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In this deeply insightful episode, Ryan Hasson sits down with Rebecca Barnes from the UK to explore the profound transformation of motherhood through the lens of matrescence, trauma-informed care, and embodied healing.
Rebecca shares her personal and professional journey — from working in residential childcare supporting traumatised children to becoming a certified Trauma-Informed, Seasons of Matrescence™ Educator & Guide, and Embodied Processing Practitioner. Together, Ryan and Rebecca unpack the emotional, physical, psychological, and spiritual shifts that occur in motherhood, and why so many mothers feel unsupported during this life-changing transition.
This conversation offers a compassionate and honest look at grief, identity loss, nervous system regulation, societal pressures, and the importance of creating spaces where mothers can truly be seen, supported, and understood.
About Rebecca Barnes
Rebecca is the founder of Becoming the Mother. She is a certified Trauma-Informed, Seasons of Matrescence™ Educator & Guide, and Embodied Processing Practitioner.
Above all, Rebecca considers her most sacred and important role to be being the mother to her four beautiful children.
Rebecca spent many years working in residential childcare supporting children with histories of trauma. Alongside her extensive study of matrescence, trauma, and nervous system regulation, she also brings lived experience through multiple matrescence transformations of her own.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
What matrescence is and why understanding it changes the way we view motherhood
Rebecca’s journey from hairdresser to embodied processing practitioner
The “Seasons of Matrescence” framework and how mothers move through emotional seasons
Why grief, rage, sadness, and fear are normal parts of motherhood
How unresolved trauma impacts parenting, relationships, and identity
The systemic gaps in support for mothers and families
Why compassion is more healing than judgment when working with parents and children
How embodied processing supports nervous system regulation and emotional healing
The importance of practitioners doing their own healing work
Key Takeaways
Motherhood is not just a role — it is a full developmental transformation.
Many emotions experienced in motherhood are normal responses, not signs that something is “wrong.”
Healing happens when emotions are safely processed instead of suppressed.
Nervous system regulation and embodied practices can support deeper emotional healing.
Supporting mothers early and compassionately has ripple effects for future generations.
Practitioners who do their own healing work are better equipped to support others.
Resources & Links
Website: https://becomingthemother.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becomingthemother/
Book a call with Rebecca: https://calendly.com/rebecca-becomingthemother/30min
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