dorsay

Dr. Adam Dorsay hosts UC Davis psychology professor Dr. Paul Eastwick to discuss his book "Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection" and what research shows about attraction and relationship longevity. Eastwick contrasts stated mate preferences with what predicts attraction and satisfaction in real interactions, highlighting the importance of feeling supported and subjectively finding a partner sexy, even long-term. They discuss how vulnerability, listening, and reciprocal disclosure can spark early intimacy, and how an evaluative “shopping” mindset can undermine dating. Eastwick argues humans are a pair-bonding, often serially bonding species, citing motivated biases that favor current partners and genetic evidence suggesting low historical nonpaternity rates (~1%). They cover mixed-gender friendships as predictors of later relationship formation, relationship “construction” around shared elements, research on consensual non-monogamy (including jealousy/compersion differences), similarities across same- and mixed-gender couples with contextual challenges, and the value of grace during breakups.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:28 Why Attraction Matters02:20 Traits That Predict Love03:56 Support and Desire05:28 Keeping Sex Alive07:57 Vulnerability Is Attractive10:00 Dating Without Judgment13:59 Monogamy Myths17:09 Biases That Protect Bonds19:47 Jealousy and Infidelity21:48 Humans as Pair Bonders24:45 Infidelity Context25:19 Mixed Gender Friends29:16 Relationship Growth Tips33:31 Jealousy And Polyamory38:29 Same Sex Relationship Data40:12 Dating Apps To Groups43:47 Graceful Breakups Skill47:30 Final Thanks And Wrap
Helpful Links:
Paul Eastwick, PhD
Bonded by Evolution Book

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews author Jack El-Hai about his book The Nazi and the Psychiatrist, adapted into the film Nuremberg starring Rami Malek and Russell Crowe. El-Hai explains how he discovered psychiatrist Dr. Douglas Kelley through earlier research, then located Kelley’s son Doug, who shared 15 banker boxes of Nuremberg materials, including defendant records and artifacts such as a vial labeled “Herman Göring’s Paracodeine.” El-Hai describes Kelley’s doctor-patient, transactional relationship with Göring, his role as a military psychiatrist working without precedent, and the ethical conflicts involved. He discusses Kelley’s conclusion that the Nazi leaders were “normal” and that this shook his faith in psychiatry, plus parallels between Göring’s cyanide suicide and Kelley’s later death the same way. El-Hai says his key insight is rejecting “monsters” as categories while still supporting justice.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:28 Nazi Minds at Nuremberg
03:34 Why Jack Wrote It
04:19 Unearthing Kelly's Archives
10:41 Shaping the Story
14:01 Evil Without Madness
18:45 Doug Kelly the Survivor
20:05 Göring and Kelly Dynamic
27:57 Ethics in Uncharted Territory
30:21 Leon Goldensohn Connection
32:30 From Book to Film
38:22 Living With Dark Stories
48:38 No Monsters Just People
51:57 Closing and Subscribe

Helpful Links:
Jack El-Hai
The Nazi and the Psychiatrist Book
The Nuremberg Interviews Book

Dr. Adam Dorsay, Silicon Valley psychologist and host of the SuperPsyched podcast, reflects on reaching episode 300 and how the show began during COVID when he suddenly had extra time. He explains that “SuperPsyched” is about being deeply connected to one’s psyche, not toxic positivity, and shares that he books guests largely by simply asking, citing the Franklin Effect. He highlights the show’s wide-ranging catalog—from athletes, musicians, and Nobel laureate Robert Lefkowitz to a Holocaust survivor, an undertaker, a cat psychologist, and Daryl Davis—along with milestone episodes featuring his father (episode 150) and mother (episode 300). Key takeaways include intimacy as “vulnerability well met” (Dr. James Cordova), the importance of psychological safety (Dr. Amy Edmondson), and evidence-backed self-compassion (Chris Germer), plus research suggesting luck increases with the number of people you meet.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:29 Episode 300 milestone
00:38 Starting during COVID
01:32 Meaning of SuperPsyched
02:53 Asking for guests
03:26 Franklin Effect explained
04:36 Favorite guests and range
06:59 Standout episodes and heroes
10:32 Top downloads and animal minds
11:12 Three key gleanings
14:18 Miracle question themes
15:17 Active luck through people
16:00 Thanks and subscribe

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews ADHD coach and author Dr. Tamara Rosier about ADHD, emotions, and daily strategies for healthier functioning. They discuss how people with ADHD are criticized far more than peers, may feel “broken,” and often have impulse-control challenges, heightened emotional intensity, high sensitivity, and sensory issues tied to a sensitive nervous system, making environmental fit and nervous-system regulation important. Rosier argues ADHD isn’t inherently a “gift,” but benefits can emerge when energy and emotions are managed, including choosing where attention goes and treating feelings as informants rather than facts. They emphasize sleep as foundational, covering difficulties with sleep onset, maintenance, and desire, the importance of deep sleep for the brain’s glymphatic “cleaning” system, and how time blindness and “rabbit holes” interfere with routines. Rosier closes with a wish that people understand human interconnectedness and accept themselves without constant proving.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:26 ADHD and Emotional Bruises
01:11 Meet Dr Tamara Rosier
02:48 Why ADHD People Click
04:21 Not a Gift Managing Energy
05:45 High Sensitivity and Nervous System
08:12 Sensory Overload and Regulation
08:41 Behavioral Basics Beyond Meds
09:50 Sleep Struggles with ADHD
11:47 Glymphatic System Brain Cleaning
12:19 Beliefs About Sleep Drive
14:50 Reframing Sleep with Clients
15:01 Sleep as Necessary Evil
15:26 Bedtime Sabotage Habits
16:19 Time Blind Rabbit Holes
17:55 Why Sleep Runs Everything
18:33 ADHD Emotional Engine
20:34 Feelings Aren't Facts
24:04 Curious Not Furious
24:41 Default Mode Network Explained
26:16 One Skill for Humanity
27:31 Connection Story and Farewell
Helpful Links:
Tamara Rosier, PhD
Tamara Rosier, PhD LinkedIn
Tamara Rosier, PhD Books

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews six-time US Memory Champion Nelson Dellis about why memory is central to identity and why cognitive decline and Alzheimer’s are so devastating. Dellis describes memory championships as timed, full-day events involving feats such as memorizing a deck of cards, hundreds of digits in five minutes, and large sets of names and faces, emphasizing that success comes from a trained—not “naturally good”—memory. In the age of AI, he argues that continuing to use memory supports cognitive health, may help prevent atrophy, and preserves a core human element tied to lived experience. They discuss how Alzheimer’s may impair retrieval rather than erase memories, and highlight Dellis’s activity-based book, "Everyday Genius," which trains memory and other skills like calculation, creativity, and faster reading, alongside lessons learned from painful competitive losses.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:28 Why Memory Matters
00:48 Meet Nelson Dellis
03:04 Trained Not Gifted
05:12 Inside Memory Championships
06:38 Memory in the AI Age
09:03 Alzheimers and Identity
11:19 Everyday Genius Challenge
14:28 Curiosity as Cross Training
19:18 Learning Through Failure
20:21 Closing and Subscribe
Helpful Links:
Nelson Dellis
Everyday Genius: Hacks to Boost Your Memory, Focus, Problem-Solving, and Much More Book
Nelson Dellis Instagram
Nelson Dellis YouTube
Nelson Dellis LinkedIn