Self Care & Support | The Psychology of Safe Love: What Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does with Phoebe Rogers
Have you ever felt your gut warning you about someone but your head talked you out of listening? In this episode I sit down with clinical psychologist and author Phoebe Rogers to explore the psychology of safe love and why rebuilding self-trust after separation starts in your body, not your brain. We dive deep into what happens when you begin healing after separation, why so many of us keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and how schema therapy can help you break free from the old relationship patterns that hold you back. Together, we unpack: The link between your nervous system and emotional safety in relationships; Why learning to trust yourself again after divorce is the foundation for love after divorce; What to look for when you’re dating after divorce and how to know when you’re ready; How your body often senses red flags before your mind catches up; Why healthy, safe love begins with reconnecting to yourself Because true healing after divorce doesn’t make you harder to love it makes you better at it. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Phoebe Rogers, Clinical Psychologist and Author of When Will It Happen For Me? Website Buy the Book - When Will It Happen For Me Roadmap to Love; trusting your gut again in dating Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.
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Anatomy of Divorce | Using Your BRAINS: Calm, Confident Choices in Divorce.
Feeling stuck or second-guessing every decision during your divorce? You’re not alone. In the The Anatomy of Divorce segment of the podcast, I share the B.R.A.I.N.S method a calm, psychology backed decision making framework designed to help you find clarity when emotions run high. You’ll learn how to: Overcome divorce decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm. Shift out of survival mode and make grounded, values-based choices. Avoid the 3 biggest decision making mistakes people make during separation. Use the B.R.A.I.N.S method (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing, Support) to create calm and confidence through chaos. Whether you’re navigating separation, co-parenting, or your next chapter this episode will help you reclaim your clarity, confidence, and power. Grab your free BRAINS printable and keep this tool close when you need it most. DOWNLOAD HERE. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.
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Anatomy of a Divorce: The Brain & Overthinking on Loop
Have you ever felt your brain working overtime desperately trying to project-manage every conversation, decision, and outcome of your divorce only to end up completely exhausted? In this first episode of The Anatomy of Divorce, I break down why separation sends your mind into overdrive and how the fear of uncertainty can trick you into false control. I share why your brain spirals into anxiety loops during divorce, and how knowing this can help you reclaim your calm. I'm introducing you to the Anchor-a-Day Method a simple but powerful practice to steady yourself when emotions run high. Think micro-moments of intention that bring you back to your body, your breath, and your sense of self. Download my free Daily Anchor Plan and start creating your personal anchor today. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King.
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Self Care & Support | Rebound Sex: A Step Forward or a Setback with Ben Schiller
Do you really need to get under someone to get over someone? It’s a question that often comes up after separation or divorce, and in this episode, I talk with Clinical Psychology Registrar – Psychologist Ben Schiller to explore if there is any truth behind it. We discuss the emotional pull of rebound sex and new relationships, why it’s so tempting to dive straight into something (or someone) new, and whether that really helps ease the loneliness and grief that can follow a breakup. Is it a distraction or does it help you heal? And how understanding our own emotional patterns can make all the difference. It's a BIG conversation with great insights. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Ben Schiller, Connect with Ben Schiller HERE Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now.
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Self Care & Support | Happiness and Divorce with Stephanie Harrison
Can happiness and divorce exist in the same sentence? If you’ve ever felt like your life was supposed to follow a certain script, find the one, live happily ever after, then this episode is for you. But what happens when that story falls apart? Are we destined to be unhappy, or is there another way? I’m joined by Stephanie Harrison, author of New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That’s Got It Wrong. Stephanie offers a fresh perspective on happiness, breaking down the outdated myths we’ve been sold, what she calls Old Happy and showing us how to create a New Happy, even in the wake of divorce. This episode will challenge the way you think about happiness, success, and starting over. If you’re navigating the grief, guilt, or loneliness that often comes with separation, Stephanie’s insights will help you reframe your experience and find hope in the possibility of a more authentic and fulfilling life. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Stephanie Harrison, Expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy, Author Connect with Stephanie Harrison INSTAGRAM | WEBSITE | PODCAST Order the book - New Happy, Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now.
Hi, I’m Nikki Parkinson, separation strategist, family law expert, mother of three, and divorcee. I’m also the creator of the Divorce and Separation Hub, a resource to show you how to turn a breakup into a breakthrough. On this podcast, I share my expertise from 25 years working in the family law system and my own personal experiences, together with the incredible insight and honesty of guests who have navigated relationship and marriage breakdown and divorce — not only have they survived, they have thrived. Learn the lingo of a lawyer, discover your worth, find your confidence and, most importantly, embrace all your emotions. The Divorce and Separation Hub is your place to feel safe, to feel seen and to find strength, and discover how the Australian family law system works so you can move through it saving legal fees and your sanity. Plus, we don’t charge by the hour! Tune in.
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