Understanding how a child becomes a target | Interview with Anna Sonoda
In this episode, Jeremy speaks with Anna Sonoda, author of Duck Duck Groom, about how grooming works and how adults—not children—must be empowered to recognize and interrupt it. Drawing from her experience working with sexual offenders, Anna explains the four stages of grooming—flattery, favoritism, forbidden fruits, and fear—and emphasizes that grooming is intentional, gradual, and observable. The conversation focuses on the need for adult education, strong communication with children, and community-wide action to prevent abuse before it happens.Anna's bio.Anna Sonoda, an Emory University graduate with degrees in Anthropology and French Studies, earned her Master’s in Social Work from the University of Georgia in 2006 and became a licensed clinician in 2009. With experience counseling sexual offenders, working in mental health settings, and providing anger management and domestic violence treatment, she developed a deep understanding of grooming behaviors. This led her to write Duck Duck Groom: Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target (2022) and Duck Duck Groom: A Guided Journal, offering resources for prevention and survivor healing.Anna's links.Website: https://annasonoda.comBook: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0BYK4LV4QBelow are my links Website: https://jeremyindika.comPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.comTo supportMerchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayDonate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/Social mediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindikaX: https://x.com/jeremyindikaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndikaPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say linksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficialPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast-1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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I've recorded my session to teachers - please can I have your opinion on it please?
To book me for your school - https://jeremyindika.com/speaker-event/Many will disagree with me doing this. But with so many schools saying they’re worried to bring me in to speak to teachers because of what I might say or how far I might push the boundaries, I’ve decided to post a full recording online, so everyone can see exactly what I’m doing.This comes with a risk (potentially) because now schools can watch it online instead of booking me.But, everyone knows that this should be done in person because of the audience interaction and participation that I generate and I have faith that the schools see that too. Below are my links Website: https://jeremyindika.comPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.comTo supportMerchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayDonate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/Social mediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindikaX: https://x.com/jeremyindikaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndikaPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say linksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficialPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast-1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Uncle Brian made me feel special at 13-years old | How the grooming process can work on teenagers
“If you liked it at the time, then you can’t grow into an adult and change your mind when you look back at it” - is what I’ve seen many sections of society say.And they’re not shy. They comment on my posts from time to time.Their view (from what I’ve seen) is that if a teenager flirts and involves themselves at the time, then they know what they’re doing and can’t label it as abusive and exploitative when they’re older. This is a massive misunderstanding and I explain why as I review Leila’s brave story in my podcast.This is very important, links below.Original video: https://youtu.be/PLARjisxolI?si=waOJAwvS1QmkbqCiPlease support us over at @somethingtosayofficial with running costs at - https://jeremyindika.com/donate/To connect with Leila and buy her book; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leilalala07/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leila.ivesBook: https://amzn.eu/d/jcCEq8eSomething to Say linksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficialPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast-1Below are my links Website: https://jeremyindika.comPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.comTo supportMerchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayDonate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/Social mediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindikaX: https://x.com/jeremyindikaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndikaPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Men leading double lives that you'd never know about | I found my partner's illegal hard harddrive
Do you think you’d be able to tell if your partner was living a double life behind closed doors?Imagine what this woman is going through once she finds her partner’s illegal hard drive with 600 photos and videos of children. Links as promised below, 1. 40-year old man arranges to meet 14-year old girl - https://youtu.be/3PqvA2JjkCo?si=IyaG8BSJ1lGsVtR82. Huw Edwards had 7-year olds on his phone and escaped jail - https://youtu.be/0OYYVaj5uAg?si=IRtw8cjqnacMgaZ33. Rosie Nelson Survive and Thrive CIC, unfortunately I couldn't find the charity that she founded. Original video - https://youtu.be/rOUQKB1Lyfg?si=0nnVeVfoul0Ark-XBelow are my links Website: https://jeremyindika.comPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.comTo supportMerchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayDonate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/Social mediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindikaX: https://x.com/jeremyindikaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndikaPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say linksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficialPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast-1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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A critique on my school talk to see what’s missing and how it can be improved
To watch the live recording of my school talk - https://youtu.be/eAdkKhtyYkYTo find Rachel Carey,Rachel is passionate about developing strong mental health in young people and assists school in developing well-being programs that not only meet the statutory outcomes for RSHE but also help young people to understand and develop their own mental health, resilience, and self-worth.Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-carey-462569140Website: https://elizaeducation.com-----------------"It will never be good enough" - You may worry that this attitude means happiness can never be achieved, but that’s fine because happiness is not the aim with this.What you’re about to watch are two people dissecting my school talk in detail. Critiquing it and finding the ways for further improvement, with the overall goal of steering teenagers away from feeling hopeless after sexual trauma.Please come and get involved in this. The more opinions we collect, the better.Today’s generation appreciate us adults taking action around this.Below are my linksWebsite: https://jeremyindika.comPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say: https://somethingtosayofficial.comTo supportMerchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayDonate: https://jeremyindika.com/donate/Social mediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindikaX: https://x.com/jeremyindikaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyIndikaPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcastSomething to Say linksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficialYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficialPodcast: https://shows.acast.com/the-something-to-say-podcast-1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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