The Psychology of your 20s

Many of us are conditioned to believe that being described as kind, nice, accommodating and generous are the key to overall happiness. But when these traits veer into Good Girl Syndrome, we can be left with a pathological need to please others, be hypervigilant towards others’ emotions, and ultimately suppress how we really feel. In this episode, we explore the origins of Good Girl Syndrome, understand the mental and physical cost of emotional suppression, and learn how to challenge this early social conditioning.
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We unpack:
Why women are particularly vulnerable to Good Girl Syndrome
How trying to be liked shows up personally and professionally
The link between a high score on the Silencing the Self Scale and depression
Why it can be harder to break Good Girl habits as we get older
The ways we can challenge Good Girl Syndrome traits
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Our favourite sources:
https://reachlink.com/advice/general/good-girl-syndrome-why-compliance-destroys-mental-health/
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a34642791/good-girl-complex/
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/362662346_Appendix_A_The_Silencing_the_Self_Scale
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Ambition feels like my entire personality and I'm trying to fix that. Who are we beyond our ambition? In a world that only cares about success, output and productivity, what do we feel like we'll lose when we slow down?
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In this episode I explore:
The psychology of highly ambitious people
The lies that ambition tells us
How ambition steals your joy
How to value yourself beyond your output
What matters more than ambition
The way to slow ambition and why it builds more
If you can relate, this is the episode for you!
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
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Stress has a reputation for burning us out, torching our relationships and even causing our lives to end prematurely. But not all stress is created equal. In this episode, we explore the difference between eustress - good stress - and distress, understand why our experience of stress is rooted in our perception of it, and understand how we can harness stress as a powerful force for motivation, energy and well-being.
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We unpack:
• The difference between eustress - good stress - and distress
• Why avoiding stress can actually cause cognitive decline
• The dangers of too much stress on our bodies and minds
• The Yerkes-Dodson law and the ‘sweet spot’ of stress
• How we can reframe our approach to stress to create our own ‘biology of courage’
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Our favourite sources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&vl=en
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8384975/
https://www.healthline.com/health/yerkes-dodson-law
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We treat our memories like a reliable recording of the past. We remember what happened, how we felt, where we were, and what was said. But what if our account is more like a subjective recollection of events? In this episode, we explore the concept of false memories – how they form, why this matters in our everyday lives, and their more serious potential impacts.
We explore:
• The cognitive mechanisms behind false memories
• The misinformation effect and the car crash study
• Why our memories are open to imagination, repetition and social influence
• Potential consequences of false memories in news reporting and eyewitness testimony
• The importance of ethical therapeutic practices and memory
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Our favourite sources:
https://innocenceproject.org/dna-exonerations-in-the-united-states/ https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/memory-mind-and-media/article/fake-memories-a-metaanalysis-on-the-effect-of-fake-news-on-the-creation-of-false-memories-and-false-beliefs/B6A66A305AFD6724E1C1C56A68BB5CF2
https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0021-9010.83.3.360
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022537174800113?via%3Dihub
https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/BF03196174
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Why does feeling sad sometimes feel... so good? Whether it’s putting on the saddest song you know, rewatching a movie that always makes you cry, indulging in a little self-pity or finally letting yourself have a good sob, there is something strangely satisfying about sadness. And psychology may be able to explain why.
In this episode, we explore the surprising psychological value of sadness, including:
Why sadness can sometimes feel pleasurable
The psychology of sad songs and sad movies
The tragedy paradox
Why a good cry can feel so cathartic
Emotional suppression and why it exhausts us
Hedonic adaptation and why happiness loses its intensity
The surprising appeal of self-pity
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
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