SuperPsyched with Dr. Adam Dorsay

Host Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and discusses grief as a personal, normal response to loss, then interviews Dr. Adam Kimowitz, a New Jersey dentist whose younger brother David was murdered in 2019. Kimowitz describes their close, laughter-filled bond, David’s work in comedy and real estate, and the traumatic aftermath of the murder, including shock, hypervigilance, and struggling with basic tasks. He explains what helped: not being alone, relying on therapy and safe people, focusing on “micro wins,” learning from grief and resilience thinkers, and using humor appropriately to break tension. He shares guidance on supporting the bereaved—saying “I have no words, but I’m here,” offering presence and hugs, avoiding comparisons, and inviting stories about the person. He also covers parenting through grief with honesty, communication, professional help, and modeling that it’s okay not to be okay, plus how his marriage provided mutual support. Kimowitz keeps David’s memory alive through journaling, music, traditions with David’s daughters, and living by a “Dave test,” and emphasizes empathy, self-grace, and asking for help to reconnect.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:29 Grief Is Personal
00:50 Meet Adam and David
03:57 From Corporate to Dentistry
05:55 The Night Everything Changed
08:05 Goldfish and Micro Wins
10:54 Learning Through Trauma
13:03 What Helped in Shock
15:20 David and the Power of Laughter
18:59 Humor as Support
24:58 What to Say to Grievers
28:50 Humor Inside Grief
30:00 Why Death Feels Taboo
31:52 Talking to Kids About Loss
36:24 Self Care for High Achievers
41:41 Marriage as an Anchor
47:53 Keeping Dave Alive
51:30 Resilience and Asking Help
52:46 Empathy Over Judgment
55:25 Music Montage Farewell

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Dr. Adam Kimowitz

Some of the greatest lessons in psychology, communication, leadership, and business don’t come from textbooks—they come from world-class performers.

The very best entertainers understand something profound: how to capture attention, build trust, create connection, and leave people transformed. Those skills matter just as much in our relationships, our work, and our everyday lives.

After seeing the most extraordinary live performance I’ve experienced, I knew I had to invite magician and mentalist Jay Alexander onto the SuperPsyched podcast.

Jay doesn’t just amaze audiences—he brings people together. Regardless of age, background, nationality, or beliefs, he creates moments of shared wonder and genuine human connection. It’s a masterclass in psychology as much as it is entertainment.

Over the course of his remarkable career, Jay has worked with the NBA, The Rolling Stones, and countless other world-class organizations and performers. In this conversation, he shares the principles behind creating unforgettable experiences, connecting across differences, and earning the trust of any audience.

If you’re interested in psychology, communication, leadership, influence, or simply want to hear from someone at the absolute top of his craft, I think you’ll really enjoy this episode.

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Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews keynote speaker and author Elaine Lin Hering about her book Unlearning Silence and the harms of feeling silenced, including resentment, depression, quiet quitting, and group catastrophes when crucial information is ignored, especially for minorities. Hering argues leadership advice to simply “speak up” misses that voice also depends on whether others honor it, and she defines silence as withholding self for others’ comfort. They discuss authenticity, the “low power double bind,” and how silence erodes a sense of self and agency. Hering distinguishes strategic silence from oppressive silence based on choice, describes self-, social-, and system-based silencing, and offers practical tools like saying “From where I sit” and clarifying decision roles (decider, consulted, informed). Both emphasize agency as the key skill that creates healthier norms and inspires voice in others.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:28 Why Silence Hurts
01:06 Meet Elaine Lin Hering
01:49 Finding Your Real Voice
06:29 Authenticity and Becoming
10:08 The Business Case for Voice
12:32 Low Power Double Bind
16:30 Emotional Costs and Agency
22:59 Strategic Silence vs Oppression
25:16 Practical Tools to Speak Up
33:09 Self Social and System Silence
36:12 Agency as the Insider Skill
38:37 Final Thanks and Subscribe

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Unlearning Silence Book

Dr. Adam Dorsay, Silicon Valley psychologist and host of the SuperPsyched podcast, reflects on watching the World Cup final with his father and draws psychological lessons from the match’s global scale. He contrasts the goalie’s prevention-focused role with the striker’s acquisition-focused role, linking this to positive psychology’s avoid goals versus approach goals and noting that approach mindsets are more enjoyable and effective; he describes a long conversation with Dr. Leidy Klotz about goalie psychology. He also shares Annie Duke’s distinction between resulting and decision-making, arguing that good decisions can be overlooked when only final outcomes are remembered. Upset by an announcer saying “the king is dead” about Lionel Messi after a loss, he criticizes win-or-nothing thinking, urges cognitive flexibility, and advocates celebrating multiple “GOATs” rather than diminishing others, emphasizing integrity, effort, and appreciating human potential in sport.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:28 World Cup Awe02:01 Goalie Psychology04:15 Approach vs Avoid Goals05:24 Results vs Decisions07:07 Legacy and Forgetting07:51 The King Is Dead09:53 Beyond One GOAT11:38 Closing Reflections

Dr. Adam Dorsay, psychologist and host of the SuperPsyched podcast, reflects on attending his 40th high school reunion and argues that reunions can be emotionally activating yet healing, echoing Frank McCourt’s idea that they reveal who you are now and who you were then. He shares key takeaways: many classmates were silently suffering in high school (family problems, neglect, loneliness, anxiety, abuse, substance issues, and even being unhoused), and nearly everyone has since faced humbling life challenges such as divorce, illness, or addiction, creating unexpected similarities and deeper connection. He notes the poignancy of classmates who have died, the energy of reconnecting, and the value of organizers’ choices (outdoor venue, quiet music, good lighting, and photo name tags). He encourages staying in touch sooner than every 10 years and reaching out via social media or Zoom to build friendships.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:28 Why Reunions Matter
00:50 Frank McCourt Wisdom
02:23 The Reunion Reality Check
03:44 Takeaway One Shared Suffering
05:57 Takeaway Two Life Humility
07:17 Distance and Missing Classmates
08:23 Loss and In Memoriam
10:09 The Night’s Energy
11:34 Organizer Tips That Work
12:59 Stay in Touch Sooner
13:51 Final Encouragement and Goodbye